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The Dating Game
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The Dating Game In addition this site I use a couple others seeking women date. I use this site seeking only hookups and fwb situations. I'm sure the possibility exists of meeting someone date here but it's not what I'm here for. One particular site I use has become almost comical. The profiles are all very similar. Woman seeks nice man for dating. Nearly everyone of them goes on further clearly state that they are NOT looking for hookups or fwb situations. I have no issue with these women stating they are not seeking sex. The fact is I'm not using the site for sex either. I've been fortunate over the past couple years meet enough people that sex is not a problem. The problem is finding someone go out and do things with from time time. I really could care less if we have sex or not. be clear it's important note that I'm much more particular about someone I'd consider dating versus someone I just see for sex. It makes sense really. I don't need have a lot in common with someone for sex. I don't expect a ton of conversation or mutual interests with someone who is merely a sex friend. With that being said, I've found that very few women on the dating site that interest me. If I'm going out with someone I prefer them to be very attractive and have similar interests. After all, if I'm investing a bunch of time and into something that could become serious some day, then I'm going to be very picky. Every once in awhile I come across an interesting profile. I reach out to these profiles in the fashion of a true gentleman. It seems 9 times out of 10 the women who do respond are immediately stand offish. It seems they are tired of men who are only reaching out to them in hopes of getting laid. Fighting off the tendencies of the general population and proving one is different is a constant challenge it seems. all the men out there who seem have no clue how approach women I say please learn a better approach. The only thing you are accomplishing is making it more difficult for any of us meet women. This past weekend I actually got into decent conversations with 4 different women. I couldn't believe it really. I'm usually lucky if I get one decent lead a month. I actually progressed to texting with of these women. Before knew it a funny thing started happening with these women. As I tried be nothing but a gentleman they kept trying steer the conversations toward...you guessed it...SEX. What the fuck is happening here! Their profiles clearly state "not looking for sex" but after talking to them for a bit it became clear that is exactly what they were looking for! Ok, ok, so...what's the problem you might as The problem for is quite simple. They want a steady exclusive boyfriend. They require some sort of promise be serious in exchange for sex. What the fuck!! After 2 days of talking these women want fuck but only if I want be their boyfriend?? So now what do I do? I can't bring myself leading them on. A part of wants lie and the game but I just cant do that. After all I'm really not there for sex but truly seeking someone date. I don't know when they became one in the same. I guess the bottom line for me is that it's all so confusing. I'm there seeking someone to date. If over a decent period of time it leads to sex and something serious I'm ok with that. The women there mostly make the same claim but I've come to find out that they want it all and they want it NOW. I suppose I'll stay off that site awhile. |
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Peace to everyone. Mike
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We all want sex, the ladies on dating sights just don't want a "fuck". Sounds like you need to chill a bit. I have found a sense of humour and an attitude of I am here to enjoy your company is the best way forward. You are right that the "I am not looking for sex" soon goes out the window but so what sex is better with someone you have made a bit of a connection with, well it is for me anyway 
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The problem is finding someone go out and do things with from time time... You mean, "To hang out with", because "Dating" means you are having sex with them. If you are not having sex, then you are merely hanging out. if I'm investing a bunch of time and into something that could become serious some day, then I'm going to be very picky. .... This is not actually an investment of time. That is an expenditure of time. An investment is a guaranteed return. So you see the difference. I reach out to these profiles in the fashion of a true gentleman. .... Mike, you're on a sex site. There's no reason to hide what you really want from the woman, by using the facade of "Gentleman". It seems 9 times out of 10 the women who do respond are immediately stand offish. It seems they are tired of men who are only reaching out to them in hopes of getting laid. .... Well yes, duh, they are both on a sex site. Nudity all over the place. So of course 9 times out of 10, a man reaches out to a woman to get laid. On average , that 10th guy is just shy, and not sure how to go about saying he wants some sex. Instead of trying to prove you're different, on a sex site, I'd suggest joining another kind of social site. Like maybe "Bike riding" sites. or some sort of hobby site. or "Friend Finder" . Other men are not making anything difficult for you to meet women. Men who want sex, are on sites like this one correctly so. These women who are not looking for right-now-sex , but looking for a boyfriend for committed-sex, ha...those girls are on the wrong site. They stand the greatest chance of really getting burned. only if I want to be their boyfriend?? So now what do I do? .... You walk away. To promise her a commitment [although you could do that] will take too much of your time. Keep looking for the woman who wants what you want. But to be clear, typically when someone says they want to date, that means they want to have sex. I can't bring myself leading them on. .... Good enough, but leading them on to get what you want is very easy. Women do that to men , too. Only when a woman leads a man on, what the woman usually wants is mostly just attention, and stuff bought for her. No intention of putting out. Have to mention, too, a man playing the facade of a gentleman, runs a high risk of being led on. She will just put on her facade to play a lady, especially when she has absolutely no sexual interest in you. After all I'm really not there for sex but truly seeking someone date. .... Then you really are here for sex. Who are you kidding? Even your primary profile picture is of a boner. Is that suppose to say, "Not here for sex"? ...LOL ... seriously? I don't know when they became one in the same. ... Dating became about sex, when sex became legal to enjoy out of wedlock. In other words, when you could have sex without being married, "Dating" became about getting laid. I'm here seeking someone to date. .... Then you're here seeking someone who will have sex with you. If over a decent period of time it leads to sex and something serious I'm ok with that. ..... Then why are you complaining about certain women wanting a commitment before sex? .... Well because you want to date , you want to have sex, outside of a commitment. ....and that's dating.
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Mikemike107015 replies on 10/23/2019 1:53 am: it seems you dont understand that i am not referring to Affairlook. The site I'm talking about is not a sex site. Okay. My bad. Then ..... In addition [to] this site I use a couple [of] others seeking women [to] date. ....Okay.. so you're saying you use some other sites to date women. "Date" still means to become sexually intimate with the woman. If you are trying other sites merely to hangout , with women . To be asexual? Shoot the breeze...and still they turn the subject to sex, you could just tell them you're gay, maybe? That would solve your issue. But I'm pretty sure, then women would not be interested in hanging out with you to just politely chitchat together. .... Women [the smart ones] go to non-overtly sexual sites to find men, too.... but she perceives those sites to be a little safer. However the goal is the same. I use this site seeking only hookups and fwb situations. ..... Okay , cool .... but did you consider that "Dating" any woman, [as they say] casually, often enough, can be a Fwb situation. I'm sure the possibility exists of meeting someone [to] date here but it's not what I'm here for..... The common street phraseology for hookup, is also "Date".
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Most of the men on "vanilla" sites say they are seeking "the one", the exact same men are on here looking for NSA, or a FB, or FWB. Men will also lie about what they are looking for in order to get laid, Good on you for NOT doing that... allegedly  It's like walking a tightrope!
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