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ENHANCING SEX: 1. Realism
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ENHANCING SEX: 1. Realism 1. REALISM It’s always surprising the way people speak about sex. The way they speak about it is more often than not completely different to the way they think about it. So, in this article entitled “Realism”, let’s start off by being real. Sex is wonderful. If it isn’t … then you or the person with you aren’t doing it right. Bad sex is all too common. Good sex is wonderful. Too many people put up with bad sex as if they are supposed to. There is also uncomfortable sex, unpleasant sex, guilty sex and just plain unmentionable sex. We won’t be bothering about these. We are only concerned with good sex, fantastic sex, wonderful sex. Is it possible to have wonderful sex? Oh please. If it wasn’t possible then I promise you I wouldn’t be writing this article. And more than that … I am writing from experience. You know wonderful sex is achievable. You know it is. So stop wasting your time by pretending it isn’t. So … exactly what is wonderful sex? Hmm … now that’s a good question. It’s a good question because people are unique. People are different and so they want different things. They like and they dream of different things. They fantasise about different things. But they all want wonderful sex, memorable sex, mind blowing sex. Bad sex is about a “quick f…f … f… fix”. It’s just about hormones and the mechanical nature of people. It might be what you want at the time but really, it isn’t what you really want unless you have only a single brain cell that cannot think beyond the next minute. Hopefully you are more than this. Most of us are. Good sex, by its nature, is about communication, deep, deep sharing and a complete selflessness. Bad sex is the opposite of this. I’m going to present the case for good sex from what the man should be doing. This is because most bad sex can fairly be blamed on men. Not all of it, I understand that, but be honest now – most of it. Most men know so little about themselves, and hide behind a façade, and consequently understand so little about the woman they are with. Some don’t care. Therefore just like bad sex … we’ll leave them alone in a corner, shall we, to do whatever they want to do with themselves without annoying anyone else. So, from the mans point of view … when you see your wife, your girlfriend, your partner, your would be partner … what’s the first thoughts? Do you just want to fuck her? Do you want to feel your hard cock sliding deep inside of her in numerous positions, pumping away until you cum? Don’t. I’m telling you now – don’t. This is all a bit animalistic and I promise you, while a good hard fuck is fantastic from time to time, in further than the short term your partner will not thank you. In fact if all you give her is a “good hard fuck” in your way, whenever you want it, for your pleasure … then very quickly indeed she will become dissatisfied, frustrated and antagonistic. To a woman, bad sex is not good. Constant bad sex is a good excuse for violent behaviour … against you. Therefore, instead of looking at your partner in terms of just fucking her whenever you want and she has no say in the matter, why don’t you look at it from a different view, from her view? Why don’t you see what sex could be and very likely when it is, it will be far better than just shoving it in there and jumping around until you shoot your load. That’s the thing. I’m making no apologies for blowing away your long held misconceptions, but sex isn’t just about the orgasm then laying back and falling asleep. Sex is about the journey. Sex is about understanding her body and mind, feeling how it is moving, feeling what it really wants, feeling her orgasm build. You need to learn about the joy of foreplay and how this creates trust through warmth and intimacy. You need to learn about her breathing. You need to learn what her movements and her skin<b> temperature </font></b>means. You need to learn to appreciate that it’s her orgasm that’s important, how to make it happen, to feel it build … and importantly … how to control her orgasm to give her one of the most memorable experiences in her life. Not once by accident. Not twice because you happen to be in the mood. But every single time. Do this, be this unselfish, be this generous, and she will make you an extremely happy man. In later articles I’ll explain how to make this happen. But, you see, this is what #sex is about. You may be starting to realise what your partner has always known. Sex isn’t about just you cumming in her or on her. It’s about expression. It’s about behaviour. It’s about communication and sharing and going beyond what you’ve previously known. It’s this sharing and going beyond, exploring in a shared adventure, that is incredibly important – yet sadly eludes too many people. Don’t be one of the losers who thinks sex is just about #fucking. Don’t have a frustrated #partner who thinks you are completely useless because you’re terrible at sex. Think about it. Be the man you were meant to be. Be brave … and start to understand that life is more than any quick fix. Life is about sharing. Therefore share yourself with your partner and believe me, she will do the same with you and together the two of you will glow. What an incredible opportunity. So … are you up for the challenge? I bet your partner is. |
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