AFF poll....tell me about your journey....  

NewHere4Kink 47F  
623 posts
6/24/2020 10:26 am
AFF poll....tell me about your journey....

I’ve had great fun here with very few “negative “ interactions (however I’ve not gotten through my inbox so that MAY change). 💁🏽

I’ve met and chatted with some pretty cool people. I suppose I’m not finding whatever it is I’m looking for because I have no agenda. I don’t have a “type”. I like what I like.
Tell me about your experiences here.... you can vote or answer in full... either works for me. I want know what YOU know!
I’m having great fun.... it’s exactly what I expected/hoped for.....
It’s okay.... but not as fulfilling as I thought it’d be.....
I’m not really going in with expectations.... just hooking up...
I’m not hooking up as much as I’d like.... but I’ve had some luck....
No luck.....
New to this site so waiting to see....
Other (please explain)....

Thank you so much for visiting. Hope to see you again soon! {=}

Gbmtnbike 48M

6/24/2020 11:25 am

Maybe you can assist ?

NewHere4Kink replies on 6/24/2020 6:18 pm:
Thank you for replying. 🙃

undercover_bi469 55M
619 posts
6/24/2020 1:43 pm

Biggest problem for me is timing. I don't have a lot of free time, and most of the people I'm interested in don't either, our free time never matches up.

NewHere4Kink replies on 6/24/2020 6:19 pm:
I get it... I’ve found many people that seem to go through cycles of availability... thank you!

JustLookn439 54M

6/24/2020 2:21 pm

I have been on and off the site.

First time, many years ago, found a couple of women that played with me for years....wonderful times

Second round, met a number of women but COMPLETELY misrepresented who they were (OLD PICS, older women)

Third round, site has changed making communication nearly impossible. So, many fake women it is ridiculous. Of the few that are "real" most of the Female profiles should actually be couples since they only play with their hubby/boyfriends involved. Many even CAM with their male partners in the background (fortunately I can sneak peak without paying points). The remaining female profiles that don't fall into the above categories are ENTERTAINERS for the men.....they chat, they blog, but most state "not looking to meet".

NewHere4Kink replies on 6/24/2020 6:18 pm:
Your experiences seem to cover it all! I’ve had some similar situations.... and what’s up with those “entertainers” they snuck in anyway? 🤨

superbjversion2 65F
20641 posts
6/24/2020 2:50 pm

My experiences here can't be quantified by a simple poll. I've had a lot of luck - some good, some bad. I've made some platonic friends, I've had several long term FWBs, had a toxic affair, and even fell in love once.

Sex is to Fun as Square is to Rectangle

NewHere4Kink replies on 6/24/2020 6:15 pm:
Oh good.... you’re definitely in the “other... please explain “ category and I’m so glad you did. Thank you for sharing.

13145 posts
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NewHere4Kink replies on 6/25/2020 3:55 pm:
Thanks Jack!

justaguyinalaska 54M  
645 posts
6/24/2020 4:11 pm

I find this community endlessly fascinating- in exhilarating, comical and at times mortifying ways. While there is a lot (and I mean A LOT) of screening, sorting and relationship-building required, I have found (and continue to find) attractive, thoughtful and sexy connections here.

My take-away and advice: stop thinking about Affairlook as a "sex site". Approach it as a "friendfinder" site and you will be rewarded.

JustLookn439 54M

6/24/2020 6:57 pm

    Quoting justaguyinalaska:
    I find this community endlessly fascinating- in exhilarating, comical and at times mortifying ways. While there is a lot (and I mean A LOT) of screening, sorting and relationship-building required, I have found (and continue to find) attractive, thoughtful and sexy connections here.

