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Was that the evil eye??  

secret_lade 50F
14361 posts
5/14/2020 3:55 pm
Was that the evil eye??


I knew who she was the minute I put her through orientation last year...

Only, I didn't think she knew who I was. Lately, I'm beginning to wonder.

I happened to catch her giving me the side eye today when I was talking to her manager. It's not the first time I've seen her do it, either. She's almost a little smug when she's in my presence, when I say hello, she just kind of smirks and walks away.

The thing is...

I kind of understand why she doesn't care for me. I'm the detestable woman who had the lengthy affair with her father-in-law. It was a different time in my life, and I was experiencing a lot.

When it ended, I had felt so hurt. He had broken it off when his wife had found out, yet again, that he was still seeing me, only he had told her that I was the one who was doing the pursuing.

I know this because she made my life a little miserable for a while.

During a time when I was putting together a funeral for my mother and signing divorce papers, his wife was calling my ex-husband and telling him that I wouldn't leave her husband alone.

False

Her husband had moved on to a new woman to occupy his time, he had merely just tossed me aside for someone new, someone not in her radar.

And now I am reminded of the bad decisions I made 10 years ago every time I see her. I would like to tell her I have changed my ways, that I avoid those married guys like the plague and keep my distance from the otherwise attached.... But I keep my lips sealed.

I know the person that I am now, and I'm proud of the positive changes I was able to make in my life.

That's all that matters.

citizen4722 66M  
74582 posts
5/18/2020 3:18 pm

Yes, you've moved on in your life. Why can't other people do the same?


positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
5/16/2020 7:08 am

She will tell coworkers I assure you. Just be prepared how to handle it. People always talk.


jajo696 113F
4287 posts
5/15/2020 10:38 am

Might not be such an evil eye at all....just your perception of it. She may not know, or give a rats behind abt any of it.

Your presence or her managers presence may be intimidating to a newer employee. The smirks and side eye , may not be that at all. Ten yrs is a longgggg time ago in anyones life. What was of importance then and semi scandulous could be buried under and amongst lots by this time.

Just another perspective as we all live n learn. ~~


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/15/2020 2:11 am

    Quoting Paulxx001:
    Office drama... I don't do well with it.
    You could tell her to fuck off.
    With your eyes... They have that power - you know! 😶
    I would...
She works out on the sales floor.... I work in the office. It's a very rare occasion that I see her, I just happened to be talking with her boss out in his home field. I'm much higher on the food chain than she is, so, whether she likes me or not, really doesn't matter.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/15/2020 1:53 am

Hear no evil?


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/15/2020 1:52 am

    Quoting easy_going2014:
    Hi secret_lade

    thanks for sharing another piece of you

    in my profile I state that I like women who like themselves

    you have to accept who you are and move on

    that other person doesn't live here anymore

    the person you want to be is the one you will become

    if you let yourself

    and, jettison all the baggage

    we've all made mistakes

    yours pale when compared to mine

    and, yet, I sleep good at night

    I have much to be thankful for

    thanks again,

    hmm

    Madonna - "La Isla Bonita"

    Como puede ser verdad
    Last night I dreamt of San Pedro
    Just like I'd never gone, I knew the song
    A young girl with eyes like the desert
    It all seems like yesterday, not far away
    Tropical the island breeze
    All of nature wild and free
    This is where I long to be
    La isla bonita
    And when the samba played
    The sun would set so high
    Ring through my ears and sting my eyes
    Your Spanish lullaby
    I fell in love with San Pedro
    Warm wind carried on the sea, he called to me
    Te dijo te amo
    I prayed that the days would last
    They went so fast
Yes, you are right. For the most part, I have moved on and consider this all just a piece of my past. My anxiety wouldn't allow me to let the look go.... as I realized that what I thought was a secret part of my past, maybe wasn't.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/15/2020 1:39 am

    Quoting mc_justmc:
    OMG you dirty ho!!!!! I like you a little bit more every time you post.
You have a thing for the girls with a checkered past? They're nothing but trouble, you know. A lil crazy, a lil insecure, a lil stubborn.... LOL Speaking from a lil experience.


Paulxx001 67M
22642 posts
5/14/2020 10:29 pm

Office drama... I don't do well with it.
You could tell her to fuck off.
With your eyes... They have that power - you know! 😶
I would...


