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FIGHTING OR FUCKING?  

spunkycumfun 63M/69F
29519 posts
8/3/2013 10:24 am
FIGHTING OR FUCKING?



There seems to be proportionately more bisexual and bicurious women than men on this site. I can’t comment on other sites. There also seems to be proportionately more men wanting to see two women have sex than women wanting to watch two men have sex.

Does this mean that women are more bi than men or does it mean that men more than women are projecting their fantasies on this site?
Or, if not, what does it mean?


I hate seeing fights and it’s usually men who fight. Apart from the violence, a fight kills whatever enjoyment there was in an occasion. But I’ve come across men who are more offended at seeing two men having sex than two men having a fight.

If you had a choice, would you sooner see two men fighting or two men fucking?

I know it’s an artificial and simplistic choice, with lots of shades in between fighting and fucking, but hey-ho! I’m not a big voyeur - I’d sooner be having sex than watching other people have sex, but I would much prefer to see two men get it on fucking than get it off fighting.

It would be fun seeing Barack Obama, Vladimir Putin and Li Keqiang having sex rather than waging war to sort it all out!

BrownEyedBBW 55F  
8831 posts
8/3/2013 11:45 am

The difference is that it is more socially acceptable for two women to be sexually involved than for two men to be sexually involved. That means that more women "come of the closet" so to speak, on this site. A lot of guys who are creating couples profiles will list the female as bi or bi curious in hopes that they can *convince* their partner to try it.

For men it's a very different story. It is decidedly less socially acceptable for a man to go public with being bisexual or bi curious. Hell, men even get pissy if a dude is watching him jerk off is he's performing on cam here. However, there are sub rosa shenanigans going on here.

(I won't bore you with my treatise on the misogynistic sexual politics surrounding this. Color yourself lucky, lol)

There are a measurable percentage of men on the site who list themselves as straight but are quite open to hooking up with other men for sex. It's one of the reasons gay guys hit up straight guys on this site because a few of them will be happy to say "yes".

This happened to me a couple of years ago. A guy messaged me and said he was late 40s, divorced and straight. He was tall and showed a sense of humor. So far so good, right? He seemed interesting so I took a look at his profile and checked to see if he had a blog, what groups he belonged to, etc.

I noticed that he had made recent comments to a group for men looking to hook up. Of course I had to see what he had said and he talked about how much he enjoyed giving blow jobs and bareback bottoming at some popular gay hookup sites and glory holes.

So I wrote back to him and asked him about the discrepancy between "straight" what he posed in the group. He claimed I must have made a mistake (I didn't tell him how I found the posts) and then I noticed that someone was deleting his comments.

Sww, I find bi men very hot. Liars, not so much. Hey, if a guy contacts me and I'm interested, his being bi is actually a plus in my book. It's the ones who are stubbornly in the closet that give me cause for concern.

So fuck, definitely fuck.


foreverfree123 60M
435 posts
8/5/2013 2:37 am

I think it seems to be 'cool' at the moment for women to be bi.
Many men assume we all are, and some are quite upset when they find that I am boringly straight.

I hate to see fighting of any sort ... I am not into physical agression at all.
Because I am straight myself, I have no interest in watching women together, but I am fine with watching men with men.
I watch male bi/gay/shemale porn, and I will admit that I own several lady-boy porn films, and I find them very hot indeed.
I have a very dear bi male friend, who has had me watch him with other men via webcam, and also when visiting glory holes with him.

I think most straight women would prefer to watch MM action than FF, just like most straight men prefer FF to MM.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/7/2013 4:14 am

    Quoting BrownEyedBBW:
    The difference is that it is more socially acceptable for two women to be sexually involved than for two men to be sexually involved. That means that more women "come of the closet" so to speak, on this site. A lot of guys who are creating couples profiles will list the female as bi or bi curious in hopes that they can *convince* their partner to try it.

    For men it's a very different story. It is decidedly less socially acceptable for a man to go public with being bisexual or bi curious. Hell, men even get pissy if a dude is watching him jerk off is he's performing on cam here. However, there are sub rosa shenanigans going on here.

    (I won't bore you with my treatise on the misogynistic sexual politics surrounding this. Color yourself lucky, lol)

    There are a measurable percentage of men on the site who list themselves as straight but are quite open to hooking up with other men for sex. It's one of the reasons gay guys hit up straight guys on this site because a few of them will be happy to say "yes".

    This happened to me a couple of years ago. A guy messaged me and said he was late 40s, divorced and straight. He was tall and showed a sense of humor. So far so good, right? He seemed interesting so I took a look at his profile and checked to see if he had a blog, what groups he belonged to, etc.

    I noticed that he had made recent comments to a group for men looking to hook up. Of course I had to see what he had said and he talked about how much he enjoyed giving blow jobs and bareback bottoming at some popular gay hookup sites and glory holes.

    So I wrote back to him and asked him about the discrepancy between "straight" what he posed in the group. He claimed I must have made a mistake (I didn't tell him how I found the posts) and then I noticed that someone was deleting his comments.

    Sww, I find bi men very hot. Liars, not so much. Hey, if a guy contacts me and I'm interested, his being bi is actually a plus in my book. It's the ones who are stubbornly in the closet that give me cause for concern.

    So fuck, definitely fuck.
Thanks for your thoughtful post. I agree with you that it's more acceptable for women to be bi than men on this site, though my only experience has been as part of a couple.
I'd love to hear your views on misogynistic sexual politics!


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/7/2013 4:15 am

    Quoting  :

Its just my observation, but my experience of this site, until recently, was as one half of a couple. I think single men, single women and couples all have quite different experiences on this site.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/7/2013 4:17 am

    Quoting foreverfree123:
    I think it seems to be 'cool' at the moment for women to be bi.
    Many men assume we all are, and some are quite upset when they find that I am boringly straight.

    I hate to see fighting of any sort ... I am not into physical agression at all.
    Because I am straight myself, I have no interest in watching women together, but I am fine with watching men with men.
    I watch male bi/gay/shemale porn, and I will admit that I own several lady-boy porn films, and I find them very hot indeed.
    I have a very dear bi male friend, who has had me watch him with other men via webcam, and also when visiting glory holes with him.

    I think most straight women would prefer to watch MM action than FF, just like most straight men prefer FF to MM.
Do you think many men assume women are bi or do they hope they are?


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/7/2013 4:17 am

Thanks for your kind comment.


foreverfree123 60M
435 posts
8/8/2013 12:16 am

re
Do you think many men assume women are bi or do they hope they are?
I don't know ..... Maybe you should do a poll about it.
I would be interested to find out.


spunkycumfun 63M/69F
41171 posts
8/8/2013 1:41 am

    Quoting foreverfree123:
    re
    Do you think many men assume women are bi or do they hope they are?
    I don't know ..... Maybe you should do a poll about it.
    I would be interested to find out.
I'm not sure most men would vote honestly!


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