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Do Long Distance Relationships Work? Yes They do!
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Do Long Distance Relationships Work? Yes They do! I apologize for not having written much of late, but with the great reduction in little Kenny's size, I find myself not only able to able to run faster and jump higher but able to retain consciousness when obtaining an erection. No more passing out from massive blood loss to my penis. So, I have been out and about and have sorely neglected capturing my pointless thoughts in here. I am working on a 10 step program to mend my ways. And, between the penis claims and my wise cracks about Touchdown Jesus...I should be struck by lightning anytime. I do intend to post a letter to God tomorrow which I think will straighten me out with the Gster. Many of us have wrestled from time to time with the thought of a long distance relationship. Good? Bad? Ugly? Not worth considering? I too had a bout with the thought a couple of years ago. Here is what I discovered, learned, and gained. Many of us flirt and sometimes even meet others from this site as go about our blogging endeavors. I created my blog as my effort to meet the right person for me just as many of you have. I hoped that somewhere...there just might be someone who saw through my antics and beheld the person behind them. I wanted my blog to be a place where thought was not required. A place where the day to day burdens life deals might be lifted, if only for a few minutes. A place where a bunch of people can hang out and have some fun. I have been pleased by all the good will, fun, laughs, and tender moments we have all shared. From my very first post to now, I consider myself very fortunate to have crossed each of your paths. Shortly after I started posting my thoughts I had a particular reader that intrigued me. When I say intrigued I mean it in every sense. This member had no photo other than a leg shot. I began watching her blog and considering the replies here and elsewhere. I had absolutely no physical presence to go on. Merely a personality. Or, at least, a personality that was depicted in here. I became attracted to her thoughts, her ideals, her entire personality. I had nothing else to go on other than that. 2 years ago, in Chicago, she attended the first convention. I was ever so anticipatory about seeing her. I finally did. I was amazed at what happened. I saw her, but yet I didn't. When I saw her physical being, all I could envision was her personality. Don't get me wrong, I didn't ignore what my eyes sent me, it just didn't take a priority position. I thought she was very pretty and physically attractive...but that personality just held my attention. After we parted in Chicago we keep in touch by telephone and continued to do so for 2 years. All along we learned more and more about what each other was as a person. There was never a physical presence to act as a distraction. Only a personality. All along I thought about my past relationships. Many of them in fact when sour because there was a physical attraction...period. All too often I found myself so wrapped up in a container I neglected to notice the contents. When the attraction wore off...nothing was left. I think all too often we all get sidetracked by our eyes and forget to listen. Listening tells us who the person is inside. Listening tells us our future with this person, not looking. As time passes, our containers change. Rarely for the better I might add. However, to our personality, to the personality of another, time is a wonderful thing. It enriches. It adds depth and substance. It generates wisdom and understanding. It batters down prejudice and mistrust. It helps to create a person worth having...both in ourself and to another. My long distance relationship was a blessing. It enabled me to see clearly without my eyes. If given a chance, it will do so for everyone. My goal was happiness with the right person. How long does it take to find this person? I don't know. But what I do know is this...the right person can never be found unless we seek the right qualities and are willing to learn and offer the right qualities. 3 weeks ago ExploreMore4Me closed on her house, loaded up her stuff, and moved from upstate New York to Indiana. We have set up house together. There were times that the 2 year journey was trying and very difficult because we weren't able to touch or hold each other. We went 11 months once without laying eyes on each other at all. The only communication was telephone and email. Was it difficult? At the time very. As I look back...not at all. We both moved methodically, deliberately, and allowed our beings to shape the future. EM4M will be opening the photography studio with me in a matter of weeks. So...if you ask me about long distance relationships...I have to say YES! I wouldn't have it any other way. Patience and never losing sight of what you want works. I see some incredible personalities in here. Some really wonderful people. Each of you too are searching. Perhaps, in time, you may find a long distance start is something worth considering. Remember, if I've said it once...I've said it a hundred times: "You can paint a 2 by 4 any color you want...even then, it still can't fly you to Boston." I'm not sure how that applies, I just figured I'd pass it along.  [blog talldarkavg1] |
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Thank you for that wonderful, inspiring post! What you have done...that is exactly what I've been hoping for...for someone to read my rambly posts and realize he's been waiting for me all his life.  And of course, he would be an excellent blogger, as well...because I love the personality that goes along with it. I am so happy for you!  Take care!
