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A guide to Us
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A guide to Us It's been a while since I've been motivated to write anything, but I've had the urge lately to do just that. It started with wanting to do some minor edits to our profile, then a couple of club visits later, it's grown to wanting to do a couple of blogs: one as a reintroduction to us that is a bit more in depth than our profile and the other....... the other blog I'm going to write is about our favorite club YKW from our, but mostly my, perspective. Our introduction as a couple To begin, we as a couple are Sinner and Brokenhalo. Two different people that are good together. We appear, at least outwardly, rather conservative but in reality are fairly progressive in our manner. We are expressive in our own ways.  For the first year and a half that we were members of the club, we weren't seen to far apart from each other. If anyone had gotten into a conversation with us, Halo did most of the talking...... I really didn't see a point in saying anything other than "Hi" since the conversation didn't need my two cents worth of foolishness unless asked for.  Even now I don't talk a whole lot while Halo openly talks to anyone who is willing to have a conversation with her. We are a friendly couple and like to see people make friends even if its not us.We have been in the lifestyle for quite some time, reality breaks not withstanding, and have been coming to YKW when ever we could for a little over two years. Now for some interesting side info....... Halo had a regular fun friend till about a year ago then took a break and I hadn't played in two and a half years but let my voyeur go wild while I reassessed my interests. When we decided to join the lifestyle community many years ago it was more of a fluke thing with a lot of discussion, we didn't have at the time, Halo had single friends that were horny and we were safe, and we had friends (couples) that were swingers. We never really though about it much until recently how we attracted like minded people into our inner circle. Anyway, some one on ones and a few house parties later........ we as a couple had been indoctrinated into the lifestyle and we like it here. Who we are All that being said, we don't define ourselves as a couple but as individuals. Initially when we joined the lifestyle community we maintained our identity as a couple for a while because that's what we though we were suppose to do and when we started coming to YKW we did it again as a form of habit and a protective wall..... lately we have been wandering about on our own and letting our hair down. Our reality being different from most others, we define ourselves more as individuals than as a couple since being a couple is what we are not who we are. Yes we are lovers, Husband and wife, and most importantly best friends but we don't own each other and like to see each other enjoying life both together and on our own individual terms. We believe in having the freedom to express ourselves as we see fit without the limitations that we may put on each other. We had and sometimes still have the typical hang ups that most people do... but we work on them every day. The big ones we have gotten past was jealousy and envy, at times our actions may seem like those emotions but they are not..... we are protective of each other because of what we have been through together..... most people call it love. Mmmmmm K, Drama..... we don't like it.... nope.... not at all. Everyone has baggage, we know this and have our own..... and we don't mind helping people unload some of it but we will try to keep our direct involvement to a minimum. Happy people make for happy friends, happy friends relax and enjoy life's offerings and can turn into long term attachments....... we like that sort of thing. Halo and I are interested in some similar things but in different ways. We self express differently and we give ourselves the space to do so. Sometimes that space may seem awkward, clunky, and unpalatable to people who haven't taken the time to get to know us, but it works for us and giving enough time....... you'll see two very happy comfortable people interacting rather smoothly in our own weird ways..... lmao.... she's my after all.  Self Perceptions Self perception can be a bitch and we don't see ourselves as being beautiful, handsome, or sexy because of our mom and dad bods. And we are not currently nor never have been the "cool "....... well, at least we don't think so. Because of our self perceptions, we don't really notice if people are interested in getting to know us in a biblical sense so you have to be a bit overt in your interest but not too pushy about it. Oh..... and we are both inked and smokers but are not 420 friendly. Halo, in my eyes, is a beautiful sexy lady with a gift for gab and a wonderful smile. When she's finds something really funny has a cute snort that she tries to hide. But she doesn't see herself that way and dresses conservatively to hide her self perceived flaws and life's war wounds but is starting to get more confident about how she looks. As for me, well, I'm fluffy, hairy, and about average with a middle aged dad body. And I wear a kilt when I go to the club. I'm