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Sex...Is it all in my head?
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Sex...Is it all in my head?  In "Arousal,"<b> author </font></b>Michael J. Bader quotes D.H. Lawrence, "The tragedy is when you've got sex in the head instead of down where it belongs," adding, "he (Lawrence) meant that analyzing sexual desire can rob it of its proper intensity." I disagree. BRAIN  MY BRAIN  I spend a lot of time dreaming about AND analyzing sex and what makes it great (or not so great). That's because I believe that the potential for pleasure in our bodies is the most powerful gift we humans have been given. I dream about sex and imagine scenarios as a way to build desire. I do agree that being in one's head DURING sex is wrong-headed. As someone who has a very active mind, with a lot of unhelpful self talk, learning Tantra has been a life changer for me. Tantra is a meditation practice of sensate focus: focus on breathing, sound and sensation in the body. Tantric practice also trains the body to reach an ecstatic state which for me is not just out of my mind but also an incredible nearly out-of-body experience. That is one of the many reasons I LOVE SEX. I get out of my head, stop listening to my "Monkey Mind" and live fully present in my body. When I've experienced sex that was in some way satisfying (or not), I analyze afterward why that might be in order to learn and grow. I'm 54 years old, have been fucking for, gosh, nearly 40 years and I still learn new things about myself and my desires. For example, here's an example of the kind of conundrum my sexual desires present: 1) I DO NOT LIKE PRESSURE to have sex, especially the first time. If I get a sense that sex is expected, it shuts me down. Cold. 2) On the other hand, I want to be "taken," thrown down and fucked. HARD. For a long time. I want a man to take his pleasure and act out his lust on my body. Because the polite path of sex as service, "you do me then I do you," gets dull. If I were a man interested in sex with me, I'd throw my hands up in frustration with trying to puzzle out that one. Just something to think about. {=}{=}{=} BiPolyBabe69 |
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I love being taken.......I love the shock/adrenalin rush a man should be able to read me..........if he can't then we're not going anywhere You cannot conceive the many without the one.
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I think that there is the reality, in which you want every interaction with a partner to be based in mutual consent, and the fantasy, in which you want to be used. As I'm sure you know, those two can find ways of meeting happily! Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale Her infinite variety. Other women cloy The appetites they feed, but she makes hungry Where most she satisfies. For vilest things Become themselves in her, that the holy priests Bless her when she is riggish. ~~ from Antony & Cleopatra
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1 post 7/28/2016 6:57 pm |
I love your view on this. I always thought about the fact of whether or not the connection you feel during sex is completely mental or partially physical. The graphics are also hilarious.
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I love your view on this. I always thought about the fact of whether or not the connection you feel during sex is completely mental or partially physical. The graphics are also hilarious.
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