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Blogs > spiderj72 > Going to Hell for sure

Are you a multiple site person?  

spiderj72 51M
5951 posts
2/9/2016 6:09 am
Are you a multiple site person?

So I confess one of my little joys in life is going to the local Clist page and reading the people looking for random encounters. Or as I like to call it "wow my town has a lot more gay guys than I thought it did". It is a truly guilty pleasure and I am slightly impressed with the way people just lay it out there for the world to see. I enjoy the honesty.

So how many others are actually using another dating site other than this one? How many of you have a vanilla profile or better yet used the disaster of somebody Madison? Are there fish people or minglers here as well?

When I first separated I hopped on this site as well as a vanilla one. I had success on both however I felt I couldn't fully be who I am on the vanilla site. I had to hide away my kinks and fetishes (not that I have tonnes of either) and be careful about exposing them. On this site it is very upfront and I enjoy that. I am sure the sister sites are also the same? I guess the ultimate question is at what time to you tell your vanilla date that you really get off on being tickled with feathers or are into latex immobilization?

I heard someone say that anal is just part of dating now. That women better be ready to do it because it is just expected. Damn, when did this happen? So I guess what I am really getting at here is when do you tell someone that you really need it hard and fast and deep three times a week? Cause from experience I can say that the longer you wait the harder it is for your partner to reconcile. You feel slightly miffed that they couldn't be honest with you or that they kept their "secret" desire hidden from you, who shared everything with them.

Curious as always what people are doing or better yet how they are handling multiple sites or dating from a whole mess of sites? Share with me.

sunligth56 57M
1113 posts
2/9/2016 6:12 am

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oraljim201 75M
7423 posts
2/9/2016 6:20 am

 I'm on a few sites most of the women are looking for long term commitment


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/9/2016 11:39 am

 not sure what that means but than I guess?


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/9/2016 11:40 am
    Quoting  :
see the little I played with the fish site I knew that you could look just for sex. however it would get you placed on some peoples no go list just by looking for sex.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/9/2016 11:41 am
    Quoting oraljim201:
    I'm on a few sites most of the women are looking for long term commitment
I hate to suggest it but I think age might have something to do with that. the older generation (and please don't take offence when I say that) seem more comfortable with long term togetherness than lives alone.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/9/2016 11:43 am

 interesting. good to know I guess. I think I will stick here. not really looking for others believe it or not.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/9/2016 11:43 am
    Quoting Megan6627:
    I'm like Johnny Cash, man, I've been everywhere!!!!
so what are your thoughts on everywhere?


Glamlife14 53F
Ask me for a photo

2/9/2016 8:11 pm

 I missed the anal memo!!

My arse says.... Exit only!!


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/10/2016 5:41 am
    Quoting  :
I see you spun this into a post of your own. good for you and good post too.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/10/2016 5:43 am
    Quoting Glamlife14:
    I missed the anal memo!!

    My arse says.... Exit only!!
I cant remember where I heard that comment. it certainly seems to me that it is not as taboo as it once was or that it is getting more media play than ever before. personally as the head of the APS (check old blogs) I say pity its exit only.


JJLooken 56M/46F
366 posts
2/10/2016 6:56 am

 Male is on Another site. And we are on Another one as well together. But Affairlook is the Main site we use and enjoy as well.


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/10/2016 9:11 am
    Quoting JJLooken:
    Male is on Another site. And we are on Another one as well together. But Affairlook is the Main site we use and enjoy as well.
so I guess my follow up question is do you behave differently with people from the different sites? And are they more vanilla than Affairlook?


spiderj72 51M
7898 posts
2/13/2016 2:22 pm
    Quoting  :
well damn. that sucks for you. I cant read your profile cause I am the basic kinda guy here but from the photos you don't look too extremely kinky. But again that is just me. Too bad you aren't closer I would definitely look you up. Kink dispenser is an interesting notion. I can see how frustrating that would be. You sound kinda beat up by the whole thing. Hope it gets better. Keep smiling.


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