upgrade complete?
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Posted:Sep 5, 2007 9:48 pm
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2007 8:38 am
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Well, I spent awhile the last several days kinda upgrading my Affairlook self. Redid the profile a bit and changed some colors so that I didn't have all black and white, but I am still very envious of a bunch of the other pages I've seen. I guess that means it will just be an ongoing project as I learn more about upgrading webpages. Anyone got any opinions, ideas, or pointers?
Uhhhhh.... mind blocking up. Stresses on the other line and I need to go deal with them. I WILL at some point soon get back to the blog and leave a real entry of some sort. I hope tomorrow's time for writing goes better than today's.
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sigh.......
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Posted:Sep 5, 2007 12:50 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2008 6:38 pm
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Ok, could have done without that. I was writing a long post to put up about the long weekend I had and apparently I hit the wrong key and deleted the whole thing. It had taken like 35 min to write and now I don't know if I have the fortitude to write it again. And, I know it will only sound rehearsed if I do .
So, instead I will procrastinate for a min or two more and ramble to keep myself from real work. Unfortunately I have a crazy meeting to go to at 5:00 and it will last..... like 3 hours. Though I suppose I have to look on the brightside that it won't be as long as the 5.5 hour long meeting I had yesterday with my boss. BLAH.......
Today I am having one of those days where you are just physically and mentally tired and ready to just pass out, but even if you had the opportunity to pass out you'd be stuck awake and kind of just glazed over while staring at the ceiling drooling on yourself. Did I mention run on sentences; those happen too in said condition. Where to find the strength....?
ok, well I unfortunately have to pick myself up and do some work. I have to skim 100 pages or so of stuff before that meeting.....fun.
I promise I'll be happier later, say in about 5 hours. Maybe I'll post again then.
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Importance of S-E-X
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Posted:Sep 1, 2007 2:11 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2008 6:37 pm
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Does anyone else ever feel almsot pressured by sex on this website? Sometimes it feels like that is all this site is about. I've actually joined the site because I could do more than just browse here; I enjoyed all the magazine questioning, blogs, and more open messaging system. It is almost a turn off when I read a profile that is just people listing off how they love sex and listing off things they like.
Now....., don't get me wrong I love sex and being sexual otherwise I would have picked myspace or someplace of the like for this kind of stuff. But, I'd like to know something about someone before I know if their clit is pierced. Its like relationships where the other person stops dressing up or showering or something like that. On occasion ok, but you don't go up to strangers and tell them things liek that. Trying to hook-up is part of why people like it, at least for me anyways.
I know that I have written about games, which I am not changing my opinion on. What I mean is that when I meet someone where I can say I'm into her and she's into me then turning on each other and playing around the idea is part of the fun.
I sat here today and went through a bunch of profiles looking and seeing people in my area. It kinda felt like speed dating and I was surprised about a lot of things. Different things grabbed my attention and turned me off. I haven't done it yet, but I think I may have to go back and check my profile to make sure I haven't written anythign fucked up.
Back to the original topic..... I feel kinda torn on the subject of sex in the profile. Obviously the site is dedicated to sex and hooking up, which I at least partially like, but I'd rather have my profile be about me than a list of sexual conquests and requests. I definitely remember trying to put it into my profile and thinking I don't want to sound perverted, but I want to tell women that I love sex with the right person and that I get very into sex and being sensual, foreplay, etc.
I think it's part of the whole general dilema I have talked about. I am happy with who I am. People always tell you cut out the bullshit and just say what you have to say. But, I think that noone really wants to hear everything, and often the truth, at the beginning. People like to uphold some "perfect fantasy" that noone can honestly fullfill. And, when you do cut through the bullshit it sounds almost anal and business like.
I always feel the balance of business/logic and fun/letting loose. I wish other people were as easy going and understanding. I read a fun blog list by someone on my friends list that was by and "for women" about sex do's and don'ts that basically told people not to take it soo fucking seriously and just be understanding and thoughtful and realize that people aren't always perfect. Give a little leeway (sp) and be openminded when you hear, read, speak, etc. Kind of almost the opposite of being P.C. or at least message to all the people who are anally obscessed with being P.C.
k, well that's about enough rambling for today. I have to go to the gym and run a 5k or so. Gotta to get it in before I do a little paper writing for work and going to play poker later with a bunch of my friends.
As always, I'm not writing to get responses, but I know that other poeple's writing and conversing helps me. So, don't hesitate to let me knwo what you think.
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O raptious day
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Posted:Aug 30, 2007 10:00 pm
Last Updated:May 12, 2024 2:22 am
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Hurray for me. I got my first blog response today. Yeah, I know. It's not really that big a deal, but it's nice to know that I'm not always talking to myself. I think I do that enough of the time anyways. I also niticed I've been gettign a bunch of views lately too.
Moving on though. Todaay was a bit uneventful. I go tup early and thought to myself, "self, today is definitely not a work day." So, I didn't go to work. Now, before anyone thinks I'm a lazy slacker it's ok. I'm a grad student and I basically work my own hours. And, I work at least 50 hours a week most weeks over 5-7 days.
