Au-revoir and goodbye!
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Posted:Apr 5, 2020 9:17 am
Last Updated:May 19, 2020 9:03 am
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It's been almost 2 decades when I joined this place and things have changed ever since. People that I came to know and cherished have come and gone. I have been quiet, I am not asleep. I have been catching up with my "followed" blogs every single time I logged in (despite its been months since I last did). I found myself wondering, after all these years, this place have not been beneficial for most standard members but throwing bricks and stones and I have put up with most of it.
Today, I came to the conclusion that this place is no longer what it used to be and I no longer wish to be part of it any further. My best experiences here holds a very special place in my mind and heart, and to many that I have engaged upon, I find myself humbled by the opportunity to get to know them up close and personal. I thank you for the pleasant times for those who I did cross path with in the chats and also to those who have commented on my blogs. I wish you well and continue to have fun while this place doesn't eat it's members alive.
As good times comes to an end, so is the ink of the pen that wrote this blog. This is stargatesg1_80 for the very last time, au-revoir and goodbye.
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When Being Humble Meant Nothing
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Posted:Jul 4, 2017 8:28 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2020 8:50 am
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“I was born and have ever remained in the most humble walks of life” – Abraham Lincoln
Whenever I come to this site, I told myself that there are so many things to discover and I need to carry some form of humility and try to be as humble as I possibly could when approaching anyone, both old and new. There are different people from all walks of life that carry different expectations and priorities when they are here. People change their mindset all the time, it’s like you won’t want to have the same course of meal for breakfast, lunch and dinner. That is the reason why you always approach people as humble as you can and fingers crossed that the other end would be kind and polite enough to let you in.
What I’ve encountered recently has so far never happened to me in the past before. I’ve seen a chap who approach a couple being humiliated by them (profile probably being handled by the male), posting private communication between the fellow and the couple public to humiliate him. Usually, one would be entitled to be humiliated when he/she behaves like an arrogant asshole during the approach. However, that is not the case… the conversation looked very decent (from my perspective as the couple posted the full message). The poor lad came with a proper introduction, a few praises to the couple and then the question of interest of communication. This couple hung this poor lad communication out to the public in response, and it was not pretty. The couples profile did mention that they are seeking couples or females and on occasion selected males to join in the fun. So the poor chap tried his luck. I believe that there’s plenty of other arrogant males messages that they can make an example of. Just clearly doesn’t understand why this poor lads?
What I am getting at with this… if someone comes up to you, showing respect, humility and being humble, would you smear the person like that out in the open? I don’t really see the point there. Why not just communicate back in private and a simple response of “No, thanks for trying” would suffice, no? Why take it out? Is being nice is no longer tolerated these days? Or perhaps being an ass is the norm that no one would want to sing about anymore these days?
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Was It Wrong To Give An Opinion?
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Posted:Jun 22, 2017 8:49 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2020 8:56 am
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"It were not best that we should all think alike; it is difference of opinion that makes races." - Mark Twain
It all happened right before my eyes as I endure public lashing for a review I made personally on social media recently. The catalyst to this is due to my recent visit to a newly opened mini-mart that sells nothing but imported junk food and drinks. It was the talk of town and everyone wants to have a visit and buy something out of the store. I hesitated on going to the mart for a few times, turning down invitations to visit due to the massive crowds going in and out of the place. Everyone wants a piece of action in the brand spanking new toilet.
On one fine afternoon, the crowd were not as many and I happened to pass by. So I decided to drop in and have a look what's the rave is all about. Immediately upon entering the store, the strong smell of bubble gum hits your nose. The more you smell it, the more you feel that you are going to barf. The mart is superbly disorganized. There are empty boxes everywhere, shop items were a big pile of mess, sticky floor, and puddle of water being left in styrofoam box (not sure how long has it been left there as there's a layer of dust on the water surface).
The shop indeed sells nothing but imported junk food and drinks. What hits my eye would be Tokyo Banana, the super popular custard-filled banana cake from Japan. Upon reaching out to grab a box, I found out that it's not the original Tokyo Banana! It's called Le Pan Banana which is made in Thailand and this counterfeit banana shaped cake costs heftily. Immediately I just had to let it go as it is not a price anyone would be sane enough to pay for. I wonder around further to the back of the fridge and saw plenty of people crowding around the nearly empty fridge. Everyone just crowds around there with lots of hoo hah's around... it's so bizarre! When the crowd disperse, what I saw is just a few cans of Japanese canned coffee. And again, the price is not something you would pay for much less for a coffee... in a can that is.
I stayed for a while longer and notice that there are plenty more overpriced junk food and majority of these junk food are imported from Taiwan, China and Thailand. There are a few placards placed around the store, written only in Chinese. As I am not Chinese educated, I know nothing about what the placard message is all about and not really bothered to find out what was written with the shopkeeper as there's onle ONE staff around manning the cashier. Without further wasting my time, I left the store... stumbling upon a few that's almost half my age, making lots of noise on the purchases that they have just made while blocking my exit path. Looking at those just hits me in the gut that the current generation of knows nothing about the weakening of the local currency and buying overpriced imported stuffs at the expense of their parents fortune.
