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What Is Love? And Why Are The Front Of My Pants So Tight?
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What Is Love? And Why Are The Front Of My Pants So Tight? Times seem easy when you're a . At least they did when I was one. The biggest worries were...well, I didn't have any. Sure, I worried if Lassie would get Timmy out of the well in time, worried that my parents were in their 30's and might die soon, and worried if sonic booms could actually hurt me. But I don't remember any real–or ongoing–worries. Maybe the 50's were just magical. Maybe it was my perspective. Maybe the commies were putting something in the water. Whatever it was, life just went smoothly. Then came the evil 60's. I call them evil because I'm pretty sure it was that decade that invented worries. At least for me it did. I was 12 years old and sitting in school. It was springtime when it happened and my life has never been the same since. All of a sudden and with absolutely no warning...I felt an odd–yet pleasing–burning/swelling/throbbing in the front of my pants. WTF? For no reason I could come up with, my manhood was swollen! Is this normal? Is THIS an erection? How big is this thing going to get? OMG...I bet everyone can see it! Everyone knows. The swelling lasted for about a week. At least that's what it seemed like. As I look back, it was that very day when my life changed. My outlook changed. For the first time, lasting worries appeared. Was I going to see her boobs? Will I get to touch them? Sex...oh boy...am I going to have sex? The worries were actually fear I suppose. Fear that none of this was going to happen. What if I never get to do ANY of this stuff? That all seems like a century ago. At least. Yet the same thoughts rattle around to this day. Sexual acceptance is a powerful worry. It might even be the worry everyone in here shares. Acceptance on a physical level. The greatest gift we have to offer is ourself. Our mind and body. Knowing this is true, sometimes we settle for merely the body side of the equation. Knowing all too well that the mind side will never be addressed. And we'll fight ourself on a daily basis to stay in a relationship that we know isn't working. Just for the sake of sex. I wonder why? Are we all looking for the perfect sex partner? The perfect mental partner? Or that elusive, perhaps non-existent, perfect blend of mind and body? Personally, I hope the blend does exist.  [blog talldarkavg1] |
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12/18/2008 3:14 am |
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cool [blog talldarkavg1]
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I agree. I wonder if I should visit Santa at the mall? [blog talldarkavg1]
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I wonder, too, if we are all just looking for that person with whom we can truly be ourselves - without fear of shame, recrimination, or rejection. Our inner-most desires can be explored (at least once) without negative consequences. We can safely, and with trust, explore our "shadows". One of the phrases I've used over the years online is "Walk in your shadows" meaning get comfortable with the darker, less explored side of yourselves. I've found that once I explore these areas, they no longer cause me fear or worry - I own them. And if I am not making sense, I blame the time of day, not enough caffeine, and tight hot rollers on my head 
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It does exist, but sometimes one has to look closely to find it. I found that perfect blend in the fine print, just between Heaven and Skye. As always Swallow
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I kept waiting for that zinger.But it never came. You have such a beautiful heart Tall. Dont make me get all weeping here. If I could wish one thing for you it would be for you to find that elusive one that fulfills all those dream requirements. Be well Darlin  tender hugs...m.
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I always Won'der all the Fok'in time *sigh* Won  .
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Opposite here,here for the mind as the sex has always been pretty ok,just ok,now its ok to bed, but the person i'm with mentally suits me I'm a   and i'm here to stay
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12/18/2008 5:44 am |
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Raising my hand to declare, yes I had it all. I had both the mind and the physical attraction, so yes Virginia, there is a perfect one for you. When I first met my husband, who wasn't my husband obviously at the time, and he asked me out, my immediate response was "NO". and that was a very resounding "NO". He looked at me oddly and asked, "why not". To which I smuggly replied, "because I don't like you". Well if what we had, was based on dislike of a person, I should learn to hate everyone. He asked me for specifics of my dislike, which I rattled off in no time flat. He simply looked at me and said, "oh, then I shall change all of that". Which to my greater amazement he did. Thankfully, for ME, he didn't decide I was the imperious, snobby, spoiled brat that I honestly was. Thankfully, he decided I was worth the effort. It wasn't an overnight win either I might add, it took him time and a whole LOT of effort to prove to me that he was what I wanted. Lordy, was he ever. Was he a greek god in looks, NOPE, but he wasn't Quasimoto either. He was very nice looking, with a fetching smile, and bright blue eyes. It was his intelligence that finally captured me totally. This I might add was in the very early 60's Up until I met my husband, I had led a very sheltered life, of exposure to men. I went to an all girls Catholic School. I had NO boyfriends, so how the hell I knew I didn't like him flat out still makes me wonder as I had no scale to measure him by. He on the other hand, had been married and fathered several children, which in my book was already a huge black mark against him. Amazing how the black turned to invisible without even an eraser. We were married for almost 30 wonderful years. He was funny, intelligent, compassionate, and most definitely loving. When I lost him to a sudden heart attack, the larger part of my heart went with him. That was in 91. I have remained single since that year, as to date I have never come close to meeting anyone that has the brain or intelligence level he had. We were compatible on all levels of life that you share with someone. Now that I am at that "advanced" age lol, I doubt highly I will encounter that magical combination of wit and intelligence, along with good looks that will make me turn my head and look at them twice. So, yep, I can attest to the fact that you CAN have it all, but it's difficult to find, and once it's found, you stop looking and the rest of the world fades, along with all the worries, because you know you can rely on the one who shares your life and time with you, that they will shoulder not only half of the burden, but part of your share as well. You can't wait to go to bed at night "wink" and you can't wait to wake up in the morning just to know you can begin the day with that special one person that makes you life so sparkling and shiny and filled with anticipation of what this new day will bring. Lady
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For me, it just doesn't work anymore without a mental connexion, too. Maybe I'm a prude. Peace and love is where it's at.
