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Here's Some Food For Thought When It Comes To Behavior...Maybe
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Here's Some Food For Thought When It Comes To Behavior...Maybe When I created the membership contest ( Win a FREE Gold Membership or a FREE Silver Membership Really ) I had high hopes that this event might serve as an enticement to everyone. An enticement to share your acts of goodwill with the rest of us no matter if they were done 10 years ago, last year, or this morning. I also hoped that it might inspire a way of seeing the world. I think, in many, it has. However, I failed to be really clear as to what this event actually is and what it means. This event is not intended to reward someone for doing what they do everyday. It isn't intended to solicit the boastful either. It is intended to inspire. Even if for but a day. It is intended to acknowledge and reward those who inspire us. Those who motivate us and resultantly lead us into a better self...through their own example. There is quite a difference between boasting and inspiring. Sharing with others what might be every day behavior and therefor normal to you, just may serve as an epiphany to another. For example, If I walked around everyday with my fly open and, with a cocky attitude, told everyone I have a 14 inch penis...that just might be boasting. However, if I shared a story about putting out a forest fire, and thusly saving a busload of camping nuns, with my 14 inch penis...that might be seen as...OK, bad example. But you get the idea. If you already have a Gold or Silver Membership and don't want/need another one...tell me and if you win the money will be donated to whatever charity/organization you wish in your name. Or anonymous. Or in someone else's name/behalf/etc. The point is this...this event isn't about you at all. It's about doing for others. Whomever did the act is of less consequence than the act itself. The membership awards are to inspire sharing of the acts. Not rewards for doing them. Actually, even if it was a reward for doing something kind...the result outweighs the means doesn't it? LOL, and no...this isn't Lobby money. If you have witnessed an act of kindness and want to share it, please do so here and now. Or anywhere else. Just please get involved. What you may consider a normal simple act of common sense behavior may change another's day. Or maybe give them enough faith in others to see one more day. At the very worst, they just might smile and feel a little better. And so might you.  [blog talldarkavg1] |
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That's OK. It's true of all of us...until we do something to change it. [blog talldarkavg1]
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10/26/2008 10:16 am |
ill giveit a shot havet visit my post or blogg to readsuch thingsas there my feeling and inperration thank you have no gold member or siler but would love to try your test to see if can get one that you sparrow
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ill giveit a shot havet visit my post or blogg to readsuch thingsas there my feeling and inperration thank you have no gold member or siler but would love to try your test to see if can get one that you sparrow [blog talldarkavg1]
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 pet pet....good memory! OK, I'll do my best to keep it smartass-free Sunday. Yes, post them here please. Or anywhere else.[blog talldarkavg1]
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OK...now all together..."Different". Just curious, why did you want us all to say different? [blog talldarkavg1]
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You know...... I may seem to be some pollyanna to a few, when in reality .....uhhh I am. and it hurts me to think that I would have to toot a horn that has never been honked uuhhhh well whatever. If it meant having money donated..... maybe I would begin listing some things of merit if after 15 days you promised to delete them... even if I dont win. my only requirement...15 days after I list them they are history. a blank page...win or no win..... I need your word. a handshake would be nicer but your word will suffice 
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Thanks Tall, I needed that clarification, and from reading other comments in other posts about your "contest" I know other's did as well. I can't say as I have anything for you on good deeds I've done, but Swallow has a post dedicated to me that sure made me feel really good. I know he loves me a lot, but that post had totally made my day. Even though all it is is a pic he found out in cyber space somewhere, it worked, he must have sensed I was feeling down on myself again!   Blessed Be
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10/27/2008 3:40 pm |
Oh. I'm so saddened by peoples either lack of response, or, probably more to the point, more of an "issue," so many peoples response being either something along the lines of, "oh I'm just an ordinary Joe Blow, I just do my best," (minimising just how conscious a task that can be in this day and age,) or worse, "Oh no, I don't want peoples to think me a 'do-gooder' - that's not truly being good." Or some such. Being community prone myself, and having been one of these people who saw "nothing but sadness and misery - no way out,this is all there is." Kindness a thing of "suspicion." Or flat out not even having the capacity to recognise it. This is the reason I was just so thrilled at your attempt here. Soooooo much sadness comes from people (especially nowadays,) being soooo disconnected not only from themselves ... to "busy" to even ask what they feel, who they are, are they happy, what DO they think, let alone that others too, may be just as (forcedly) busy or just as far from their true selves too. "Self" lonely for self, lonely for an "other" to share this with, "each to their own," thinking themselves a lone, shares nothing of this with any other. Most 'mediated' news or information "bad news stuff," hardly anyone knows nowadays just how quite often confused, lonely and just plain tired we ALL are. And yet the TRUTH is