I'm a 41 year old married guy who just had the long talk with his wife about being open in our relationship and it being a two way road. She has been seeing a guy for a while and it took me a little while longer to get out there. I'm a bit of a workaholic but I am starting to make room for myself in the schedule. I have taken classes and have been working out. I've been losing weight and eating better. I'm a happier person with all of it. I'm a consultant by trade and an aspiring writer. I enjoy getting out on the trails of San Diego and spending days at the beach. I like to hang out with friends who drink but I prefer to be the designated driver. I may have a drink early in the night but it can make me sleepy. I enjoy going to places that are noisy with music and good times but that have quiet spots to sit and chat.

My Ideal Person Hopefully you are a huge flirt and super funny. I dig a woman that is unafraid of people's judgement. Terrible at karaoke but love doing it anyway? Great you do you. You will hopefully enjoy sneaking kisses and getting all kinds of attention. I'm not obsessive but I don't want to be ignored while we're out. (Unless that is part of the game.)

You would hopefully be imaginative and ready to play.

What are your favorite musicians or bands?:
NOFX, Clifton Chenier, BeauSoliel, Ice Cube, Rage against
the machine, Pete Fountain

What types of sexual activities turn you on?:
Giving Oral Sex, Receiving Oral Sex, Anal Sex, Toys (Vibrators/Dildos/etc.), Rimming, Light Bondage, Spanking, Role Playing, Threesomes, Food Play, Voyeurism, Blindfolds

What factors are most important to you when looking for a sexual partner?:
Sexual experience, Ability to be discreet, Sexual appetite, Creativity/Kinkiness level

Ever fantasized about having sex with a celebrity? Who? What turns you on about them?:
No real celebrity attractions.

Have you ever had cybersex?:
I've tried it, but it's just not the same.

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