I went home and told my family what I saw and they just went dumbstruck. Days passed and I went to social media to have a look at the store website. Mix reviews was given and I've made a decision to put a review of my own... in hopes that the business owner will understand the condition of their newly open mart and that they are overcharging food items than they should have.
The backlash came a few hours later from the marts petty fanatics... from saying that the store offers the BEST and CHEAPEST imported junk food in the region... to a very long winding statement of defense by another fan stating that I'm simply giving a bias review without understanding the condition of how the store is being managed, on item inflation how the items are reasonably priced, and to top it off that it's a shame to be a Chinese not knowing on how to read Chinese. Jumping to the mart defense is fine, but to the extend of saying my opinion is wrong is clearly not cool. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, be it right or wrong. My opinion is based on my sole visit to the store. Was it wrong to provide an opinion to begin with? I'm at a lost of words.
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When Communication Moved A Step Forward
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Posted:Jan 10, 2017 8:31 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2020 8:55 am
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17 months ago, I broke my long silence on a particular someone's blog after a long spell of being a silent reader. That single post revealed her being a Kopite, where we both have the same passion for a club that carries a significant history in English football. My heart fluttered and I was keen to let her know I too am a huge fan just like her, hence I made my very first comment on her blog. Her response came back with the ending of a YNWA... oh we know that the love for that club made us understand what it meant. Ever since then, I made myself known a little more over her blog by making several more constructive comments.
A few months later, she made a comment on my blog which is unexpected. A friendly comment over a trivial matter that I have encountered over in Affairlook. It was an indication that communication between us are moving a step forward. Despite she rarely hangs around the IM, any given opportunity if we happened to bump into each other there, we will struck a conversation. Silently, I wished for longer chats with her, but mostly... it was short but sweet.
She drinks. She bakes. She travels. She selfies. She holds a very artistic personality as she writes poems based on her feelings of the moment. She's an avid runner and not to mention... she accidentally hurts herself a lot too! It was all good. She suffers life set backs and failed relationships, but picks herself right back up and get herself right back into the game. A very colourful individual... sometimes, I don't have much to say in return but just to admire.
Our communication moved another step forward last week in our conversation over the IM. I was happy... very happy, to eventually reach another significant milestone. I asked myself if I deserve the amount of trust that she entrusted on me and thought it over for a few days. Came to the conclusion that, sometimes somethings have to start somewhere and we're now somewhere but plenty more to discover along the way. For me to find out, for her to know. 
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Happy New Year 2017
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Posted:Jan 1, 2017 11:52 pm
Last Updated:Jan 10, 2017 8:38 am
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With a blink of an eye, the year 2016 came to an end and here comes 2017. I'm not a huge fan of creating New Year resolutions when there's no intention to sticking on it and materializing it. You can say that I may not be a strong willed person, which I admit that I am not. I prefer to have a short term resolutions that can be achieved with greater results when done on a short span. Anyway, it's a brand new year with plenty to work on before the clock runs out. I saw an article lately regarding owning a 365 page notebook which requires you to spend some of your valuable day doing something significant and write it down. Good on them! And also good grief!! How do you manage to squeeze out some of the time you have to do that... as per the old says, "if you put your hearts to it, you can accomplish anything." I guess you could, with a little time management. Happy New Year folks!
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What's Wrong With A Little Politics
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Posted:Feb 24, 2016 6:12 am
Last Updated:Feb 24, 2016 6:18 am
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Chinese New Year finally draws to a close and everything went back to normal, be it at home or at work. Traffic snarls are back to the usual times and the buzz at work picks up steam as soon as you see mandarin orange are transitioning from the table to the garbage bins. Without fail, this is the time of the year for me and my organization to plan what we will be doing for the rest of the year. Then the question will pop up, will I get my promotion this year? And the answer is usually NO unless you've been manager's goodie good shoe shiner all the while. Playing the work politics, whether its clean or dirty, usually will end with someone getting a bloody nose. A few days back, a new hire threw me a question that caught me by a little surprise... why office politics exists and why should we even play it? Some of you may or may not agree with my entry here, different people have different takes on looking at it. And this is my take.
Office politics keeps the office going. You come to work, you poke your nose around for a bit here and there and you wind up being in the middle of the on-going office politics. It could be cursing on the managers "GOLDEN" employee that always do the right thing from his/her point of view, it could be a fake gossip about him and her having an office affair just to make sure you tarnish the person's reputation, OR perhaps just a straight up disliking on the managerial decision on something; it could as simple as the poor man's meal that the managers treated for lunch to as huge as having being passed on a promotion by your junior. Why can't it be a system that everything will fall in line as long as you did your part of your job? Nothing comes easy as we learn from it through years of experience. Curse all you want over it but a little office politics won't do much harm, depending on the scale of it being played on. It helps to build character as you learn the cold hard truth of how this world is really like. Nothing beats the feeling of serving of a blunt knife on a cold plate of harshness to the newbies as we tell them "It's such a pity that you live your life bested by a bedtime story."
