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What is our understanding of Involuntary Celibacy (Incel)
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What is our understanding of Involuntary Celibacy (Incel) For those of you that have been living under a bush for the last twenty , yes it really is that long since this phrase was first coined, don't worry I had look it up when I first came across about five ago. Now that there are huge groups on line and elsewhere causing their own kind of chaos, is it ignorance, arrogance or just pig headedness that allows any group encourage individuals or indeed groups reap mayhem? I do wonder that if the ignored sexually, women of the world, decided mouth off their frustrations on line and violating men, would anyone bat an eyelid. Are women better at concealing their pent up frustrations than men are or do their orgasmic sexual releases not matter them as much as they do men. Personally speaking, I have have sex, yes I do like have a regular partner or , but finding one person of the opposite sex that is compatible with you is hard enough let alone anything else. Apparently any woman can get laid, is that really the point, getting laid is not the same as having satisfying sex, ie sex without an orgasm just increases the ache, the yearning, the hunger. Not making a connection with someone on many levels leaves a void and of disappointment or rejection lead Incel or even Volcel (Voluntary Celibacy), when you have convinced yourself that you are undesireable anyone. Being in a relationship without sex is bad enough for anyone who still yearns for the release, the contact, the<b> physical </font></b>interaction but for someone who has not had the opportunity or been able instigate an encounter, what are their options? Afterall, porn, sex cam, dirty talk phone calls only go so far and masturbating becomes very boring after a while and the levels which one has delve into can become quite dark at times, to be fulfilling. I have noticed that a lot of people are choosing to become bi curious with the hope of some kind of participation from some aspect, as a threesome for example, do they have an alternative or is this the healthiest of options? This is a very wide and serious subject of course, hopefully reaching out and encouraging discussion will help to relieve overwhelming unhealthy thoughts or actions. |
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Great post. I keep seeing the word Incel but haven't looked it up. Thanks for the info. The way I see it used doesn't seem quite like the original intention. I'm in the same boat as BiggLala myself.
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*Involuntary* is inextricably linked to *free will* (in this case, absence thereof). To say that you do not have free will is to declare that you are constrained by necessity or fate. Given our connectivity and access to information, such constraints seem even less justifiable in terms of celibacy. (our sex partners are out there and it's never been easier to find them) For many, especially Alt-Right males who allege *incel* status to justify their vitriol and violence, it is more a matter of rationalizing and/or laying down a smoke-screen to disguise complacency or narcissism. That said, at the end of the day, Americans in general are having significantly less sex. This decline is most pronounced among young adults, but reflected across all age groups. We read about the usual (very real) suspects: health, risk, anger, anxiety, depression and distraction. To my mind, if we focus on mitigating these issues, sexy-time will rise resurgent and we can remand *celibacy* to the mythology of Catholic clergy.
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