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Some Safety Suggestions. Safe Sex in a Twisted Society!
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Some Safety Suggestions. Safe Sex in a Twisted Society! With the CraigsList Killer making headlines it got me thinking about this whole internet thing and safety. Safety applies to both men and women, married and single. However the two groups who probably can most use advice are the men and the married women. It made me think about the people dating who are still attached and who need to be discreet. You can be discreet without being clandestine and without meeting some stranger for the first time in a vacant parking lot. This need for discretion, puts you at risk, so you have to be smarter than the Wolves out there. Most people you can get to "know" by exchanging email and text, but not the true predator. Predators are by definition stealthy, you have to be more stealthy! Pointer #1: Bad people exist, it is an unfortunate fact of the world. This does not mean stop meeting, but it does mean, always, think safety, always meet in public. Simple, now I am not saying meet at your PTA meeting "public", but do meet someplace where strangers will see you. Where if you disappear, police will have employee witnesses, the key here is the "bad guy" will fear there are witnesses! Simple, safe. Pointer #2. Always tell someone who and where you are going, lie about the reason, or at the very least lie to the person who you are meeting that you told someone. Tell the party you are meeting you have a confidant who has your back side and you his/hers. Maybe say you "used to be married in an open relationship, parted friends and now look out for each other". Or maybe just tell a friend you are trying to buy/sell a car and if your not home or available by phone by X time to call or text you... Interrupting a date with a phone call is not a bad idea from a safety perspective, excuse yourself from your date and step into the bathroom. You would not even have to really tell the caller what you are up to, the important part of the equation is the "stranger" thinks someone "has your back". OK for some of you this "dishonesty" is an issue. Well then figure out a way to do it honestly. Tell a friend and leave out details, or write it down in your email account or someplace and tell the person you met you keep a diary of what you do and when and where...This would be true. (Note, on line diaries are still diaries and short and inconsistent is still a diary! Not one most historians would want, but a<b> police officer </font></b>would drool over a note like this! But key is tell the person you are planning to meet! Ward off the wolf! =) Normal people will not mind this at all. People with less than honorable intent will shy away from someone wise enough to take precautions. Predators always seek out the weak and alone. Not the animal protected by the herd. At the very least mention on the side on the fly that you were "telling a friend of yours about your rendezvous and she is just dying for a report on how your date goes".... Some other simple points are take a picture on your cell phone, you can delete it as soon as you return home if the person turns out to be safe. Put on your thinking caps my friends and protect yourself and one another. Always be safe! I guess you could call this "safe sex". Just my thoughts, hope it helps. |
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7/8/2009 11:24 pm |
love some of the suggestions. I really do have a friend who knows whats going on & loves to hear the details  but defiantly makes things safer!
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5/6/2009 7:33 am |
Great advise. I met a gentleman who suggested that he pick me up at a post office for a lunch late. Yeah Sure! I told him I would meet him at the Diner. He may be perfectly safe but you never know.
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