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How to Write to a Woman on AFF
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How to Write to a Woman on AFF Guys on Affairlook: I'm going to try to help you out. I've heard from scores of you in the last few weeks since my return to this site and so few of you are getting this even remotely right. I think I understand your predicament: you're horny, this site promises easy sex, you send out lots of messages, but you get little or nothing in return. Here is the cold hard truth. There are very few of us real women on here. It's at least 100 to 1. Those are horrible odds. Unless you have a freakishly long dick or you look like George Clooney, achieving success here is going to take some work. So what to do? First, only write to real, active women. How do you know a woman is real? Does she have any friends listed? As soon as a woman creates a profile on here she has the requests and the opportunity to add friends. If she hasn't, she probably isn't real or isn't very interested in this site. Does she have any testimonials? That is very good. Does her profile say something more substantial than "I like to have fun"? That is also good. Has she logged on recently? She is active. You have achieved step one: you have found a real woman. Next, let me tell you what you should not do. Don't waste time with lame "how r u" messages. When I see a message like that, all I can imagine is that you're lazy. You don't really care if I answer or not, so I don't. Also, don't waste time with a form letter. Does your message sound like something you could send out to every woman on this site? If it does, I imagine you have sent 100s of them and I don't answer. Use real English, not text-speak, and include punctuation. Come across as intelligent, thorough, and caring. READ a woman's profile - every word of it - and pay attention to what she is looking for. Do you have those things? If so, be very specific and tell her how you are a great match for her. Sound confident about it. If you're not what she is looking for, you can write, but you're going to have to include something very convincing about why she should make an exception for you. Either way, be sure to set yourself apart from the rest of the thousands of men here and include details about yourself and what you are looking for. Most of you have profiles that say little more than "I'm a guy who wants to have sex"; that's not going to set you apart from anyone and no real woman is going to pay any attention to you at all. Most importantly, don't come across like you're looking for a . Lines like "I just need to get laid" scream one thing: you are a taker, not a giver. Women here are looking for men willing to give them friendship and sexual pleasure for the same in return. What do you have to offer? If nothing, get a . And about photos. I don't think that I'm the only woman who isn't really very attracted to cock shots. We are not visual in the same way that you men are. Once I get to know a lover I think his cock is cute, but cocks without faces are just a little creepy to me. I'd much rather see a face pic or a full body pic with clothes. (I know, I know, I don't have a face pic on here either.) I did see a really adorable chest shot on here that got my attention. (Hi, B!)  About marital status: if your profile says "prefer not to say", we know you're married and you come across as sleazy. On top of that. if we're single women, we have very little reason to hook up with you. I mean, who wants the complications when there are single men available? If you're married, it's best to just admit it and explain your situation honestly; there are married women in the same situation. |
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very thoughtfully written but I will say I've tried nice,I've tried naughty,I've tried funny and I've tried provactive but for the most part almost no one ever returns an email on here
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Excellent posting, it is a must read for every man on this site!!!! Also, even if someone has been on this site for quite a while, pay heed to this post, or if your new here, read and reread, lots of good information to be had.
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Another hint,,,,, Act like a gentleman,, write the way you would talk to a woman in person. Sheesh, it is like some guys check courtesy at the door, from what I hear you ladies go through. Just one mans opinion Politically Incorrect Advertisements
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This is perfect! I agree with everything you've written.
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Hello :mystery I agree with most of what you are saying to a point I to have tryed being nice, an bad ,seems no matter what you do the women on her are here more for just chating and not what alot of there profiles are saying, and yes Iam marr and I have seen alot of marr women on looking same as me. but they never answer a page or chat with you unless they have met you at a meet and greet some were. well just wanted to let you know your blog was great to read and had some good info for us men. thanks mystery
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You took the words right out of my mouth!! All kidding aside, this is a great post. We can only hope that the ones that need it will read it. Thanks for posting it.
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well said mystery woman!!!!! you are definately bang-on. the site seems to have gravitated slightly towards dating these days.not much of a pick-up or quickie site anymore. many of the women on here are sending nice guys nasty e-mail. just as an ugly person(somatotype-not outlook/personality) cna be told a 1000 times they are hot,and believe it. a woman can be told "i want to fuck you" 1000 times and react in an angry-not typical of her-way and come across as being pissed off at every guy on here. maybe this site should just be guys fuck guys and girls fuck girls-it avoids complex issues such as... gender differences.main ones being, men being visual and horny always.women being sexually cerebral and touch oriented.kidding of course  that was the doctor speaking!!!!!!!!! 
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In all my years on this site, I have read many profiles that could have been viewed as fake if using this criteria. As well, that has not precluded me from sending a large abundance of mails to people I hoped to be "real". I've come to the reality many years ago that on this site I typically have to do like you would do when going fishing for need. "Cast out" many messages with the hope of getting bites. I have sent enough well written emails with references to the details of importance in the profiles to make certain it is clear that I read what is important to you. These clues you offer are certainly a step in the right direction, but at the same time I do wonder what man gets to meet women on here that doesn't already understand a good portion of this already? Thank you for for helping those that are not already aware.
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Loved it thanks so much for posting that..No truer blog for sure I have seen in a while.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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I agree with what you say. I also like to talk to the guy a while to make sure we both are looking for the same thing. I do not want to be a notch in someone's belt but a fwb type person.
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1 post 8/10/2013 11:10 pm |
Thank you..Nicely said..
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I like your blog post; you made some good points even though I disagree with the testimonials and friends being a part of a real woman's profile. I don't think the problem is that men are contacting the "fake" women as much as it is in their approach. It's interesting that the 2 men who posted replies who have cock shots as profile pics are complaining the most. Maybe they should re-read paragraph 7. Also, women tend to read profiles of the men who contact them so give us some information (details please!) that would make good conversational openers. Never ignore those who care for you you will have lost diamonds while you were collecting stones
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Mystery, Spot on! Thank you for helping the abundance of idiots here The odds in my country are more like 400 to 1 and 99 out of 100 mails I get, I answer with a standard 'thanks, but no thanks' form mail. If they'd even bothered to make a little effort to personalize the email, their odds of being the one getting a real reply would have shot up.
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1 post 8/11/2013 3:50 am |
Thanks, good advices.
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I so agree
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I agree what you think. I didn't add any friends here but I am a real woman ^^ Read woman's profile is really imprtent!!
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Very well said, I post no pics on here because I feel I cant trust the site.I have been a paid member in the past as well.I have met alot of wonderful people on this site, with meets and greets. On occasion the ones will meet on a whim in a public place. Really fakes have no place here but to piss people off
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very good post,agree with most you write ,although about the friendslist and testimonials i would say that a lot of women and couples prefer to hide them.
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8/11/2013 12:50 pm |
The only way to get fucked on this site is to be on it.
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Here's the truth. The best, well-written email in the world will get you nowhere on this site if the woman doesn't like your photos. It's all about physical appearance and the size of your cock. If you have both going for you, you'll be one of the very few men who actually meet a real woman. This site has taught me that when it comes to looks of the opposite sex, women are FAR more shallow than men (something I honestly didn't expect). I gave up writing well-crafted emails long ago because 99.9% don't get answered.....not even a no thanks, you're not my type. Woman say they don't have time to reply because they are inundated with hundreds of emails every week. My answer to that is: If you can't stand the heat, get out of the kitchen.
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Very well said but, unfortunately, about 90% of the men on this site cannot read profiles. They say they used to pay to be here but it did not pay off. To me, that screams CHEAP. If I can pay, so can they.
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