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telling it like it is.........
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telling it like it is......... i had a good friend tell me a home truth the other day. i was resistant at first. didn't want to let go of what i thought was my righteous reality. but when i sat and thought about it...i had to recognize the truth in it and by allowing myself to do that i released myself from a burden that has been burying me for months now. we can never take responsibility for another's actions. sure we can support and bear witness and even help with process, but in the end the choices and the way in which someone handles the repercussions of that choice belong to them alone. it sounds so self evident. but for a parent, or maybe just my personality type, i am driven to smooth the edges, to make things right. of course no one wants to see someone they love in pain. or in need. but i did have to ask myself whether my reaction and my actions based on my reaction were helpful or hurtful......selfless or selfish...... as the mother of a .....the other dynamic at play is the male female one. i needed to offer him the respect of assuming that he would deal with this as a man and yes, i would stand with him no matter what...but that i trusted him as a Man to do this and do it well. so thank you Michael.....not easy to tell someone what they don't want to hear....is it? but i heard you.......and so did my You cannot conceive the many without the one. |
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wow more growth ...you amazz ...it is a very hard lesson to learn....I am proud of you hun  []   Seduce my mind and my body
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Everyone lives their own life - though some seem to do a better job than others. The best lessons learned are the those resulting from one's own mistakes... if those mistakes don't kill ya.  Solar...
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12/8/2007 3:41 pm |
It is so hard to wrap a mother's mind around the fact that our children are entitled to their own mistakes. Sometimes, I just want to wave my momma's magic wand over their heads... but I know that if I keep doing that they will never find their own magic...  Not all who wander are lost.
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12/8/2007 11:44 pm |
listening and accepting...the hardest part. I am hearing a "truth" I don't want to...but I haven't been able to accept it yet...I don't want it to be true...because if it is, then what I believed to be the truth for the most part of a year is suddenly reduced to a status of non-importance, when I assumed it to be the most important thing in the world. Now the hurtful part is left...acknowledging that you were unimportant to someone else... "All you'll get from strangers is surface pleasantry or indifference. Only someone who loves you will criticize you." - Judith Crist, crack film critic
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12/8/2007 11:47 pm |
A long while back I learned that people of a certain culture only celebrated a birthday if they happened to experience a personal growth.....it seems to me as if you're due for a celebration.
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12/11/2007 12:32 pm |
Very often, when we hear a truth about ourselves that is less than favourable, it either scars the crap out of us or pisses us off immensely. Those things that bother us the most about ourselves usually are the things that piss us off the most. It is not the easiest thing to recognize this and take on what is being said. Congratulations, wickedeasy, for taking that step and having the courage it takes to carry onwards.
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Oh as a parent this is a hard one...for me ..as myself..almost overwhelming..I am working on it ...so good to catch up with you again *hugs*
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4/29/2020 1:55 pm |
That is what parents or for! Parents are not the media or government to bullshit to their children! Become an Apollorising58 watcher!
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