that the world, human beings, is full of GLORY. People FULL of kindness. It's happening EVERY DAY. Every minute there is some one doing something truly FABULOUS big or small for some one else. EVERY MINUTE. True. There are ZILLIONS of quiet and not so quiet peoples and organsations or not, "groups" of peoples doing just so much darn good "stuff," and most of us JUST DO NOT KNOW about the "good stuff." Only the horror? (Perhaps largely because of this yet again 'mediated' or 'constructed' way of being where "but 'tis immodest to blow ones own horn." ??? But what of those who need to know? All of us of course but, how many people do you the reader know, think, "Oh this world sucks. What is happening nowadays? Oh it's such a sad sad cold hard place. Life." Are you one of them? What about the ones for whom it truly is a cold cold hungry lonely place? No peace, no kindness, no safety, no "food" of any sort. Physiological or psychological let alone emotional ergo spiritual? How can we show them/tell them otherwise, if we do not know this SHOW this, ourselves? If not SHOUT IT FROM THE HIGHEST ROOFTOPS. There are millions zillions of GLORIOUS human beings. We are NOT the few few little and nasty little bitter hungry angry small minded greedy ones. Those in reality are few! (Thank the "lord" or Budha or Jesu, or Quantum Physics but thank SOMETHING.) "They" are few. "We" the average, the "norm," the human being shmunckins who "do their best" and more so so much more: "We" are Legion. Not the nasties. Read up on it. It's only a few who "spoil the broth." But those darn few know how to sell it. Fear and poison that is. Segregation. Apartheid of the species. Man from Woman, child from adult, poor from rich, country from country, nation from nation, shit town/village from town/village, fighting for "resources." This is bullshit. So yeah ... SHOUT IT OUT LOUD. Please do say how wonderful you are and that Kindness Abounds in your home, your life, in any kind of form or fashion. Humans are full of loveliness. Humans actually have to be "trained to kill." Trained to be "unfeeling." That aught to say something hey? Byeeee lovely lovely LOVELY not so average one at all at all. THRILLED to "know you." Thrilled to bits. And oh my "God" to "meet you" on a "sex site." HA! How utterly utterly droll. Byeeee.   It's all in the mind. It's all in the heart.Life is measured by the number of time’s one’s soul is stirred. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
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10/27/2008 3:45 pm |
Ooops. "Pologies darlin. Did not realise how carried away I had gotten. This one such a bafflement to me. Please remove if too much of a rant. Byeee.  Life is measured by the number of time’s one’s soul is stirred. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
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10/27/2008 3:53 pm |
The below quote is from the book ... A Return to Love Reflections on the Principles of A Course in Miracles by Marianne Williamson This quote has been incorrectly attributed to Nelson Mandela in his inaugural speech of 1994. He never spoke these words in his speeches that year. You can read Nelson's actual inaugural speeches at these links:http://Affairlook.com://www.anc.org.za/ancdocs/history/mandela/1994/inaugpta.html "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn't serve the world. There's nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us, it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others." Life is measured by the number of time’s one’s soul is stirred. Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence.
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To do an act of kindness is one thing, but to do it and then tell everyone about it and bring attention to your act...well, it takes something away from the deed...don't ya think? Someone performed an act of kindness to me back in 1993....anonymously. It changed my life. What a year 1993 was for me. My husband left the family on Jan 10th....well, that was the good part...whoa....let me start again....lol. Knowing that my NitWit spouse was humping college girls while I was pregnant with his child, I also knew that I had to prepare to kick his sorry ass out and begin my life again...but this time with two kids. I graduated from a top notch university but had devoted the last ten years to raising my family. The world had passed me by technically, and how on earth would I ever find a job? I got a job helping decorate movie sets...no, not for the porn business, though that might be fun. I worked in real film production....like for movies and television. I was putting in 12-16 hours per day on the unglamorous side of this biz......and although I loved every minute of it.... it was a hard, especially as a single mother. I was not receiving child support from Nitwit (my kids' father) at that time....nor for the first 1.5 years. Six months after Nitwit left, my dad dropped dead. After this, Nitwit decided in order to not pay child support, he would try and sue me for custody of my kids since I worked such long hours. Life was stressful to say the least. I had extra expenses with the kids during the previous month's end, and I had no money to make my mortgage. What was I going to do? I had about a week to find $936.00. I prayed, I worked extra hours and ...well, I worried. One day I went to the mailbox, and there was an envelope addressed to me...in a handwriting I did not recognize. There was no return address. I opened the letter and found a cashier's check/certified check for 1K....and that is not lingo for a drugpayment for 1 kilo of cocaine. It is also not a short foot race. It was and is one thousand dollars. There was no note, no signature, no return address....just this certified check. I called the bank on which it was drawn and told the woman that answered the phone what I received. I told her that I was a single mom, that I could not accept it. I was not dating at all, and I was concerned that
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The remainder of my story went into some black hole....so per request, I will finish my story. ************** .........I was concerned that the giver could be a stalker or he would black main me with this gift. Sad that we cannot accept kindness, huh? The woman put me on hold, came back and said,