I didi have a bunch of stuff to do at work, but I just decided to o a few hours of it at home and then clean around the house and what not. It needed it what with my often working scheduole. So... scrubbed the tub, sink, other sink, picked up, did dishes, vaccuumed, set up grading for the class I teach (O-chem), and then I decided I needed to exit the apt for once and went to the gym. I ran 3 miles or so and came home to catch the home team kick some ass, GO TIGERS. Sadly the other home team beat my fav's, sad day in dolphin country .
I also spent a bunch of time surfing everyone's favorite website. Which brings me to what was actually on my mind today. What do people do for so long on this site? Don't get me wrong, I like to check in once or twice a day to feel looserly abotu not gettign mail and I also like to read advice colums, check who's new, etc. But there are some people who are always online whenever I check my account. Do some people actually surf the site that much? I'm not passing judgement on poeple who need to get a life or anythign like that, but is there that much to do on this site? If so, someone let me know what I'm missing.
Other than that I also thought about getting older because tomorrow is September and that when I get older. 12 days and counting till 27. I suppose I could be depressed, or I could be happy, but it seems to just be time. The only thing that does slightly depress me is that soo many people forget my birthday it seems. I don't really care about REALLY celebrating my b-day, but it's nice when people remember isn't it? I suppose it really only bothers me because I go out of my way to make everyone around me happy and to be a good friend that it bothers me that noone else feels that way about me. I have alots of good friends and even those that are more like family, but I always seem to feel liek I'm on the outside lookign in. Is that because there are just so few really outgoing people in teh world or ....... other?
Is it a rare thing in this world to find people who genuinly care? Sometimes I feel like an island because I never seem to find people like me that JUST care. When I was younger I really didn't understand much about people (though I suppose not completely better with that) and my dad told me that mostly poeple want to be heard, appreciated, and fele important. I learned a lot from him about being an honest, caring, jovial, friendly, loving person. It's funny cause I wasn't ever really close to him while I lived with him. He taught me a lot about being responsible, doing whaat's right, and being a good version of myself. Consequently, my life has ended up being fairly free of drama short of whaat I take in from other poeple and I am largely non-dependant on other people.
Which is really kinda funny in a fucked up sorta way because all I want most of the time is to have someone or ideally lots of people in my life who I depend on and know I can depend on. But I find myself always in control of life and always the person that helps others and others depend upon. When I was younger I was in love with the idea of beign in love, but it's not that anymore. Am I living my life too safe or have I really just prepared well for living?
Well this one is starting to drag on and get long so I'm gonna sign off for the evening and hope to get more views and comments from all of you out in TV land.
Later 
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THE game
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Posted:Aug 28, 2007 6:10 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2008 6:38 pm
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yesterday I found out that when I had been sending messages I had had my email in my signiture at the end and that it was keeping people from reading my messages. So I resent a few messages to people I hadn't heard back from, due to the mistake.
It was nice cause I hadn't heard back from anyone and I was excited in particular about one profile which was one of the main reasons I decided to join the site when I was checking it out initially.
It was extra cool because when I checked my account after a trip to the gym to run I found that she had messaged me back. I was psyched because she was very cool and we messagaed a couple times. All of this is great because I met someone in my area who I think I have a lot in common with etc...
There was a little witty banter and some bit o' connection and then I didn't hear back for a day or so and now I'm wondering what's up or should I send a message or give it more time.
It's odd because I am good at the talking and I think I am generally good people, but all the "rules" and waiting just screw with my head. I haven't really ever been a social dating machine and maybe I'm just not comfortable or confidant enough. Right now I think it's turning me into bonzo the crazy worrysome monkey. I'd like to message, but I always worry. "Did I say something that tuned her off?" "Did the messaging system fuck up when my computer hiccuped?" "Or, is she just busy?" Someone please just put me out of my misery.
Anyone have constructive advice beyond "stop freaking out"? How do other people deal with this. Do you just have to not care about the outcome? Is that the way people approach dating? I'm glad I care enough to worry because I don't take good people for granted, but not so happy with the actual worrying.
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I don't get how/why people do the "dating thing"...
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Posted:Aug 14, 2007 11:08 pm
Last Updated:Jan 29, 2008 6:37 pm
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Have you ever noticed that people don't act the same when they are dating/ looking for people to date/ going on dates? I've noticed that almost without fail people seem to be other people when they date. Everything seems so cliche and just really hard.
It seems like most poeple want to be happy, find someone they can be happy with, and share life; more or less. Though, when people date they become crazy selection machines. They think "I want this, I don't want that, I need this, I don't like that." And all it serves to do is make it hard to meet people and actually talk to anyone.
Noone makes friends like that do they?
I am just frustrated I guess. I really don't like being fake and I really hate all the red tape and pageantry of dating. Why can't two people just talk without having preconceptions of each other, what will happen, etc.
Does anyone else feel like dating gets in the way of itself? How does everyone else approach it? I'd like to think it's not something I'm doing, but I'm really starting to wonder about it.
I had a disturbing thought that I feel like George Costanza. I am always me and I don't often put on aires for anyone. I think I tend to rub people the wrong way when I meet them, but it's like when people get comfortable suddenly I'm a good friend. Has anyone ever seen that Seinfeld episode where George goes on about how he just endears himself after the magic # of dates. People hate him and then need him? I think I feel dirty that I had that thought (btw, I am nothing like George).
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To link to this blog (HokieTiger) use [blog HokieTiger] in your messages.
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, lol
