Does the Media Influence Bisexuality?
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Posted:Mar 29, 2015 9:17 am
Last Updated:Apr 15, 2015 4:58 pm
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I have no shame in admitting that I find other females attractive. I have even admitted to being involved in a few mff threesomes. For women, it seems perfectly acceptable to be a little bi-curious (cue every male fantasy).
According to a Boise State University research study, 60 percent of heterosexual females were physically interested in other women, 45 percent made out with a woman in the past, and 50 percent had fantasies about the same sex.
I fall into that 60 percent.
Sometimes I catch myself staring at an attractive woman at the store and contemplate my own sexuality. (According to society I'm not supposed to feel sexually attracted to other women) Would I date a woman? Doubtful, but I'm attracted to the beauty of other women — they're so much easier to understand psychologically than men. Women tend to form deep relationships through friendships, which some say are the basis of love. Personally I believe that emotional connection and physical attraction are linked — i.e., men tend to get more attractive in our eyes if they're genuinely nice.
When women are emotionally close to one another, romantic feelings and intimacy can develop. Does that make me bisexual? Not necessarily. According to researchers, "Women can be heterosexual and have interests, experiences or fantasies with the same sex."
Another study concluded the older a woman was, the more likely she was to describe her sexual preference as "unlabeled". This seems to support the notion that sexuality gets more, not less, fluid over time.
It goes without saying that the media does a stellar job of fueling girl-on-girl attraction. Who can forget Madonna's infamous kiss? Or the lyrics from Katy Perry's song, "I Kissed a Girl (and I liked it)?"
Women in the media are often portrayed as sexualized, so it goes without saying that women are used to viewing other women in a sexual way. I wonder how much of the attraction to other women is based on appearance and messages from the media, and how much of it authentic and genuine.
What do you think? Does the media influence and promote girl-on-girl attraction?
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Firepits, Smores and Red Moscato
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Posted:Mar 28, 2015 5:47 pm
Last Updated:Mar 29, 2015 4:40 pm
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It was a beautiful 73 degrees here today. Grilled salmon with a brown sugar glaze, rice and veggies for dinner then for dessert, I decided to be naughty. Yes, you guessed it- Smores! But only the authentic way would do. This required me to light the firepit in my backyard.
Of course I had to have a glass of wine so I decided to kick back with a glass of red moscato.
A perfect accompaniment to the smores.
The only thing missing is you. Feeling nostalgic.
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Sometimes You Just Need to Cum
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Posted:Mar 28, 2015 10:08 am
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2015 2:48 am
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It’s been one of those weeks. Those Weeks with a capital T and W because you want to put a clear emphasis on how much you need relief, any kind of relief at the other side of it. Copious amounts of chocolate, a long shower or a hot and foamy bath, or a good, clean and simple orgasm.
Orgasms are probably my favorite way of taking the edge off. Hand down the waistband, into my panties and a fast and furious flick of the clit. Usually, and amazingly, these make me cum the fastest – I like to think it’s because my body senses that it needs to let go and let go quite quickly. It may just be because I *want* to get there quickly, and I tense up my muscles and reach into myself to get the relief I need so much.
It’s what I did earlier this morning. It was a rather perfect moment to do so – living room empty, no one else in the house (apart from the cat, and I suspect she really didn’t mind – just a guess) and a couch all to myself. I stretched out, slipped my hand under my panties and worked my clit as the cat shot me a puzzled look.
The two orgasms I ended up having were slickly intense and left me feeling euphoric for a good long while after. Sometimes you just need to cum. It was the release that I desperately needed.
Well, that and the cinnamon roll I had for breakfast which was pretty amazing.
How about you? What are you up to this weekend?
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Communication Etiquette Defined for Men Who Just Don't Get It
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Posted:Mar 27, 2015 8:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 3, 2015 7:10 pm
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Happy Friday! I'm excited- the weekend is fast approaching. As a public service announcement, here are a few communication etiquette rules for men to help increase your odds of getting laid this weekend. Do you have any others you'd like to share?
(One photo should be included with this post. Check back if it's missing. I promise to replace it)
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Are You a Shoe Hoarder?