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A "Meh" Year 2015
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Posted:Dec 31, 2015 2:34 am
Last Updated:Dec 31, 2015 9:30 am
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It has been quite sometime now ever since I last dropped a post here but for only the right reasons and obviously... timing, only then I am able to do so. For my fellow readers, I wish everyone of you an upfront season greetings of Happy New Year. The year of 2015 is coming to a close, only a few hours away until everyone in this world will slowly be greeted by the year 2016. I personally felt that this has been just a "Meh" year as there were things that could have been better and there are things that could have best forgotten. Yearning for a promotion at work that will never come as politics came in thick and thin. Then there were a mix of ups and downs with friends and family which I'm not really keen to write about at this moment.
From this site alone, plenty of encounters with a mix variety of people which I find it simply pleasant and humble on the instant messenger and blog comment exchanges despite the fact that I don't really meet people out in the real world from this site for quite sometime now (years perhaps?). A big TICK from the members of the site as they are getting more and more engaging. However, Affairlook is indeed being banned in this country hence to get to here, you either need to go through the sister site or simply adjusting your VPN to do so. That by all means is still a huge hassle, which could easily be a disruptive measure from drawing anyone interested out there to join this place and have a little taste of what this place could bring. It's an adult site and this place have a handful of decent people around and there are still plenty of those poor unfortunate souls that's on the receiving end of verbal abuse. Hopefully, come 2016, everything will sort out for the better. Cheers to everyone and have an awesome long weekend off with your loved ones.
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When Times Gets Tough
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Posted:Aug 23, 2015 9:00 am
Last Updated:Jan 1, 2017 11:45 pm
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Being a long term member here (it's been lapsing towards the 14th year), I've never encountered so much difficulties on this site before. In the past, members enjoyed the chat with anyone you wish on the Instant Messenger. The site then introduces a limit of 20 chat requests per day late last year. It's duly understandable that this is still a "pay to access" adult site, so I wasn't complaining when they began to restrict the number of chat requests that you can send out. Then this site pulled the biggest kicker of all times to limit down to 5 chat requests per day a few months back. The note on the messenger window were stating "Standard members can only start 5 instant messenger conversations per day. We do this to give our Gold members more access to other members." This is absolutely ridiculous. It's liking taking off all your limbs and arms and ask you to go fishing. It's hard enough to get people to respond in the messenger (I must add that there aren't many chatting members that willingly respond to your messenger invitations) and I've been careful with how I extend my messenger invitations when it was restricted to 20. With 5 per day, all my invitations going out has to be scrutinize to absolute diligence; reading up profiles to see if those profile are actually fakes which could lead to no response and throwing away chances of actually being able to chat with people here. It's rather sad to say that this site has decided to eventually pull such stunt when it was reported on CNN that the site has been hacked back in late May this year. Some members have been reeling out of here yet they decided to squeeze loyal members to the extreme by pulling such restrictions. What else is there to say other than to bare with brunt that this site has thrown at us? Times are getting tough and being a loyal member doesn't really pay... or was it that they prefer you to PAY UP?
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Knocking on Courtesy
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Posted:Jan 8, 2015 5:55 am
Last Updated:Dec 2, 2020 8:55 am
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"If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him." It has not been an easy ride throughout my tenancy in Affairlook in which I've been hurled racist remarks and abusive words by some women here before. Some were pretty bad to the extend that I have to even report them for abuse. You must be wondering if I've kicked the hornet's nest to invoke such situations. Believe it or not, I usually starts off my conversation with a simple "Hello there! May we chat?" The word "Please" can be easily seen by some as we're being sort of extremely desperate. Sometimes, when I look back, I asked myself... "If a man would carry any sense of dignity around here?" Who knows... that sometimes by making the goodwill gesture to the women first will eventually lead to a verbal abuse in return. Some would say that this is an adult site, you don't need any sense of goodwill. You go and get what you want, rudely and brutally. It's like going back to the ancient uncivilized routine of bashing the woman's head if you want to claim her and fuck her. My point about this post is nice guys don't usually come up first, you may end up being last. At the same time, you cannot be an asshole all the way. Play your cards right and hopefully, there'll be a rewarding end for both. And a very Happy New Year to you fellow readers.
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Breaking the deadlock
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Posted:Dec 20, 2014 3:14 am
Last Updated:Oct 22, 2016 8:55 am
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To get the first post up is always hard as there's a million and one things on your mind that you wanted to write. The standard opening posts comes down to a very general hello and personal introduction; or you get those who prefers to go-direct-to-the-point by story telling how their sex lives are. It's an adult channel... a medium for those who are eager to know of their own inhibitions and how far they can take it to. Secrecy and discretion is absolute unless you have a partner that shares the same mindset as you are. Else, a single mistake could probably cost you your personal life. Mingling with people who visits here have it's own ups and downs and I've personally been through the rough patch as well as sweet spots from this site. It's a place to let loose but at least know my own limits what people say or seek to either stay around or to stay away. I'm not here to tell the story of how I found my own sets of honeypots nor I'm here to discriminate and gave an endless rant of people whom the communication didn't turn out so well on. I'll try to keep my posts as general as possible... if possible! Have a great weekend everyone.
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