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ADVICE PLEASE  I just want to deny the rumours that Rachel Weisz is my new girlfriend. 007 wouldn’t like that! My news is that I have a new girlfriend – I’m having regular sex! It also means I don’t have to change my couple status on this site; if I had changed my status to single, it would have meant losing this blog. My new girlfriend knows that I’m a member of this site and she also knows about this blog. She even knows that, with my ex-partner, I used to meet other couples for sex and that I attended and hosted sex parties. Initially, I was a little apprehensive telling her about my swinging activities, but her reaction has greatly surprised me. She seems very interested in swinging and going to sex parties. She asks lots of questions, all non-judgemental, and even asked me to take her to a sex party. The issue I have now is whether to start swinging again with my new girlfriend or whether this would put too much strain on our fledgling relationship. At the moment I talk about swinging in terms of the past and haven’t talked about it to her as something I may want to do with her. I’m reluctant to start that conversation at the moment. But I also realise that I may want to start that conversation. I know a couple of men who, after splitting from their swinging partner, wanted their new partner to swing as soon as they got together. In both cases, the new woman just walked away when confronted with swinging. I want to avoid that situation. I would really appreciate any advice you can give me on this issue - should I play it cool or should I push? Or should I do something else? What advice can you give me? Or, to be more blunt, if you were me, what would you do? Do people seek out your advice a lot? How good are you at taking advice? My new girlfriend knows I write a regular blog; she even suggests ideas for my blog posts. She doesn’t have (or want) access to the site, so although I’m now part of a couple it is still just me on this site.  |
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I would wait a while till you know that your relationship is strong enough and then take it slowly. People do ask my advice quite a lot....I guess it comes with the territory of my past career. I will listen if I'm given advice and use it to help in decision making.  ~~Anais Nin~~
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Take it nice and slow and get to know she is ok with your blogging on this site.. I am sure she will be ok.. hugs V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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"DO NOT push" I would take things slow. This is a new relationship (congratulations) for you. Time is on your side.....(it ran out for Brazil)! I take advice into consideration when it is given! I have been asked for advice, and I have given some, but it is up to the asker whether they take it or not!
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[center] It is a good sign she seems interested. I would suggest tread lightly for now, get to know each other more. Then if she still expresses an interest, try a relatively "tame" party and see where it goes. Good luck.
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first off congrats and then my advice would be to go slow..keep your feelers out ...and I am sure if she says she is ok she really likes you ..so just bring her into everything slow...sometimes people say things but once they are right there in it they freak out. people sometimes say alot of things well meaning because they are crazy about someone. good luck! keep us informed!   ..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one? 
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Congratulations, will pm you. J&J xxx
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7/11/2014 4:54 am |
Yay yippee yahoo for you. I would say. Let her bring it up again. Just talk generally about it till she asks why you havent taken her to one yet. Then suggest you go with no intention of having to get involved, just see how it feels to her. She may just find it erotic being around others having sex. I know I did and would have happily not done any swinging my first time An orgasm a day , makes you so much happier at work and play
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Thanks, that's good advice.
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If she has already asked you to take here to a swinging party. Well to me you have here answer. Sounds to me, that you are not sure if you want to play again. Larry
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Firstly, warm congratulations on your new relationship. I think you should gradually ease her into the swinging couples lifestyle since she has already expressed enthusiasm but be sure that you have the power to extricate her from any situation that she isn't entirely comfortable with. A surprising array of people do seek out my advice on a wide range of issues... Even strangers... Lol I do take advice from others where I can see the long term practical benefit of it, although some would argue otherwise. It has to be advice that doesn't just say 'this is what you should do' but advice that instructs the processes. Often that is the missing ingredient in the advice I receive.  Whenever people seek out my advice, they often ignore it.
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I would wait a while till you know that your relationship is strong enough and then take it slowly. People do ask my advice quite a lot....I guess it comes with the territory of my past career. I will listen if I'm given advice and use it to help in decision making.
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Take it nice and slow and get to know she is ok with your blogging on this site.. I am sure she will be ok.. hugs V
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"DO NOT push" I would take things slow. This is a new relationship (congratulations) for you. Time is on your side.....(it ran out for Brazil)! I take advice into consideration when it is given! I have been asked for advice, and I have given some, but it is up to the asker whether they take it or not!
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[center] It is a good sign she seems interested. I would suggest tread lightly for now, get to know each other more. Then if she still expresses an interest, try a relatively "tame" party and see where it goes. Good luck.
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Thanks for your good advice. I'm taking things slowly while being honest. At the moment, she brings up the subject more than me.
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Many thanks. I am taking things so slowly that a tortoise would be suitably impressed! 
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It's good to have a solid relationship before doing this sort of thing. I know a few couples who used swinging to spice up their sex lives. At the time, i wasn't convinced that was a good reason to start swinging but it seemed to work for them - they're all still together!
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first off congrats and then my advice would be to go slow..keep your feelers out ...and I am sure if she says she is ok she really likes you ..so just bring her into everything slow...sometimes people say things but once they are right there in it they freak out. people sometimes say alot of things well meaning because they are crazy about someone. good luck! keep us informed! I will keep blogland updated of any developments; also my profile will be substantially re-edited.
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Congratulations, will pm you. J&J xxx
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I would not bring the subject up the subject of swinging if I knew a partner was not interested. At the moment, my new girlfriend brings up the subject far more than me.
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Yay yippee yahoo for you. I would say. Let her bring it up again. Just talk generally about it till she asks why you havent taken her to one yet. Then suggest you go with no intention of having to get involved, just see how it feels to her. She may just find it erotic being around others having sex. I know I did and would have happily not done any swinging my first time
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Many thanks. I am taking things very slowly.
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Leave it up to your girlfriend and let her take you as far as she is comfortable in the swinging lifestyle!
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...Spunk...use your head...and talk to her..you already showed everything anyway....she will only cut and run if you press to hard... blue..
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Thanks for your perceptive analysis. I like injury-time winners!
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