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Coming Out! I get asked alot of questions about maggy and ill get around to them eventually! Yet, today i want to share one of the harder parts of us dating and being together. Telling your friends and family , wow ok im dating her love her and well lost alot to be with her people thats called love thats what you do. I myself have come out of the closet to several hands of my friends but i chose them wisely not because their open minded party loving swingers actually further from the truth. Their all of total and completely different background personality types and life experiences the one thing they all have in common is their level of education most all of them are educated like myself and have Master's degrees. There really is a seriously strong feeling amoung educated people of live and let live the "hey man if your happy then im good and happy for you". I can sincerely say if it wasnt for a couple of my friends in my vanilla life it would be alot lonely than it is. My family well thats a short list my mom and sister are all i got left alive, when i told my sister it was in person to her face older sister judgment was burning me down with her eyes , funny thing is maggy stepped forward and let her know shes in love with me! There are some things my sister respects it honesty, courage and love when she saw us united thats all she needed to know because it was obvious to her. Now my mom in her early seventies that there was a tough sell and she never let me say the words she actually said you can have me in your life or her but if you pick her she flat out said im turning my back on you nothing no help dont count on me. My mother hates maggy with every breath she takes, well actions speak louder than words im from the show me state. The thing is if you love someone you never make them chose because your probally not gonna be happy with the choice i stayed with the woman i loved 14 months later my mom talkes to me and wants in my life and her grandkids i didnt hold them away because of grandma turned her back on dad that shit was personal between parent and . To this day she tolerates maggy like a preacher having to watch a in his church, to this day she never gave me the satafaction of saying it out loud but found a compromise were both content with , she asked as a mothers approval of my woman she is ok it being BF/GF she turned a blind eye but ill never have my mothers blessing to marry and she asked that i not while shes alive i found this reasonable alowing both to retain honor ! And shes an old from Oklahoma farm country girl 73 still goes outside and mows her own lawn, lmao that old Oklahoma mule has got at least another 15 years in her. Sorry maggy gonna have to wait ! Another side effect most dont realize is how vanilla my friends are and well that were all basically at a point in life that we have clout equity in our community busness owners ,mayors, city council men, teachers, professors, the list is impressive and we all grew up together. Reguardless of the fact i know about the skeletons in their closet's because i helped put them their, im actually intelligent enough to know secretly they my cheer me for following my heart tossing caution to the wind no matter what not giving up, but publically they cant be associated with me again its about perception! Needless to say i personally have really no friends and its damn hard to make new ones. So when i tell some of you shes priceless no money could buy her from me its true because to follow my hear and be with her didnt cost me dime for money had value it cost me just about everything else. And only a true few can understand the cost of choosing love over money! Dont get me wrong maggy hasnt had it really any easier she hasn't come out to any of her friends saying they wouldnt understand and ect.. well her age group ya i get it so instead of living a lie to their faces and saw what happened to me she basically has isolated her self at home we dont go out much any more because we cant help the inside jokes the giggles when seeing something funny or together going look at them in public and we thought we were fucked up, every couple does it! But in public everyone thinks were father and daugher dont even question it even on this sight i get are you father and , no were not and we dont look alike a large majority of you think we do! But she doesnt like to get out and date because she feels shes being fake and shes still young and doesnt have the courage to let her<b> freak </font></b>glag fly , her world is in most part her on line gaming friends that never have to know and its very sad , because shes giving me her most vibrant beautiful years of her life and she could score a doctor, lawyer, senator but she is contented herself shes also got the man she loves and to her thats good enough. So when you all think were living the dream and we do have fun and we fight and bicker just like any other couple its a real relationship, but dont be all thinking its flowers and chocolates with nightlife delight! We chose to be together and were making it weve been together for some time but it cost us both it cost me because im honorable and i came out it cost her because she couldnt face her friends community and still lost her friends they just dont know why! So people next time your so disrespectful to me ,her or us you have no idea the bond we have and what we both sacrificed and continue to just to be inlove with the one person that gets you. More over it leads to our self reliance and deepened the bond between us because we are all we have.. Thanks for letting me get that out on the table and thoes of you that chat with us and keep intouch i assure you its noticed and generally a refreshing highlight to our day! Maggysowner A lie will make it halfway around the world before the truth has a chance to get its pants on ~~~ winston churchill |
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First.....Bravo to you both for recognizing what you have in each other. In regards to family I can only imagine the angst and the eggshells that have been treaded upon but at least you have communication with them and have reached some what of common ground. ( I know the feeling all to well). I have to agree that education has a lot to with tolerance. Sacrifice? If only half the population understood what that word actually means, the world would be a much better place. I come from an strict Italian upbringing born and raised in the city of Brotherly of Love and although I wouldn't say my parents are racists or anti this or anti that....my fathers words were final, period, end of discussion. I am the 3rd of 4 children and come from a well known family both locally and nationally (My family owns Pocono's Raceway) both of my brothers played DIV 1 sports and hold high profile jobs and my friends are very much like yours all walks of life, from Lawyers, Dr.s, Govt employee's etc. Guess who is the BLACK SHEEP in my family....lol. I am far from perfect but I always do best by others even if it means sacrificing my own well being.... but part of being raised as a Catholic has instilled that in me. My friends.... true friends I can count on one hand. And independent of me if you asked any of them to tell you about me unequivocally with out a doubt each one would tell you..... He is HONEST, LOYAL, GIVE you the SHIRT of HIS BACK and never let you down in your deepest darkest moment HE will be there for you. My friends are my friends through unique situations where I have been the one to tell them something that they couldn't believe ....hell some of them even told me to go Fuck Myself....only to come back with an apology after the facts were revealed. I learned a long time ago that I will never please everyone. But i try my hardest to be the best I can be and to do the right thing when called upon. (Again what is right in my eyes or opinion might not be right in someone else's). But as Frank Sinatra famously sings..... " I did it my way". So I will leave you both with this..... " Live your Life if your happy that is all that matters. Because in my opinion and I have seen others go through life miserable....at that point your not living any more." Wishing you both the best and the smoothest road possible to the future".
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I did read your blog and I agree...most of society doesn't understand true love...its a kim Kardashian world..hahahaha...purely cosmetic...well, I do miss my dad, but I know he would support this...my mom passed also...all I have is a couple sisters left and quite frankly, I don't give half a shit what they think and they know it...so they either support my decision or see ya!!...HER family is different, but her friends do know about me and she feels the same as I do...accept it or goodbye...when u find somebody that sincerely cares and loves you, u hold onto them...regardless of rumor control or anything...what bothers ME the most, is all the filthy RICH dudes out there, with young wives...80 year old man, dating a 20 year old gal and THATS ok in society's eyes, because hes RICH...hugh hefner...Donald trump...most rock stars...etc...milania aint 20, but she is a LOT younger than Donald...those guys are heroes and the rest of us are perverted bumbs...why???...elvis was 28 I think and Pricilla was 15, when they met...I love elvis, but damn, just cuz Im not rich, doesn't mean I don't deserve to be with a total sweetheart...and yes, this gal...TESS...calls me daddy...so we shall see how this goes...
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...I suppose my biggest question of all is, why is it "OK" and "acceptable"for an old rich guy to have a young MODEL girlfriend, with a 30, 40 even 50 year gap...but its totally NOT ok for the rest of us to do the same???...any rich guy reading this wanna answer that???lol
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