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Posted:Mar 25, 2015 8:11 am
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2015 6:01 am
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The other day I came across a survey reporting that the average American man owns 12 pairs of shoes, while the average American woman owns a whopping 27 pairs. That would make the national average about 19 pairs per person. Wow! Seriously?
Well, this statistic surely does not describe me. I've never considered myself a "shoe person" or fashionista. I don't even like shopping very much. After giving it some thought I guessed that I had maybe fifteen pairs of shoes. To prove it, I counted all my shoes — and took these photos.
Grand total: I own 22 pairs of shoes. I couldn't believe it. 22 pairs! 10 of which I use exclusively for running.
The worst part is, out of the 22 pairs I only wear five to six of them on a regular basis. The others I wear maybe once or twice a year. I found a couple pairs that I haven't worn since college. Sigh.
How did this happen? How did I end up with two identical pairs of sandals (umm... for back up?) and a pair of virtually unused sneakers that I've held on to for 10 years (dang, I'm getting old)? This is pretty wasteful — not just because of money spent and natural resources consumed, but because I'm underutilizing perfectly good pairs of shoes that someone else could appreciate.
Millions of people around the world have no shoes at all while the average American has nearly 20 pairs each. What's going on here?
It's time for a Stuff Check. I've decided to clean out my closet and give away my excess shoes. How about you? Sometimes we don't know how much stuff we have until we pull them out and take a look.
How many shoes do you own? Post a photo of your shoes as a reply and let us judge you! 
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Alive
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Posted:Mar 23, 2015 7:06 pm
Last Updated:Mar 26, 2015 6:43 pm
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Someone once told me to always live
for the little things in life.
Live for 5am sunrises and 5pm sunsets
where you'll see colors in the sky
that don't usually belong.
Live for road trips and bike rides
with music in your ears and
the wind in your hair.
Live for days when you're surrounded
by your favorite people who make you realize
the world is not a cold, harsh place.
Live for the little things because they
will make you realize that this is what
life is all about.
This is what it means to be alive.
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My "Odd Then, Fantastic Now" Aspect of Sex - The Sixth Virtual Symposium
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Posted:Mar 21, 2015 2:15 pm
Last Updated:Jun 16, 2015 4:26 pm
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Tomorrow is my birthday so I am posting my contribution to humorguaranteed Odd Then, Fantastic Now Is The Topic For The Sixth Virtual Symposium early as I have a full agenda. Hope you enjoy.
It goes without saying that our bodies contain a complex plethora of nerves designed to stimulate sexual pleasure. Even seemingly unlikely body parts can be intense pleasure centers when fully aroused. Rimming, also called anilingus, refers to making oral-anal contact. While sometimes a precursor to anal sex, rimming is a form of stimulation that can be its own means to an erotic end.
My interest in giving a rim job was piqued by my partner's enthusiasm and encouragement during oral sex. Because rimming increases risk for exposure to bacteria and disease, I normally wouldn't have even considered such a thing but we were in a trusting monogamous relationship, both freshly showered, and I was incredibly aroused at seeing the enjoyment I was giving my partner so I went for it.
Let me say that I am glad I did. Adding an unusual sensory element to the sensitive nerves in the nether region produced an incredibly explosive orgasm for my partner. Being sexually submissive, nothing gives me more pleasure than giving my partner a mind-blowing orgasm. Since then, I have been an occasional recipient of anilingus. While I enjoy receiving a rim job as a precursor to anal sex, I must confess that I enjoy rimming as a compliment to oral sex with my partner.
Many people mistakenly characterize rimming as an exclusively gay activity because of its association with anal sex, but in my research, I found that heterosexual, lesbian, and gay partners all enjoy rimming, sometimes as foreplay or on its own. Obviously, trust and communication, like all sexual explorations between consensual partners, are key components to mutually enjoyable rimming.
Like any sex act, it's vital to protect yourself and your partner by practicing safer rimming. Dental dams offer great protection against sexually transmitted infections (STIs). Condoms can be cut carefully down the middle to become an impromptu dental dam, and additionally, adding lube to the situation will help protect and add pleasure.
