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What's your 'status' and what should it be?  

actuallyido2 68M  
4 posts
1/4/2015 5:22 pm
What's your 'status' and what should it be?

I see many people complaining that others misrepresent themselves on this site.
I'm sure that is a common problem with all web based dating and hook-up sites.
I had my status listed as 'single' and was told that is 'wrong'...
I am technically married, though separated and living apart for over 4 years.
In my mind I am single, not 'separated'.
In my mind 'separated' indicates a possibility of going back...
that won't ever happen with me.
What do you think?
Is your status actually indicative of reality?
Or is it misleading?

demonicsexkitten 48F
10694 posts
1/4/2015 5:45 pm

 Isn't "separated" an option? Or am I thinking of other sites?

And you can always put "single" then explain "still married but we've been separated 4 years and are never getting back together" in your profile. Though so long as you own to your status so whoever you're communicating with has the option to opt out if they have an issue with your situation then it's not such a big deal.

The problem comes in when a guy claims he's single, hooks up with a woman, turns it into an on-going thing, gets her emotions all involved... then she's blindsided by an irate wife going after her with a knife (literally or figuratively) for ruining her marriage. Illogical as it seems: most women attack the other woman and not the man who's actually the responsible party.

My profile says I'm single. Because ... I'm single.


actuallyido2 replies on 1/5/2015 12:44 pm:
I wouldn't put anyone in that position...and since it was her idea to split, that doesn't apply in this situation.

actuallyido2 68M  
22 posts
12/31/2015 10:25 pm

 Well, it's all irrelevant now.
Before the paperwork was complete, she had a heart attack and died.


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