    My take-away and advice: stop thinking about Affairlook as a "sex site". Approach it as a "friendfinder" site and you will be rewarded.
It kind of depends on what you really expect, doesn't it? If just looking to chat and message someone, I guess the world is at one's disposal. But as far as even that goes, we can't easily build relationships when you get no responses to initial "hello." I am sure many men are rather crude from the get go; I am not. So, no real reason for women to be put off by that. Distance shouldn't matter if they don't plan to meet, but that hasn't helped either.
By the way, you're in Anchorage. I am thinking there aren't a lot of women up that way! But you may still have more than New England! LOL

LordMandrakeJB 64M  
491 posts
6/24/2020 9:58 pm

Being here for over 16 years, I've seen it (Almost) all. LOL I've have a few hookups, fell in love (Didn't last), made a lot of friends, and had a few lovers. Now I look for FWB, but also very selective. Can actually count my FWB on two fingers, and both not local. So more like naughty sextexters, I guess.

I have also developed some close friends that have turned platonic, and that's okay. Used to be a fun place, but now you have to watch who's communicating with you. I mean, let's get real. What 20 something year old hottie wants to hook up with a early 60's single guy for just fun and laughs. Last I looked, nothing in my profile says sugar daddy. ROFLMAO

Would love to find someone who wants to do things when we aren't having great sex.

NewHere4Kink replies on 6/25/2020 11:34 am:
Those greedy scammers don’t deserve a great guy like you! 😡
That would be amongst the FEW negative experiences. The scammers and the people who seem cool but set out to deliberately mislead (for whatever nefarious purpose).

I’m happy to call you my friend after all these years! 💋

MyBaffies 50M
4352 posts
6/25/2020 2:01 am

Been here on and off since 2003. Met a couple of women and have made a few friends - most in the chat room, one or two offline.

Not really looking for anyone any more but wont rule anything out if someone interesting comes along. So I read the blogs and make a few posts myself now and then.

Until the site starts charging to enter the chatroom or read the blogs then I'll be logging off.


My Blog: MyBaffies

zeke53028 61M  
1107 posts
6/25/2020 4:51 am

I have no expectations at all. If I meet someone, fine. If I don't that's fine too. I use Affairlook mostly as a time waster. There are to many fake profiles to try and sort out.

CaIrishMermaid 45F  
52 posts
6/25/2020 4:37 pm

You can find a little bit of everything around here. I say that all the time, like you, that I have no agenda. Just got to enjoy what you can from the ones that are on the same page as you.

Nocondomswanted 56F  
141 posts
6/25/2020 5:15 pm

I have gotten exactly what I was hoping for on this site. My only issue is there are not enough hours in a day/week/month/year to spread my legs for all the interested guys. But I am working hard at it!

Yours_4A_knight 55M
1378 posts
6/25/2020 8:07 pm

I am sadly not someone that the women in my area consider attractive enough

Not the Whole Truth but the truth that I can see.

Photog007 58M
1 post
6/25/2020 9:17 pm

I've had No Luck. I've had about 10 women try to scam me out of money. Chat for a couple of weeks, then tell me they aren't currently in my area, but in So. Africa working for Unicef . . . They are about to come home, but shockingly they just had their wallet stolen. Could i help them? They say that they have nobody else to turn too. . . . Yes, almost the same exact story from all the women . . . Then there are women who I guess just want attention. . . They keep sending me flirts but won't respond back to my messages . . .

CleanSeedFlow 39M
53 posts
6/26/2020 12:04 am

Well I have had some luck, during the off and on times I have been on this site. Met 2 wives on here, a few girlfriends one when I was 30 and dated a 41 year old for 3 months. Had a x-fiancé who was in her late 30’s when I was 30 as well that lasted a year. Had a fling with a married woman back in 05 when 1 was 25 and she was 49. Also back in 2013 had a fling with another married woman while her husband was in the parking lot.
Then another woman in Henderson that was back in 2011.

3200Ram 39M
200 posts
6/26/2020 3:43 am

I met very less people .. here lot of fake couple profile and single profile.... lot of free cam chat site came.. people not come here... here very less discuss happened...

harold51754 66M  
14 posts
6/26/2020 4:24 am

Availability is the key to enjoying others here. I am 1 hour drive from a Metropolitan city. In my local area there are a few active women and lots of men, so they can be selective. Hottest prospects are couples that tend to seek each other discretely. My greatest success is meeting men that love to suck cock. Fortunately I am able to host those that have limited availability. I still want to meet a couple that enjoys a close friend for both.

