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YourS3rvant 49M
3 posts
10/16/2018 1:17 pm
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I recently came across a blog that questioned if a the few bucks it costs to have a gold membership was too much to pay in order to have the ability to effectively communicate and actually meet. I found that there are a lot of profiles that complain about others not really wanting to meet or questioning if anyone is real on here. I answered the question in a way that should shed one light on the problem....or<b> piss </font></b>a few people off. (Note. If it pisses you off, you may want to take a hard look in the mirror. Because that little burning sensation in the pit of your ego is your subconscious telling you to pay attention and make an adjustment within.)

Unfortunately, I didn't look at the date until after I responded and realized those guys haven't been on here since 2015. I'm reposting my response here because, hopefully everyone can get something out of it.

Here ya go.....
I hear you. As a single guy who does pay, I find that the stigma of a single guy in the community is hard to overcome. Grammatically correct messages with proper spelling and punctuation, along with verbiage that indicates sincerity from a gold member has an average no response rate of appx 97%. It makes those of us who are willing and able to meet decide to not pay anymore. In short, from my personal perspective, the problem is not always on the single guys or the couples who decide to no longer pay for gold. The problem is the folks who are "too good" to respond when someone messages them.

If one person takes the time to write and send a message, at least have the common human decency to reply. Even if it is a polite rejection. The people I see complaining are usually the cause of their own situation. Be apart of the solution. Not the problem.

Just my opinion/observation--

Feel free to comment but beware, if you throw stones my way I will not hesitate to throw them back. If we treat each other the way we want to be treated, it would be a better world.

scott0250 57M
511 posts
10/16/2018 1:53 pm

 I hear you on that one. The people that really bug me are the gold members who say that they will not respond to non paying members. I think of myself as a decent person and try my best to be. Just because I am not a paying member does not mean that I am SCUM of the Earth but a lot of gold members think that way. I know that I am not a very handsome man but like I said a decent guy and should be treated as such: paying OR non paying.


pocogato12 71F  
37235 posts
10/16/2018 5:55 pm

 There is is never an excuse for rudeness and a polite "no thanks" costs nothing unless you are savings points to go for the gold. LOL the women are just as guilty - good points
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YourS3rvant 49M
2 posts
10/17/2018 12:42 pm

 Yep. No place for rudeness. Ironically I've hosted parties with females and couples from other communities and I've invited Affairlook singles and couples. The same people who "can't find real people " have missed out on 5 parties in the last 2 months. But hey, I'm just a single guy..what do I bring to the table right?


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