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Blogs > 1969blackjack > If you were a tree...

Honesty  

1969blackjack 55M
179 posts
3/15/2009 8:54 pm
Honesty

I was just thinking...are we really looking for honesty? We often hear (read) people talking about how they are looking for honesty in a relationship. Do we really want someone to be completely honest? Who wants to hear that they were a lousy lay?

I've gotten smacked for telling a woman that her outfit sucks (she asked)!

"Honey, do these pants make my butt look big?"
"Trust me, it ain't the pants!"

Have you ever been completely honest with your lover? Really told him/her what you want, what turns you on? What would they think of you? Have you ever let loose and talked about what they do or don't do for you? No holds (holes?) barred!

JadedTigress 55F

3/15/2009 9:23 pm

 I have been told that I am brutally honest...

I expect the same.
Make love to my mind; my body will surely respond in kind...


1969blackjack 55M
786 posts
3/16/2009 9:06 pm
    Quoting JadedTigress:
    I have been told that I am brutally honest...

    I expect the same.
But, do you get upset from others honesty?

I try not to...

Thanks for the response.


_Lady_Genevieve_ 41F

3/19/2009 7:37 pm

 I do appreciate honesty and would not get offended by it, even if it's something negative. However, complete honesty??? Hmmmm... maybe sugar-coat it just a little bit. I think it comes across better when you use a little tact. Instead of just telling someone they were a lousy lay, I would tell them that I felt we were not compatible sexually. And if they wanted to know, I would give them specifics. I think that is more helpful to them than saying "you suck in bed." You probably disagree, but that's okay.
"Don't have sex man. It leads to kissing and pretty soon you have to start talking to them."
~Steve Martin


1969blackjack 55M
786 posts
3/21/2009 7:29 pm
    Quoting _Lady_Genevieve_:
    I do appreciate honesty and would not get offended by it, even if it's something negative. However, complete honesty??? Hmmmm... maybe sugar-coat it just a little bit. I think it comes across better when you use a little tact. Instead of just telling someone they were a lousy lay, I would tell them that I felt we were not compatible sexually. And if they wanted to know, I would give them specifics. I think that is more helpful to them than saying "you suck in bed." You probably disagree, but that's okay.
Actually, I agree completely. I do believe in tact, but sometimes that just doesn't work. Sometimes, even tactfully done gets you in trouble.

Why is that?


1969blackjack 55M
786 posts
3/22/2009 7:48 pm
    Quoting  :
It is so nice to have you back. Missed ya.

Funny that your tag line is "Say What You Need To Say"


bbwplayfulbunny 45F

3/25/2009 9:47 pm

 I think communication and honest are important, but just as important is how you say it. Though depending on what you say, it may very well get received negatively no matter how bluntly or sugar coated you present it anyway. But myself personally, I always have the need to say what I am thinking and get it off my mind and chest. Whether they "get it" or not - gives me the satisfaction in knowing that they at least heard me out and I shared what I think or feel regardless.


bad_assed_witch 109F
33758 posts
4/3/2009 6:14 am

 I'll have to admit. I'm not completely honest at all times because I wouldn't wanna hurt his feelings. Some things are better left unsaid
~ The New & Improved Cocksucker ~


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