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goin' around the barn.  

wickedeasy 74F
11204 posts
6/10/2012 11:51 am
goin' around the barn.


there are times in everyone's life when you have the perfect thing to say. it would sweep the legs right out from under the person who's baiting you. or take the room to a dead quiet.

times when just a few words could kill a bully's lies or trample a reputation into the ground.

sometimes it's knowing a secret, but often it's just having the words. being a tad smarter or quicker on your feet.

when i was younger, i'd often think of those words on my way home, or in bed that night and i'd groan...why now, why not then when i could have spit them out venomously and looked like a hero or at least not looked like a wimp.

i knew a girl named polly who used to have the comebacks. delivered with just the right zing. and a small self deprecating laugh. no one ever seemed to get angry with her. it was a talent for sure.

i am not that way. i can feel the anger inside of me and i know that my delivery will not be pleasant or self deprecating. it will be snarky and rude. i try to avoid zingers because zingers get me into trouble. i go for the underbelly with something else....

i know i just can't leave it alone. it isn't in me. to walk away from ignorance without at least attempting to change it? so i do what my grandpa use to do, i tell stories. and as i wrap people up in words that seem to make their point, they can't really hold to their point and be sympathetic to the people in the stories. and to be unsympathetic to the people in the stories, well it makes them look bad and eventually, my point is made.

my grandpa called it going around the barn. my mother would have called it giving people a way to agree....lol. all this comes with time and years of being in situations that i found uncomfortable and many, many times when i shot out an answer that lost me support or got me bad press or just made me look like an asshole.

still, i sort of miss the fire in the hole me. it was less refined and certainly had poorer results overall but it was a time when i just did what i did and said what i said.

i am looking forward to being 80. i intend to go there again. and while i do not intend to dye my wisps of hair purple, i will most likely be significantly overweight, live on pie and pinot grigio and laugh often, say exactly what i think and do exactly what i want and you all can kiss my quite likely larger than it should be but delectable none the less ass.

snork.

You cannot conceive the many without the one.


jim50plus 66M
2358 posts
6/10/2012 3:04 pm

I've found that "your mama" is globally insulting, so if you could figure out a way around the barn with that one I would be set for life.


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 11:55 am:
lol

well you can start a story about your mama and then his mama and then the mama of all mamas the virgin mary.........just sayin', when you go round the barn, you can keep talkin' til they agree..........


LadyLuck2 67F  
9091 posts
6/10/2012 4:09 pm

Why wait until you're 80? LOL

Never ignore those who care for you
you will have lost diamonds
while you were collecting stones


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 11:55 am:


i have to say, i don't always.

rm_19harley86 74M
45446 posts
6/10/2012 4:21 pm

I don't act like my mama or daddy

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wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 11:56 am:
i am so much like my mama, it's scary

WilderThanU2 63F
2740 posts
6/10/2012 6:12 pm

I've never perfected goin round the barn... By the time I do, I'll likely be 80 anyway. Funny, I've never lost any support that mattered by telling it like it is or sayin what everyone else only dares to think and several surprising times I actually gained unlikely support therefore the rewards have always been greater than the cost. And I call that a bargain.


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 11:58 am:
my job is very political in a town that is run by men. i learned my lesson the first week. now i know how to get what i want.

and occasionally, because i've been there awhile now, i also get to just tell it like it is........winks

rm_mutiger2009 69M
2853 posts
6/11/2012 7:38 am

    Quoting LadyLuck2:
    Why wait until you're 80? LOL
I agree with LL2! Why wait until you're 80, WE? Stir it up, girl!


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 12:06 pm:
oh muti, when have i not stirred it up? they just think i'm being nice while i do...no harm in that..winks

canyaz 56F
17128 posts
6/11/2012 4:31 pm

I like how you think....I plan on having lots of Moxie. Much more than I have now. When I am 80, I hope I get to sit next to you clinking my glass to yours and sharing a sly smile.

There is a difference between a good BJ and a bad BJ.
canyaz


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 12:07 pm:
me too GF, i can see us making trouble and buying the latest in horsehair whips!

chas4037 75M
4119 posts
6/11/2012 7:24 pm

ah, for an opportunity to kiss that "delectable none the less ass."

I was chatting over dinner tonite with someone who proved to be somewhat way right of Atilla the Hun. I did not go around the barn very far, in telling him he was wrong, and explaining why.

Did I convert his thinking? NOPE

I've decided, this election cycle, that I'm not going to be polite when dealing with idiots. They sure don't deserve it.

All it takes, for the forces of evil to triumph, is for enough good people to do nothing!

parapharased from Edmund Burke, I think.
Chas < who is still thinkng about your delectible ass!


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 12:09 pm:
well now chas, politics is a different kettle of stinky fish. it's hard to be subtle with politcs. i was thinking more about getting what i need for my agency.

when it comes down to this election, i get a wee bit heated. goin' round the barn takes too long then.

rm_mutiger2009 69M
2853 posts
6/12/2012 9:44 am

@ Chas4037 - I'm to the right of both Rush Limbaugh and Attila the Hun. Like you, I never go around the barn or beat around the bush when it comes to discussing public policy and comparison of liberal and conservative approaches. Why waste time going around the barn when you can just set the damned thing ablaze and go right on through it?! LOL.


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 12:10 pm:
was listening to NPR - iknow, i know

new book out, America, you sexy bitch......check it out

smartasswoman 66F  
35813 posts
6/14/2012 7:01 pm

Third vote for not waiting until you're 80

I've seen that syndrome at my workplace with people who are a few months away from retirement. All of a sudden they get really outspoken about stuff that they've been keeping their mouth shut about for years. It's delightful.


wickedeasy replies on 6/15/2012 12:15 pm:
uh huh.

i remember a woman who asked me if she should marry this particular dude. i said, only if you want to be a divorcee before you're 35.

we haven't spoken since. she is on her third marriage.

that's where goin' round the barn might have been useful.

SolarPowered0 118M
8346 posts
6/15/2012 10:10 pm


I stopped (mostly) sayin' much of anything. I detest arguing; and whenever I open my mouth, it's as if my words beg for opposition (I think it's my argumentative nature constantly attempting to reincarnate after its multiple wackings, at my own hand, no less.) So... with that said...

That book about sexy American bitches was co-written by Meghan McCain, daughter of the controversial commie-Republican Senator from AZ--he was obviously re-educated during his stay at the Hanoi Hilton. Albeit, I prefer sexy Brazilian bitches ( 'It's the asses, stupid.' )

Now, I might say a lot about the ol' Megster. I won't, though, because it would just create fodder for the partisans. What I will say is this: I ain't read the book... and I can be rather adamant in stating that I never will read it. But were she to do a sequel--one about them sexy Brazilian bitches... and their asses--I might be persuaded.

Solar...


WilderThanU2 63F
2740 posts
7/8/2012 7:30 am

well, you know what...
there is a lot to be said about getting your way even if it IS because you've been underestimated
...or maybe especially because of that...


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