Have you experienced giving or receiving anilingus? If you decide to try anilingus, remember to play safe when it comes to using protection. Hopefully you will enjoy adding this experience to your sexual repertoire as much as I did.
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Would You Consider This?
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Posted:Mar 18, 2015 7:41 am
Last Updated:Mar 19, 2015 3:58 pm
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FYI network continues to baffle me with its season premiere of “Married at First Sight,” a reality show that lets experts match singles up with life partners. The twist: Contestants must marry the person they get matched with, sight unseen. The challenge: the newlyweds move in together for six weeks, then decide whether they want to remain married or get divorced.
The marriage “experts” on the show include a clinical psychologist, a sociologist, a sexologist, and a “spiritual advisor.” The group pool their collective wisdom to develop a lengthy personality test, which they gave to 625 marriage-minded singles. Dr. Joseph Cilona, the show’s psychologist, says the matchmakers used “CIA- and FBI-grade instruments” to evaluate everyone’s personalities and select three couples to act as guinea pigs in their social experiment. (The show is a remake of successful Danish TV program.)
What these "experts" are doing may seem like an arranged marriage but it is almost nothing like a typical arranged marriage. A traditionally arranged marriage, a custom that is still relatively common in countries such as India, is usually brokered by family, religious leaders or some other third party, but gives the couple a chance to get to know each other before exchanging vows.
The show claims it relies on science and data to create perfect couples; issues like appearance (or your zodiac sign) shouldn’t be important when someone is a match for you on a deeper level, their expert matchmakers claim.
On “Married at First Sight,” couples aren’t allowed to meet, see photos of one another, or even learn the name of their intended spouse before they’re literally walking down the aisle.
Proponents of arranged marriage, including a couple of the experts on the show, suggest that those types of relationships generally have a lower divorce rate than “autonomous marriages,” where partners pick each other.
I think this show is a potential social experiment gone wrong. What say you? Would you put your faith in the hands of so-called "experts" to pick your soulmate sight unseen?
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The Sun is Shining
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Posted:Mar 17, 2015 8:31 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2015 3:35 am
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In Kansas, that is. We had record highs here yesterday. I'm beginning to spend more time engaging in offline activities and less time blogging. This coming Sunday is my birthday. I talked to my and we are going to be celebrating both of our birthdays (hers is in October) with a trip to New Mexico for the Balloon Festival in October. Yes, October. Which means no vacation for me for a long time.
Guess I will have to incorporate some short weekend road trips to satisfy my wanderlust yearnings. For those who were curious, I had a doctor's appointment for my leg yesterday. It looks like I have a microtear in a ligament. I'm not letting that sideline me. I am doing some very lengthy elliptical workouts. Yesterday I managed to go 7.20 miles on the elliptical in 64 minutes which was boring as hell. I had to entertain myself people watching and silently judging gym goers. (My bad)
P.S. Happy St. Patty's day. Are you wearing green?
XOXO,
myelin36{=}
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Road trip
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Posted:Mar 14, 2015 5:21 am
Last Updated:Mar 18, 2015 3:37 am
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I am headed to Kansas City this morning. My will be accompanying me. We plan to meet up with my sister and have a fun girls weekend with her . I am certain a lot of shopping will be on the agenda.
We have a really nice hotel booked. My leg injury is slowly improving. I managed to get in just shy of 30 miles on the elliptical pain free this week. I'm looking forward to relaxing in the hot tub after being on my feet much of the day.
What's on your agenda this weekend?
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Occupational Challenges
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Posted:Mar 13, 2015 2:49 pm
Last Updated:Mar 17, 2015 4:22 pm
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I ran across a totally useless fact today. Did you know that female ferrets will die if they don't mate when they are in heat? I've been pondering that all day. I've come to realize that some women are in fact a lot like the female ferret. For instance, women diagnosed with severe Borderline Personality Disorder are highly suceptible to committing suicide when they feel rejected by a partner.
