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Blogs > spiderj72 > Going to Hell for sure

Scared  

spiderj72 51M
5951 posts
3/15/2016 2:49 pm
Scared

So here is a thought that has been running through my head for a while and I think I have it so I can express it somewhat rationally. Are any of you out there a little scared about the potential darkness inside each of you sexually? More exactly do any of your fantasies seem so out of left field that you area a little put off or freaked by them.

These can be rather simple things. Maybe you don't ever want one but you cant get that gang bang fantasy out of your head. The same could be said for anal or whatever seemingly deviant thing pops in and sets up camp. Maybe there is a story that you hae read or a porn clip that you keep going back to over and over again. Maybe you want to be a slave in a dungeon, maybe you want to enslave someone?

Because of my physical size (I am roughly on par with a small rhino) I have always been careful of the sort of crazy bed smashing sex you seen in movies. Mostly because I have literally smashed a bed before. As a result I am sort of skittish with how far down the master and slave road I can go. I know fully that I cant be a slave. Way too many giggles for that. I know my few forays into being dom also had some moments where I had to back the fuck off and quickly.

Am I alone in this? Do I need to rush to a professional of some sort to deal with these issues? Am I being a chicken little over this?

AmorphousAmor 64M
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3574 posts
3/15/2016 3:45 pm

 You get advice here worth what you pay for...


JJLooken 56M/46F
366 posts
3/15/2016 4:41 pm

 No I don't think your Out of the Norm with what you might think or be thinking. You might be a bit out of t norm! Because you are willing to talk about it in an open forum. I know I have some Crazy thoughts an even desires from time to time. And have even been able to act on many with the J in the Profile. But I still even hold back many from Him as I don't want him to thin I am a "Super Freak".


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
3/16/2016 2:42 pm
    Quoting JJLooken:
    No I don't think your Out of the Norm with what you might think or be thinking. You might be a bit out of t norm! Because you are willing to talk about it in an open forum. I know I have some Crazy thoughts an even desires from time to time. And have even been able to act on many with the J in the Profile. But I still even hold back many from Him as I don't want him to thin I am a "Super Freak".
I think this is a part of my thing is that whole super freak label. Or in my case dirty pervy guy. Maybe it was from coming from a small town where reputation was everything while in highschool.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
3/16/2016 2:46 pm
    Quoting  :
so my thinking is that if this isn't the whole out side the norm thing then everyone has something like that in them. When someone calls you a freak it may be that they are actually freakier than you are.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
3/16/2016 2:47 pm
    Quoting AmorphousAmor:
    You get advice here worth what you pay for...
its better than trying to talk about this stuff to folks at a coffee shop.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
3/17/2016 3:00 pm
    Quoting  :
we always got each other. haha. I think this goes back to being honest with your partner and with yourself. if you hold back some of that scary stuff you will have issues I think.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
3/18/2016 10:45 am
    Quoting  :
and they wonder why I love you. sheesh.


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