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Recipe for Failure on AFF  

WNCCuckoldcpl 50M/51F
451 posts
10/26/2018 12:40 pm
Recipe for Failure on AFF


Standard member, can't send or receive messages and unable to read another person's profile. The only picture they have uploaded is a blurry close up shot of a pale erect penis, and on reviewing their profile, the only words they have bothered to type is a brief comment on how horny they are or how long they can immerse themselves in the act of cunnilingus. A brief look at their stats reveal they have declined to respond to some of the questions the site asked them about their sexual preferences and relationship status, no answer at all on marital status. They pop up on the IM with the inevitable 'Hi, how are you?' and then move right into "What are you looking for?" If you respond to this, invariably, they will then proceed to talk shit about either how hot you are or how hard their cocks are, how much they can cum or how awesome they are in the sack...
Folks, this is NOT the best way to present yourself to what little remains of the legitimate swinger community that is left here on Affairlook. We want to know a little about you, we want to see a face picture, or at least a photo that demonstrates some physical qualities other than your throbbing member. We want to know about your experience level with other swingers, about your sexual orientation and your preferences. We want to know that some jealous ass wife of yours isn't going to be trying to kick somebody's ass over her man's poor decision making process. We want to be able to exchange messages with you over THIS platform before we give you any contact information so we know you aren't a fucking serial killer or a stalker waiting to happen.
We want to know that you are serious about meeting and or playing. Upgrade your fucking account, if you can't afford 20 bucks a month, then what do you expect to get from this site? Try dating a real life flesh and blood female on less than 20 bucks a month and see how that goes. Put some effort into your fucking profile, it's not hard and it takes a little thought and time sure, but otherwise you are nothing but a dick pic in an endless sea of dick pics and crude remarks that would probably get you arrested in real life situations. There's real people on here that really meet each other, treat them as such and offer them a view of yourself that says something other than a cheap, cheating, shit talking hard dick that puts about as much effort into their profile as they likely would in the sack.
'Nuff said.

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Coupleinacloset 65M/60F

10/26/2018 12:45 pm

Excellent post. Could not have said it better myself. I agree with every point you made.

"Age cannot wither her, nor custom stale her infinite variety" Shakespeare


WNCCuckoldcpl 50M/51F

10/26/2018 1:00 pm

Yeah I guess it came off as a bit of a rant but I was on the IM today and just finally let some poor bastard have it over their profile and IM comments. They were whining about no one meeting for real on here, and had a profile that looked like a boiled hot dog on a blank piece of paper.

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Magosika3 34M

10/26/2018 1:04 pm

hot damn cheers to you on this although I'm male I do see this where it is going. guess I do need to work on my opening a bit more

welcome to my chats and spats


WNCCuckoldcpl replies on 10/26/2018 1:17 pm:
Looks like you have a pretty decent profile going there, as long as you treat folks on the IM like people you should do ok on here.

OldrHarleyGuy 72M

10/26/2018 1:17 pm

This is why I'm only here for the vids and stories and blogs.......


WNCCuckoldcpl 50M/51F

10/26/2018 1:22 pm

Back in 1997 when Affairlook was first getting started we were on here then with another profile. At the time it was a great resource for swingers to chat and meet each other, but this site has gotten too big for it's breeches and now it's overwhelmed with porn hunters and folks that just want to talk shit or cheat on someone. Obviously it's their dime and they can do whatever they like but it's a shame to see what was once a great swinger community and awesome tools for that lifestyle become just another porn site. Makes it really tough for the few real swingers that are left here to filter through all that.

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scott0250 57M
511 posts
10/26/2018 2:19 pm

Just because people do not want to spend 20 bucks for the crappy service this site gives does not mean that they are cheap or losers. I have a good job and can afford way more than 20 bucks a month on dating. I was a paying member years ago but just do not want to pay for the non services you get now from this site. I try to chat with people on IM to get to know them a little but not many will give me the time of day. Why you ask? Beats the hell out of me. Your righteous rant is pure crap and so are a lot of the members on this site.


WNCCuckoldcpl 50M/51F

10/26/2018 2:46 pm

    Quoting scott0250:
    Just because people do not want to spend 20 bucks for the crappy service this site gives does not mean that they are cheap or losers. I have a good job and can afford way more than 20 bucks a month on dating. I was a paying member years ago but just do not want to pay for the non services you get now from this site. I try to chat with people on IM to get to know them a little but not many will give me the time of day. Why you ask? Beats the hell out of me. Your righteous rant is pure crap and so are a lot of the members on this site.
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seems6666 53F  
4838 posts
10/26/2018 2:53 pm

    Quoting scott0250:
    Just because people do not want to spend 20 bucks for the crappy service this site gives does not mean that they are cheap or losers. I have a good job and can afford way more than 20 bucks a month on dating. I was a paying member years ago but just do not want to pay for the non services you get now from this site. I try to chat with people on IM to get to know them a little but not many will give me the time of day. Why you ask? Beats the hell out of me. Your righteous rant is pure crap and so are a lot of the members on this site.
'People won't give you the time of day" ... well having looked at your profile.. guess what!... it's exactly what the blog is about... you don't say anything about yourself... 50% of your pics are of your dick and the other 50% aren't very flattering. No offence meant .. but women get inundated with IM's.. why would they chat to you?... you have nothing on your profile to chat about!


superbjversion2 69F  
24388 posts
10/26/2018 3:08 pm

While I don't consider myself a swinger, I am on here because I do still enjoy sex.

I just replied to an email this morning giving very similar advice. His message .... "Hello" His profile .... empty. Oh wait! It said "Ask Me" Nothing to make me curious enough to ask him anything.

Good post. It's a pity the people that need to read it - won't.

Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Mystics_Dream 62M/61F
7 posts
12/15/2018 8:18 am

Hear, hear!


jraider68 55M
31 posts
9/4/2019 9:05 am

I must say, I do agree with Scott. But only about one thing and it was mentioned in the blog. There are a lot of members on this site now that are, "How do you say it Scott", crap. And you sir are one of these members. I have been on and off of this site for twelve plus years and I'm still friends with some truly good people that I have had the pleasures of meeting. I get rejected sometimes because I am a single male thanks to members like you Scott. Thanks for that. Ten years ago it was easier to meet people and those people were well worth paying full price for the membership.
So you try to IM paying members on here and get shut down. You can thank yourself for that Scott, along with all of the other people on here that are just like you. I mostly ignore IM because of you and those like you. So I thank you once again.
And by the way Scott, this nice lady was not on a rant. Sure, she may have been driven by a minor hint of frustration caused by you and/or those like you. But if you ask her, I will bet that she has delt with some of the biggest idiots that exist. They are big, bad and arrogant online with no respect for women. But now you did go on a rant. But Miss WNCCuckoldcpl did not. So apologize to her for yourself and those like you as a real man would do when they are in the wrong. And if you would have been paying attention, she was trying to educate you and others on how to get laid.


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