also I'm almost terminally quiet for the most part.... a couple of beers and I say 10 words instead of 5. About Us We met while we were in college in Michigan at a small coffee shop that was owned by a friend of mine. We started a friendship that night that has lasted 22 years and have been married for 15 of them. We are partners in life and our different endeavors. We are each our foundations, supports, and protectors, but above all we are best friends. We recently moved to our new home town because of employment opportunities for each of us, what the area has to offer recreationally, and the people we have met at the club. Currently the only issues we have are regular club night care and my travel/work schedule..... each in there own time though. Halo was born and raised in Michigan, loves sports, and of course...... meeting new people. She loves to talk to people and get to know them. She mostly listens to country music but likes all kinds. She's loves cooking shows, DIY shows, and crime dramas. I am a Navy Brat (Born, Raised, and Transferred). I've<b> traveled </font></b>a lot and still do. I'm a slave to my whims in regards to music.... I'm not a genre person, but a song person. I don't watch much TV, but lately I have been into Game of thrones. Otherwise, I read books and play PC based video games..... my current distraction is Star Wars: The Old Republic. I'm not much into watching sports even though I have played and coached. What we are about We are interested in making long term friends. We don't care if those friends are play mates or not. We like open minded people to hang out with. We still have a young'un at home so we don't host play dates while he is there but we do like to hang out and BBQ in a vanilla way. Play time outside of the club has to be planned in advance or during odd hours. We don't care if people are pink, purple, or blue....... if you have an open mind and a good heart, we want to meet you and see where it goes from there. Our style We extremely non aggressive and have a laid back out look on pretty much everything, neither of us are hung up on race, religion, or anything like that. We each are attracted to whom we are attracted to. We believe in those tickles and sparks that come with panty dropping attraction when we meet the right people. We also have no issues with having PDAs with other people... We enjoy letting our passions flow freely since we control them in the real world but we understand that not everyone is that way so all parties involved need to be comfortable with it. We play together and separate, but prefer to become friends collectively. We enjoy one on one encounters and foursomes and moresomes. We've had threesomes and just didn't enjoy them as much since not everyone got total enjoyment out of it. It's kind of like soft swapping...... We are a full swap couple since neither of us like to unwrap presents and then be told we don't get to play with the toy in the box. I am straight but don't have any issues with people who are bi, gay, or transgendered. Oh... and guys.... if you have issues with incidental contact with another guy during a threesome..... get over it or don't DP.... it happens...... often . I love curvy women with enough confidence to know what they want but submissive enough to let me take control and give them their desires and fantasies.Halo is bi-selective..... If she is attracted to a lady she may be interested in playing, but she isn't interested in being a unicorn for a couple regardless of her interest in the lady.... She may not be attracted to the guy at all and won't play with both just to play with the woman. She loves men but not all men, talk to her and see if she likes you. New lifestyle couples...... we can smell you from a mile way. We love talking with you but hesitate to play until we get to really know you and your significant others. There may be interest on all parts, but we've lost good friends because we/they jumped the gun and didn't have their shit together before things got real. Also, neither of us will do anything with anyone who's partner privately comes to either of us to take the other off their hands while they roam..... If your partner is interested in playing with one of us, neither of us will play unless they show their own interest. While at the Club We love YKW and the people we have met there. Our thoughts about playing at the club are simple, it's a well organized house party with pragmatic and effective rules. It's also a place we don't have to hide our true selves and express ourselves freely and have theme nights and other special events. So to us it's a same room/separate room kind of environment.... do what you want with whom and we'll find each other later when we need to or when we go home. Simple right? We are easy going like that. Neither Halo or I are the hit it and quit it type but it's not out of the question. When we are at the club if the people we meet can be convincing, not pushy about it, and the level of attraction is there then we will play. Well, I suppose that's enough about us for now..... If you have any questions contact me I run our profile for the most part but Halo checks in from time to time to check in on my ridiculousness. |
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