Somewhatshy0907 45M
17 posts
6/26/2020 5:12 am

Fairly new here so still trying to figure out how to navigate through all this. Going in without any expectations.

old_stick 58M
43 posts
6/26/2020 7:10 am

Been visiting here for quite a while but don't seem to have got off the start line yet

Suprcuk49 59M
133 posts
6/26/2020 8:51 am

Nothing yet !!

wannaplay4198 53M  
55 posts
6/26/2020 9:58 am

If your not a gold member you can't do anything on here

Woxfoods 50M  
1 post
6/26/2020 11:17 am

newbie (less than a month on) trying to make new friends and contacts

SomewhereSE 62M
235 posts
6/26/2020 11:33 am

This is a place best explored without expectations of any kind, bad news to most men here because they fell for the sites marketing of easy access to sex and get nasty and rude when they find out it’s not true. Not all of us are social skill deficient jerks and losers, take your time you might find someone here worth getting to know.

I haven’t met any women here in quite a few years, but it wasn’t like that before many better smartphone options/apps came into being. and now fewer women than ever anywhere near me. Numbers on mainstream sites have dwindled as well, just a sign of the times.

Not been worth paying for gold in a long time, though I do from time to time so I can read profiles and keep in touch with a few far away women
I have gotten to know over the years by way of participating in groups, blogs and the Advice Lines. That’s really the only reason I’’m still here.

joewantssub 49M
29 posts
6/26/2020 4:46 pm

Used to be a good site but now seems to be a hangout for bi/gay men posing as females.Only come on here now to expose the local catfish@Philip Young aged 64 from Tamworth AKA RomanianwifeUK, PennyPenn, star 19 47, muskateera 😉

s2ndegree 61M  
9742 posts
6/26/2020 10:05 pm

Not interested in any one here.To much access to people's opinions,complaints,gender bashing,made up scenarios and
the fact that adults won't even show their faces.The sites
extremely deceptive so it encourages the same, sadly!

Using more than all the road!

brandini734 26M
175 posts
6/27/2020 12:28 am

So far from my experiences here on Affairlook they have mostly been positive and I have had fun with swinger couples and singles. The only downside is that you have to pay for simple features like im or messaging. Also this quarantine isn't helping much but it's a necessary safety move.

passingthrough98 66M  
15 posts
6/27/2020 2:03 pm

way too many spammers and players that just want to talk about sex on a computer or jack off to pictures.

SassyAshy84 36F  
17 posts
6/27/2020 8:51 pm

Not going in with a lot of expectations, and have made great friends along the way.

SuckMy8Plus 55M  
248 posts
6/27/2020 8:51 pm

I'm Not here to meet anyone, but good luck if you are. I'm just here to show videos of me masturbating. It's a load of fun.

letsplay71563 57M  
37 posts
6/27/2020 9:25 pm

I have been on here a couple times and have chatted with some very nice women. Have met one or two and remained close with one. I hate to say it but there are a large amount of fake profiles and it seems the fake ones are the ones that send messages. But overall I cannot complain to much. I do think this will be my last cycle.

tastemeY 54M  
60 posts
6/28/2020 3:41 am

I've been on here since 1999, (21 years) AND have met many wonderful people of all race, male, female, couples, for great times and friendships, along with good clean safe sexual fun with many.

I have had very few bad experiences, and have enjoyed the journey and eXXXperineces that Affairlook has given me.

Jedrink505 65M  
14 posts
6/28/2020 5:02 am

I have found some really interesting couples. Ones that I definitely would hook up with----------the only trouble is they live half way to Mexico. And sadly enough, most of them don't have Lear Jets!

