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The Things We Leave Unsaid
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GOOD
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You paint a picture so complicated it is entertaining! Why cant the real raw you be placed on the pedestal by the one who adores you and loves you? Shouldn't a woman who is in love always remain on the pedestal provided she is balanced there with grace and humility for why she is praised? So why wouldn't you deserve to make such step? Obviously I belong to the group that tends to tell their feelings  All the best, and may the powers that be smite you with being more smitten!
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"I want you to want me, but only the real me. But I don't trust you enough to show you the real me." I trusted with someone here like that and I think I did a quad axle, same kind of landing. I don't think I can ever do it again. But I am glad I had it once.
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I usually say what's on my mind but rarely say what's in my heart.
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Do you always say what's on your mind and in your heart? Pretty much Do you tell people that they drive you mad with longing? Or do you sit back and bite your tongue for fear of what MIGHT happen? I tend to speak my mind for a ccouple of reasons. First, someone's got to make the first move. When I was in my 20s I dated a guy and we broke because I thought I was more serious about our relationship and heal. Fast-forward a few years and the night before his wedding. everybody had been drinking and after everyone else had gone to sleep he and I were sitting on the porch of his house. So were having was drunken conversation about how much fun we had and all of a sudden he gets a very serious look on his face and says "I should never have let you get on that train". I *never* one of the unit position like that ever again. The life lesson learned there was it's always better to know exactly where you stand and potentially miss out. If you think about it, for generations of men have been doing the same thing, constantly putting themselves out there making himself vulnerable often not knowing it was going to accept their offer for the date or not. Now we can be in the same boat that they've been. as for showing the real me yes all you will ever get is the real me but the same way I don't go buck naked in front of you on the first date I'm not the lay everything out in front of you when I first meet you. People? Are like onions, layer upon layer upon layer. Unlike England in the outer layer of the ones that the world touches on our own. For busy getting closer and closer to the heart the letters become more tender. So yes you get the real me but you get me a layer or two added on.
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It's so hard to put yourself out there... and more times than not, you wind up getting burned. Why do it? Because once in a while you get lucky and meet someone you "click" with. That's what I think most of us are looking for on here. Someone who we seem to "click" with. All I can say is hang in there... you're an amazing woman and someone will come along. I know I wish I were closer!! In answer to your three questions, Yes, Yes, and Hell Yes!!! Save a horse, ride a cowboy!!
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"I want you to want me, but only the real me. But I don't trust you enough to show you the real me." Wow, that hit home hard. I think after awhile playing it cool begins to be a disadvantage, a double edged sword almost. So I say if you have the strength, show them who you are and you hope for the best and prepare for the worst. Just know we're all rooting for you!
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As always, I feel like I can't add anything to your analysis. It is just answering the question of whether the reward is worth the risk of failure. But you have to remember that fortune favors the bold nd no one remembers the failures once you succeed. Take it easy, guns are cold. 
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Yeth, I'm thorry to thay that I wath a thung bither but I'm getting out of that habit thlowly but thorley.
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I tend to not take many risks either. But for me I often end up regretting not taking that risk. So you can't win I guess. Take the risk and possibly (or in my case more often then not) fall on your face or play it safe and wonder what could have happened.
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I do not expect anything from you. I do enjoy looking at the pics of yourself that you post, and I do enjoy reading what you write. I hope you continue posting both! Yes, I know you are not perfect. Neither am I!!!! Alert the media!!! I wish you joy.
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I always tell my loved ones that I love them, every time we are going to be apart. I am getting to that age where things can happen, and I would hate for the last things they hear from me to be words of anger, or words of complacency. As far as taking risks goes, well, I'm not big on it. After hearing for the last few years that I am not desirable from my wife, and to have her list out the things she does not like about me physically, and to know that I am not well endowed, or in good shape... I don't do it easily. Especially when I sent someone out here a pic of my privates, and they wrote back that they weren't impressed, well... it didn't do much for my confidence. Not that I had much to begin with... And, believe it or not, I get your conundrum. I want people out here to like me - the real me - but I am afraid to show you the real me, for it has proven to be "unimpressive" to some, and, to the one I love, not very attractive. I still believe we travel similar paths, Gottaring...
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I believe it is better to put it out there and be blunt about things. The last girl I was interested I just told her I was interested romantically. And although nothing ended up happening, at least I wasn't left guessing. And as for showing the real you, I show about 60% of the real me to people I meet. The good stuff. They can find the rest out later if they are interested lol
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To answer your first question....I am learning to do it more....like you I was always guarded and worried about the reactions I got and worried about getting hurt. The problem with that is you end up not knowing and to me that is worse...if the feelings aren't mutual, then at least I know and can move on and not waste time wondering what if! Which brings me to the second question and again I am learning to let my feelings show....if someone makes me long for them, I want them to know....they might not have looked at you in that light and at least it will make them look at you in a different way. Good or bad, at least they know. Finally I don't want to admire someone from a pedestal...I want to look at them eye to eye. It's a lot easier to see what is in their heart and for them to see what is in mine. I believe that to truly live your life, all those experiences and emotions are all worth taking a chance for...it's how you know that you are alive! A story by Lucius8858
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"And what a sad and boring existence that would be." You only notice it when someone points it out to you. AB No Bozos
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