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I think a lot of people choose to hold these acts as quiet transactions. But your intentions were in the right place. Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]
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10/28/2008 6:22 am |
I think you were merely encouraging us to share some positive energy. I had already decided prior to reading this "if my entry won" to ask you to give it to some poor standard member male who couldn't do anything on this site, because a "ball" wouldn't enhance my experience here in the least. HOWEVER, hearing great stories of people behaving beautifully would enhance my experience. With your blessing, I would like to link your contest on my blog, see what people are able to contribute (no not pimp myself, ugh)... I get the premise. It's not about "high profile good deeds" it's about sharing our humanity. I commend your efforts. I Am FFE, and I continue to approve these messages [post 1930488]
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I think you were merely encouraging us to share some positive energy. I had already decided prior to reading this "if my entry won" to ask you to give it to some poor standard member male who couldn't do anything on this site, because a "ball" wouldn't enhance my experience here in the least. HOWEVER, hearing great stories of people behaving beautifully would enhance my experience. With your blessing, I would like to link your contest on my blog, see what people are able to contribute (no not pimp myself, ugh)... I get the premise. It's not about "high profile good deeds" it's about sharing our humanity. I commend your efforts. [blog talldarkavg1]
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I have a gold and I really don't do anything worthy of a 'pay it forward' because that's what this is sir, even if you've couched it in somewhat different terms. I read in the paper of a horrific fire near here, where the real heros came out. I think that's where you see true selflessness and heroism, in the face of tragedy. One man went to every apartment in the burning building (quite a few, I think 20 families were displaced), knocking on doors and making sure folks got out. Another couldn't get down from his third story apartment, so he climbed down over the balcony fronts carrying his infant son to safety and then went back up for his wife. I hope you get some stories such as that, because those are a pleasure to read. For me? I work at an low-income health clinic and do what I can for the folks who are our patients. I push paper, so I don't do anything substantial like save lives, but I like to think that every pensioner who comes in that I can help by making sure their insurances pay and that they understand the system, is a personal victory. Not bragging (I hope )  just sayin...Give the prizes to those who do make a big difference like the cops and firemen on here...those are your target audience! Thanks for doing this, this is the first really upbeat positive thing I've seen around here (excluding the humor obviously) for many a long day... 
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I have a gold and I really don't do anything worthy of a 'pay it forward' because that's what this is sir, even if you've couched it in somewhat different terms. I read in the paper of a horrific fire near here, where the real heros came out. I think that's where you see true selflessness and heroism, in the face of tragedy. One man went to every apartment in the burning building (quite a few, I think 20 families were displaced), knocking on doors and making sure folks got out. Another couldn't get down from his third story apartment, so he climbed down over the balcony fronts carrying his infant son to safety and then went back up for his wife. I hope you get some stories such as that, because those are a pleasure to read. For me? I work at an low-income health clinic and do what I can for the folks who are our patients. I push paper, so I don't do anything substantial like save lives, but I like to think that every pensioner who comes in that I can help by making sure their insurances pay and that they understand the system, is a personal victory. Not bragging (I hope ) just sayin...Give the prizes to those who do make a big difference like the cops and firemen on here...those are your target audience! Thanks for doing this, this is the first really upbeat positive thing I've seen around here (excluding the humor obviously) for many a long day... [blog talldarkavg1]
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I think a lot of people choose to hold these acts as quiet transactions. But your intentions were in the right place. [blog talldarkavg1]
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Masturbating may be a quiet transaction, kindness shouldn't be. Like I said, everyone is different. Just another perspective... Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]
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I think everyone has their own take on this. When I see kindness in action, a partial motivation is often a subconscious desire for a pat on the head somehow, from somewhere. It doesn't make it wrong at all. A good deed is a good deed. Nevertheless, some people prefer to sidestep the whole "wow, you did a great thing!" thing. They feel like it keeps their motivation pure. Like I said, everyone is different. Just another perspective... [blog talldarkavg1]
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I gotcha. It's like some people prefer sex without golf tees. I don't understand why, but I accept it. Yeah, I'm still [blog 1hotwahine]
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 why am I tempted to say, "Here's here all week folks. Don't forget to tip your server."?[blog talldarkavg1]
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WHAT???!!! NO golf tees??!!! OK, that's just plain weird. [blog talldarkavg1]
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