Twinker466 19M
12 posts
6/28/2020 7:58 am


TB5758 62M/63F  
540 posts
6/28/2020 10:41 am

We have met some really nice people and unfortunately some real knuckleheads. It is like anything else, take the good with the bad. Overall it has been great.

orgmaker2020 53M  
58 posts
6/28/2020 4:17 pm

Met a very sexy black woman here, we were both in unhappy marriages at the time. We got into all sorts of trouble here, 3sums, 4sums, parties. We both got divorced, shacked up together, but we were just from entirely different worlds, with completely different world views. Our sex was some of the best we both experienced, but as I told her when we were breaking up, we were both each others underground railroad conductors, getting each other out of very unhappy bondage, and we had to move on.

I landed on my feet, but lost my job during the 2008 Bush crash. While collecting unemployment. I found my current wife here. I told her all about me and Affairlook. We had some rocky times while I learned how to be a good boyfriend and eventually a husband again. I had a LOT of fun here after the black gal, and so did the women I met here. I got into some bad habits, and truly, let's be honest, Affairlook is all about the bad habits.

I am still here because I like to enjoy the culture vicariously. I haven't played in quite awhile, and with Covid I am not meeting anyone new. This place works if you don't play a lot of games. Like I said, it's all about being bad, so for many people that means a lot of relationship game-playing. And if I am being completely honest, that can lead to some wickedly good fucks, but overall it has been more fun for me when I just put myself out there, and when I was truly single.

devilinhereyes72 48F
207 posts
6/28/2020 6:25 pm

I’ve had a few hook-ups.. timing with the lockdown made things more difficult... and I’m picky.

6 posts
6/28/2020 9:25 pm

Most people are too far away from me. Too many young girls "clicking on my profile". I can see most don't even read it.

redy2plzu6969 66M/57F  
67 posts
6/28/2020 9:50 pm

Very dissapointed with Affairlook. Been on here for 8 years. Only one hook up during that time. Way too many men in competition for the same thing. In a survey of online dating sites I have read that Affairlook is 68% men. The highest in the online heteral sexual dating industry. Also they charge for every little thing they can get away with.

Nosmalldixsalwd 51F
2 posts
6/28/2020 11:18 pm

I have been on here several times. I have had many great encounters and only one negative. i feel like the site itself has gone down hill but the people are still great.

DoctorBooty 39M  
6354 posts
6/29/2020 7:16 am

Over many years I've met many women here, some great, some OK, a few bad ones.

I might not be getting quite as much sex as I need but I am getting it regularly from women I met here.

Hahaha0830 39M  
4 posts
6/29/2020 8:17 am

explanation to my other vote. every message I send is rejected

aint1yet 53M  
8 posts
6/29/2020 10:37 am

Been off and on here but no real luck. Did meet one lady here but i feel most in my area are looking to acquire a sh!# ton load of friends or get me to cam with them (which isnt really my thing).

sussi1028 59F
764 posts
6/29/2020 2:35 pm

. . . I voted
Affairlook is perfect for me, it is about SEX and LOVE and when I travel I am able to find the right men and bi-girls At home I have my college friends who love me and yes, I do also meet up with one or the other local person In one word Affairlook is PERFECT!!!
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It is like with names vs numbers, both have its advantages Sex Partners we remember by number and not by name

It is all about LOVE FOR ME!!!

.. ;; ..

My new dream man roughboy4slutmombut I also like Yardstick236& Greatwhitecock4 despite their age, just watch the videos and you know why
My Favorite Way To Play [group_post 2309728] Continued atWhat an exciting weekend, what an awesome night Part II

hardcocknme76 44M
20 posts
6/29/2020 11:52 pm

I get a lot of pretenders I once lived in KC an I found 1 real player everyone else talks a big game but I have yet t9 meet anyone in ny maybe if ur close u can tap into me lol

69ereatwetpussy 58M  
3676 posts
6/30/2020 6:39 pm

I enjoy the sight
im meeting new people
some are fake most are to far
love reading blogs too
even nicer when they reply back
ill be around for awhile that's for sure
even thought ill stay a standard member
and don't get the best of Affairlook like I did
thank for your post xoxoxoxo Thomas
have a wonderful day tomorrow

fahrenheit451x2 57M
80 posts
7/1/2020 3:20 am

A little less conversation and a lot more action.

