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Blogs > HokieTiger > The boy with kaleidoscope eyes

Importance of S-E-X  

HokieTiger 43M
282 posts
9/1/2007 2:11 pm
Importance of S-E-X

Does anyone else ever feel almsot pressured by sex on this website? Sometimes it feels like that is all this site is about. I've actually joined the site because I could do more than just browse here; I enjoyed all the magazine questioning, blogs, and more open messaging system. It is almost a turn off when I read a profile that is just people listing off how they love sex and listing off things they like.

Now....., don't get me wrong I love sex and being sexual otherwise I would have picked myspace or someplace of the like for this kind of stuff. But, I'd like to know something about someone before I know if their clit is pierced. Its like relationships where the other person stops dressing up or showering or something like that. On occasion ok, but you don't go up to strangers and tell them things liek that. Trying to hook-up is part of why people like it, at least for me anyways.

I know that I have written about games, which I am not changing my opinion on. What I mean is that when I meet someone where I can say I'm into her and she's into me then turning on each other and playing around the idea is part of the fun.

I sat here today and went through a bunch of profiles looking and seeing people in my area. It kinda felt like speed dating and I was surprised about a lot of things. Different things grabbed my attention and turned me off. I haven't done it yet, but I think I may have to go back and check my profile to make sure I haven't written anythign fucked up.

Back to the original topic..... I feel kinda torn on the subject of sex in the profile. Obviously the site is dedicated to sex and hooking up, which I at least partially like, but I'd rather have my profile be about me than a list of sexual conquests and requests. I definitely remember trying to put it into my profile and thinking I don't want to sound perverted, but I want to tell women that I love sex with the right person and that I get very into sex and being sensual, foreplay, etc.

I think it's part of the whole general dilema I have talked about. I am happy with who I am. People always tell you cut out the bullshit and just say what you have to say. But, I think that noone really wants to hear everything, and often the truth, at the beginning. People like to uphold some "perfect fantasy" that noone can honestly fullfill. And, when you do cut through the bullshit it sounds almost anal and business like.

I always feel the balance of business/logic and fun/letting loose. I wish other people were as easy going and understanding. I read a fun blog list by someone on my friends list that was by and "for women" about sex do's and don'ts that basically told people not to take it soo fucking seriously and just be understanding and thoughtful and realize that people aren't always perfect. Give a little leeway (sp) and be openminded when you hear, read, speak, etc. Kind of almost the opposite of being P.C. or at least message to all the people who are anally obscessed with being P.C.

k, well that's about enough rambling for today. I have to go to the gym and run a 5k or so. Gotta to get it in before I do a little paper writing for work and going to play poker later with a bunch of my friends.

As always, I'm not writing to get responses, but I know that other poeple's writing and conversing helps me. So, don't hesitate to let me knwo what you think.
Or...I might just be full of shit

Hope you can't help but find happiness, and pain can't find you even with help!

Check out my blog and give me a look loves hokietiger
rm__loveplay 58F
Ask me for a photo
801 posts
1/22/2008 10:57 pm

 To be honest, I have seen a lot of people on this site who actually say that others should not be here if they are not looking for sex. Whatever. I'll do what I want. I stick around here for various reasons. And one of those is because I like the fact that frank sex-speak is not forbidden. With that said, I'm not here looking for sex and I don't blog about it that often. Only if the mood strikes me. I might blog or post about my clit being pierced (which it isn't...lol), but I'm not sure I'd do that if it weren't for the anonymity. But that's just me. I'm a pretty open person, but I'm more of a voyeur than an exhibitionist...lol.

Anyway, I know this is an old post and I'm not sure if you've changed your profile since you wrote it...but I just took a gander and I think it's nice. But what do I know? LOL!

Very thought provoking post. It's interesting to read such things from a male perspective.

I wonder if BAW ever answered your questions...I'd be interested to know what her response was.


HokieTiger replies on 1/23/2008 12:38 am:
lol, Gigi? She's a trip. She's my best friend on here and one of THE premiere bloggers. I think everyone ends up there if they're here long enough.

Gigi loves sexual undertones, she loves playing and flirting, and is maybe the most fun person I know. The best thing about her though is that she is cool with whatever you want to talk about. I'd have seriously hit on her a long time ago if she lived within 1000 miles from me and not on the other side of the world .

My thoughts on sex here. I say fuck it. Say what you want. There will always be people here who think the same and there will always be those that need to disagree and complain. You will attract and be attracted to those that are like you. Once you find one you will probably find a string of others that know that one person. It's funny like that.

I also like that basically anything is legal here, and I take full advantage of it , lol.

If you want to see an updated profile, one of my recent blog posts is a copy of my current profile. I think I called it something like "who wants to see me?"

bad_assed_witch 109F
33758 posts
9/5/2007 3:46 am

 I have never felt the pressure of sex on this site .
~ The New & Improved Cocksucker ~


HokieTiger replies on 9/5/2007 7:33 pm:
I don't know if I meant "pressured" per say. It just kinda seems like that's all that a lot of people here think about, or write about. I guess it's just cause it's in every profile and it always feels like the elephant in the corner. I don't really want that to be the first and only thing to talk about, but then not talking about it doesn't always seem right either.

I have started playing with blogs a lot more recently though and those are a lot better. Though it does soemtimes get tiring to read nice poetry by someone (mostly by the really cool women on here), even if it is about sex or being sensual, and there are always like 20 posts from guys saying "yeah, you're hot... I'd like to do you."

Does that bother you at all? Or, is that somewhat part of the appeal to have random strange guys give random, even if on occasion lude, compliments? I know you have no problems saying what you think and letting it out.

I know everyone is into their own thing and has their own reasons and motivations here.....

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