BPD is one of the most difficult and mentally draining types of diagnoses to work with. For those who aren't familiar with BPD, the symptoms include:
(From Psych Central) "a pervasive pattern of instability in interpersonal relationships, self-image and emotions. People with borderline personality disorder are also usually very impulsive, oftentimes demonstrating self-injurious behaviors (risky sexual behaviors, cutting, suicide attempts).
Borderline personality disorder occurs in most by early adulthood. The unstable pattern of interacting with others has persisted for years and is usually closely related to the person’s self-image and early social interactions. The pattern is present in a variety of settings (e.g., not just at work or home) and often is accompanied by a similar lability (fluctuating back and forth, sometimes in a quick manner) in a person’s emotions and feelings.
These individuals are very sensitive to environmental circumstances. The perception of impending separation or rejection, or the loss of external structure, can lead to profound changes in self-image, affect, cognition, and behavior. They experience intense abandonment fears and inappropriate anger, even when faced with a realistic time-limited separation or when there are unavoidable changes in plans (e.g., sudden despair in reaction to a clinician’s announcing the end of the hour; panic or fury when someone important to them is just a few minutes late or must cancel an appointment). They may believe that this “abandonment” implies they are “bad.” These abandonment fears are related to an intolerance of being alone and a need to have other people with them."
I used to facilitate a group for women with BPD. As a therapist, I see a great number of women who lack the resources and wherewithal to manage these symptoms and end up cycling in and out of inpatient mental health hospitals due to multiple suicide attempts. I have who did not follow through with treatment that are a statistic of this mental illness. Unfortunately, it's a tragic occupational hazard.
With this being an adult, sex-oriented community, I am sure that someone reading this has encountered an individual with BPD. Maybe you may have dated or even married someone who fit the above criteria.
These individuals need encouragement to seek out help. I don't know if you can tell, but it's been a challenging week. Thanks for allowing me to vent.
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Anxiety Affects Pets Too
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Posted:Mar 11, 2015 7:42 am
Last Updated:Mar 17, 2015 3:28 am
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From the late 20th century to the present, stress has become a catchword of a generation. For humans, it has become a lifestyle – and indeed the amount we have to do, and the pressure we are under, are worn with pride as a statement of our importance. Pets with whom we share our lives are also not immune to stress, however they do not have the same choices that we do to minimize or manage it.
Pets are known to be great stress relievers for humans, lowering blood pressure and decreasing anxiety and depression. That's the main reason I adopted my cat, Ceecee. However, lately, I've started to acknowledge that my cat may in fact have an anxiety issue.
Warning signs of a potential pet anxiety issue:
1. Excessive scratching. What once was confined to a small area on the back of a chair has now morphed to more areas on the chair and other furniture.
2. Excessive pacing. This morning I observed CeeCee pacing back and forth between the living room and her feed bowl in the kitchen 5 times in a 5-7 minute period.
3. Excessive grooming. Constantly grooming herself until she irritates a patch of fur.
4. Hypervigilence and exaggerated startle response.
Runs through the house as if she's seen a ghost or acts constantly "spooked". Jumping up onto furniture.
5. Open defiance. She refuses to comply with requests.
In researching potential sources of pet anxiety, common themes include:
Adding more pets, moving to a new house, frequent travel, visitors/parties, confinement, underlying medical issues or changes of any kind. None of these stressors apply to my pet. However, she does get very worked up when a bug such as a fly gets into the house. She will obsess over it, stalk it, and when given the opportunity, pounce and eat it. (Gross, I know).
CeeCee stalking a fly
I have decided to take a multi-faceted approach to stress management hoping this will help to calm her anxiety. Some of the ideas I am incorporating are:
Aromatherapy. Lavender essential oil can be relaxing – can be used in a scentsy warmer as long as the room is well ventilated.
Massage. Good to use on a daily basis for stressed cats.
T-touch. A form of tactile therapy often using circular movements of the fingers on the skin. Can induce a trance-like state in some cats, or can send them to sleep.
Herbal therapies. Valerian may help to calm cats.
Homeopathic. Best known is probably Rescue Remedy flower essence.
Have you struggled with an over-anxious pet? What approaches have you taken to help manage your pet's anxiety? What recommendations would you offer?
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