Azbear1969 51M
77 posts
7/1/2020 8:07 am

Overall, it has been good. I have met quite a few people here and become friends to talk with and then I have met some whom I have had sexual encounters with. The sexual encounters have been great. Currently have one person seeing regularly each week.

UrMan4Fun2020 37M
34 posts
7/1/2020 11:04 am

Any advice for someone who is fairly new to the site?

TheElitesTRIAL 26M
105 posts
7/1/2020 2:06 pm

just making friends

English is my second language, Cunnilingus the first.
kik TheElitesPDeep

khan201972 53M
255 posts
7/2/2020 8:40 am

what am i doing wrong, the only women interested live in the USA I have had no relies from anyone anywhere in UK!!!!

rolliethegoalie1 49M  
1 post
7/2/2020 1:37 pm

My overall experience has been mixed. About 9 years ago I was on the site while in a stage in life not wanting anything serious. Had a few hookups and found a real FWB with whom I would do fun things outside the bedroom and a whole lot of fun inside. I learned from those that I’m just someone who craves more depth than a hookup. Got off Affairlook for years and now back for about 6 months and it’s a real struggle to even get anyone to respond and 75+% of those that do are fakes. I’m always respectful in my communications and always read profiles to make sure I fit what they want as well. So is it just me, am I doing something wrong, has the site just gone that far downhill, or just bad luck?!

xNewsPhotog 58M  
210 posts
7/3/2020 2:38 am

Met a few, but not as many as I'd hoped. I am seeing more "fake" profiles on here than there used to be, but so be it. Good luck in your search,

Pepper_Pott 36F
165 posts
7/5/2020 12:50 am

it must be perpetually incredibly cool to be as shallow as you🤣

2newbysrcurios 45M/42F
44 posts
7/5/2020 2:11 am

Ive been on and off this site for since about 2010. Met a few nice nice people . My biggest issue is with the site itself. They keep changing things and limiting everything like chat's, messages, flirts, friend requests, profile viewing. now making everything gold member only.. Yes it was limited back a few years ago, on responding to messages etc, but you could still read all of them, had a certain number of "profile views" per month even as a standard member.... It was so much better here a few years ago when basically everyone could still be able top connect.

lighthousecollec 58F  
658 posts
7/6/2020 8:23 pm

I was on years ago and meet a lot of great people at the meet and greets and I did have a few relationships. This time around, meet a few and not finding what I am looking for.

I have set up a private mailbox on my Blog for your convenience.

s2ndegree 61M  
9742 posts
7/17/2020 6:14 pm

I never had any intentions of meeting anyone here.I was happy to find a place
to be able to write a blog, read profiles and get a better understanding of why a person would choose a site like this.What I found out only bolstered my initial intentions,which is a success in it's own right.
I've always had a face picture and one that wasn't from my past.I never lied about my age which of course to this day has saved countless numbers of people from
wasting any of their time even reading my profile.
I know my honesty has no place in a deceptive medium.
It's a transparency that few can afford in a sex for sex sake world!

Using more than all the road!

Lookinforfwbpg 38M
22 posts
8/9/2020 1:10 pm

It has its moments so it's not all bad by any means

Lookinforfwbpg 38M
22 posts
8/9/2020 1:11 pm

It's been decent except microtransactions or the pay wall

Petebestgone 62M  
4 posts
8/12/2020 4:01 am

I've had some success here but not with the women I really want.

OneNutWonder1984 36M
2 posts
8/23/2020 11:24 am

New here so I'm still waiting to see how things go. Currently a standard member as funds are tight atm, but I've added pics and working on verification/confirmations, answered most of the questions available.

Is there more I should be doing to make the most of the free account or is this site mostly reserved for those able to spend on gold upgrades?

attygurl_27 64T
50 posts
9/5/2020 1:13 am

Any time I've invested the time getting to know people here things have worked out for me. When I want more I put myself out there for more. I have no complaints about the site.

Become a member to create a blog