Cockumberxxx 40M

5/14/2020 8:22 pm

See no evil 😈


easy_going2014 57M
14366 posts
5/14/2020 6:54 pm

Hi secret_lade

thanks for sharing another piece of you

in my profile I state that I like women who like themselves

you have to accept who you are and move on

that other person doesn't live here anymore

the person you want to be is the one you will become

if you let yourself

and, jettison all the baggage

we've all made mistakes

yours pale when compared to mine

and, yet, I sleep good at night

I have much to be thankful for

thanks again,

hmm

Madonna - "La Isla Bonita"

Como puede ser verdad
Last night I dreamt of San Pedro
Just like I'd never gone, I knew the song
A young girl with eyes like the desert
It all seems like yesterday, not far away
Tropical the island breeze
All of nature wild and free
This is where I long to be
La isla bonita
And when the samba played
The sun would set so high
Ring through my ears and sting my eyes
Your Spanish lullaby
I fell in love with San Pedro
Warm wind carried on the sea, he called to me
Te dijo te amo
I prayed that the days would last
They went so fast

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mc_justmc 64M

5/14/2020 6:41 pm

OMG you dirty ho!!!!! I like you a little bit more every time you post.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/14/2020 5:51 pm

    Quoting jolielaide:
    clearly this girl doesn't know thing one about being professional on a job. because if she did, she wouldn't have those displays of smugness you refer to. and while she may know about you that hardly means she "knows" you. tsk! you have nothing to explain; she don't deserve any explanation of the sort. truth matters and obviously they have no interest in knowing the truth. so keep it classy, s_l. when they go low, you go high. (until you gotta punch her in that evil eye)
I really hadn't considered that she may know who I was until today.... There was just something about the look in her eye. I have kept all that a much guarded secret, something I don't care to revisit. If there's one thing I'm good at, it's secrets.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/14/2020 5:41 pm

    Quoting pagancountrygirl:
    As you said, you're a different person now. Trying to talk to her about it would probably only fuel her anger and there's little chance she would believe you. You've learned from it and moved on. Maybe one of these days she will as well.
I refrain from writing about that time as I've put it behind me, and moved forward. I just couldn't get this out of my mind tonight, and needed to release it. Only the Hippie knew how much that experience affected me as he met me right after it had happened.


pagancountrygirl 66F  
6466 posts
5/14/2020 5:31 pm

As you said, you're a different person now. Trying to talk to her about it would probably only fuel her anger and there's little chance she would believe you. You've learned from it and moved on. Maybe one of these days she will as well.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/14/2020 5:19 pm

    Quoting ARomanticSadist:
    I was involved with a married/separated woman for a time when I was younger. Thing is, the husband introduced us, we had a threesome, but since he was a serial cheater, I suppose I was her side piece. Of course the way we met was via my cuckolding him to her as he was submissive to her in the relationship.

    Neither of them wore their wedding rings, so at the time we started I did not know they were still married, although they were at that separation stage where they try to work it out but just aren't as close to one another as they used to be.

    She and I starting see each other and she was my sub and I found out later she ended the relationship because I actually treated her better as a person than he ever did.

    I did find out later she finally divorced him and found another man, I do hope she is happy now.

    If that one woman you work with keeps agitating you just ask her what is her problem, because you should not have to deal with that passive aggressive kind of bullshit at work.
I don't cross paths with her all that often, my position within the company is much more important than hers. Our circles don't even remotely interconnect.... Thankfully. For the time being, I think I need to just let things be.


jolielaide 52F  
1754 posts
5/14/2020 5:18 pm

clearly this girl doesn't know thing one about being professional on a job. because if she did, she wouldn't have those displays of smugness you refer to. and while she may know about you that hardly means she "knows" you. tsk! you have nothing to explain; she don't deserve any explanation of the sort. truth matters and obviously they have no interest in knowing the truth. so keep it classy, s_l. when they go low, you go high. (until you gotta punch her in that evil eye)


ARomanticSadist 54M

5/14/2020 4:53 pm

I was involved with a married/separated woman for a time when I was younger. Thing is, the husband introduced us, we had a threesome, but since he was a serial cheater, I suppose I was her side piece. Of course the way we met was via my cuckolding him to her as he was submissive to her in the relationship.

Neither of them wore their wedding rings, so at the time we started I did not know they were still married, although they were at that separation stage where they try to work it out but just aren't as close to one another as they used to be.

She and I starting see each other and she was my sub and I found out later she ended the relationship because I actually treated her better as a person than he ever did.

I did find out later she finally divorced him and found another man, I do hope she is happy now.

If that one woman you work with keeps agitating you just ask her what is her problem, because you should not have to deal with that passive aggressive kind of bullshit at work.


secret_lade 50F
9227 posts
5/14/2020 4:21 pm

    Quoting  :

He'd been having affairs for years before he even met me, only his wife didn't know about them. She found out about me, and she caught him more than once, so I'm certain she was very angry. But, you're right, it's not like I forced him to fuck me, or spend time with me, or chat with me online. He did that all on his very own.


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