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12/18/2008 7:30 am |
You have quite a way with words, This makes me think of the ex, we had a great sexual relationship but the mental aspect was dysfunctional at best. Now I have both and its quite awesome. I am truly thankful for it. Good post! roaming the cyber streets of blogland  
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Mentally If we think you are hot then physically we are turned on. Just the brain power of the penis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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I wonder, too, if we are all just looking for that person with whom we can truly be ourselves - without fear of shame, recrimination, or rejection. Our inner-most desires can be explored (at least once) without negative consequences. We can safely, and with trust, explore our "shadows". One of the phrases I've used over the years online is "Walk in your shadows" meaning get comfortable with the darker, less explored side of yourselves. I've found that once I explore these areas, they no longer cause me fear or worry - I own them. And if I am not making sense, I blame the time of day, not enough caffeine, and tight hot rollers on my head [blog talldarkavg1]
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It does exist, but sometimes one has to look closely to find it. I found that perfect blend in the fine print, just between Heaven and Skye. [blog talldarkavg1]
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I kept waiting for that zinger.But it never came. You have such a beautiful heart Tall. Dont make me get all weeping here. If I could wish one thing for you it would be for you to find that elusive one that fulfills all those dream requirements. Be well Darlin tender hugs...m. [blog talldarkavg1]
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I always Won'der all the Fok'in time *sigh* Won [blog talldarkavg1]
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Opposite here,here for the mind as the sex has always been pretty ok,just ok,now its ok to bed, but the person i'm with mentally suits me [blog talldarkavg1]
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hi I love the 7 Dwarfs [blog talldarkavg1]
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My friend, I think maybe that is something that is just ingrained in men. I have heard of some women who feel this way, but mostly it's guys. Maybe it is just a security thing. I have often wondered why the penis wasn't designed with a performance/satisfaction meter built in. Makes sense to me. [blog talldarkavg1]
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Raising my hand to declare, yes I had it all. I had both the mind and the physical attraction, so yes Virginia, there is a perfect one for you. When I first met my husband, who wasn't my husband obviously at the time, and he asked me out, my immediate response was "NO". and that was a very resounding "NO". He looked at me oddly and asked, "why not". To which I smuggly replied, "because I don't like you". Well if what we had, was based on dislike of a person, I should learn to hate everyone. He asked me for specifics of my dislike, which I rattled off in no time flat. He simply looked at me and said, "oh, then I shall change all of that". Which to my greater amazement he did. Thankfully, for ME, he didn't decide I was the imperious, snobby, spoiled brat that I honestly was. Thankfully, he decided I was worth the effort. It wasn't an overnight win either I might add, it took him time and a whole LOT of effort to prove to me that he was what I wanted. Lordy, was he ever. Was he a greek god in looks, NOPE, but he wasn't Quasimoto either. He was very nice looking, with a fetching smile, and bright blue eyes. It was his intelligence that finally captured me totally. This I might add was in the very early 60's Up until I met my husband, I had led a very sheltered life, of exposure to men. I went to an all girls Catholic School. I had NO boyfriends, so how the hell I knew I didn't like him flat out still makes me wonder as I had no scale to measure him by. He on the other hand, had been married and fathered several children, which in my book was already a huge black mark against him. Amazing how the black turned to invisible without even an eraser. We were married for almost 30 wonderful years. He was funny, intelligent, compassionate, and most definitely loving. When I lost him to a sudden heart attack, the larger part of my heart went with him. That was in 91. I have remained single since that year, as to date I have never come close to meeting anyone that has the brain or intelligence level he had. We were compatible on all levels of life that you share with someone. Now that I am at that "advanced" age lol, I doubt highly I will encounter that magical combination of wit and intelligence, along with good looks that will make me turn my head and look at them twice. So, yep, I can attest to the fact that you CAN have it all, but it's difficult to find, and once it's found, you stop looking and the rest of the world fades, along with all the worries, because you know you can rely on the one who shares your life and time with you, that they will shoulder not only half of the burden, but part of your share as well. You can't wait to go to bed at night "wink" and you can't wait to wake up in the morning just to know you can begin the day with that special one person that makes you life so sparkling and shiny and filled with anticipation of what this new day will bring. Lady [blog talldarkavg1]
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Perhaps change is in order Papy. We never know how long this ride will last. Why not spend your time as happy as possible? I'm a and i'm here to stay
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I agree with the first half completely. As far as the second half...I would change it to always instead of sometimes. [blog talldarkavg1]
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For me, it just doesn't work anymore without a mental connexion, too. Maybe I'm a prude. [blog talldarkavg1]
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Thank you! No doubt you will find it. Once grasped...you understand what it feels like. Plus, you have so much to offer. As for me...I hope I do too. All I have to offer is a penis with novelty flashing turn signals. Too bad more women don't recognize how important these are on the dark. [blog talldarkavg1]
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