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10/30/2007 12:33 pm |
 Thank you for sharing how the long term relationship has worked for you. I have heard both good and bad regarding this issue. I hope you continue to grow and develop in your relationship (seeing the core and not just the external) together.Steven
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10/30/2007 12:34 pm |
I'm so happy for you..I to am in a long distance relationship...10 months and we have yet to see each other in person..I agree with you, it's what inside their heart and how they make you feel about yourself when you are with them...
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Congratulations! I've seen some long distance things here work out very well. I've also seen disasters. I'm glad yours worked out so well.
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10/30/2007 12:51 pm |
congrats on your long distance relationship working out! I too met my bf and then proceeded to have a long distance relationship with him for almost a year. I moved in with him 3 months ago. It has been a journey since I got here...you never truely know someone's quirks/personality until you live with them for a while lol.
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10/30/2007 3:15 pm |
Wonderful post! Thanks for sharing! Good luck to you both.
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Congats, Big Guy! Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde
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And Congrats, Little Kenny!! Most people are other people... FUCKING CHARACTER LIMIT!!! ~Oscar Wilde
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10/30/2007 3:36 pm |
All the very best to you and EM4M! As for myself, Tall, I'm in search of the perfect 20-something, hot and sexy nympho-babe who just happens to be the sole heiress to some great family fortune and who lives within a convenient 20 minute commute. 
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10/30/2007 4:46 pm |
Yessss!!! I'm so glad you two are out of the waiting room and into your life together...  lucky boy... all that happiness and hazelnut coffee too... Not all who wander are lost.
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What a beautiful love story with a happy ending. Congrats to both of you. Org.
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I am so glad for both of you....Keep us posted hotandhorny1082
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Congrats I always love hearing success stories.
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Yes well all of the mush is nice , but what about the back Big Fella? As always Swallow
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. Well now, I, for one, am downright pissed off!!! After contracting, at great expense of both money and personal time, to have my monitor, keyboard, computer, desk, walls, floor, ceiling, and dog all Scotch-Guarded, here I suddenly find myself with not a single aliquot of coffee consumed nasally ejected. 'Kin-A, guy- get with the program!!! As any canny local can tell you, Logan is a miserable airport to use when flying to Boston. Manchester NH's MHT is a breeze- easy in, easy out, slicker than Bulge's trained pet sheep (Who was yet another Blogsville success story. With an actual woman, not just the sheep...). Kudos to youse twos, too! . . Been a while since they last let me out into polite society. Resurfacing, catching a breath, & catching up.  And while I got my Broad-Brimmed Pimping Hat on, could I cajole all of y'all to Comment on, Alone In A Cloud? It's probably the best thing that I've written! Lately... .
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The worst part about the whole long distance thing is when you want a hug. The lack of sex can be overcome, but the lack of arms encircling you when you want it is my biggest complaint. That being said, my last trip (2500 miles round-trip) was well worth it because I met someone that will be my best friend for the rest of my life.Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.
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Sniff! Beautifully written! This is what I hope eventually will happen to me as well - and so I keep blogging. <- Profile photo courtesy of Bonding with coworkers
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10/31/2007 9:23 am |
hey TDA thats really good you got yourself someone to share your life with enjoy and take care of each other roaming the cyber streets of blogland  
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The internet can be a magical place. I met the lovely Mrs. Bloggerfeld on an online dating site (alas, not a swinging single site, but still...) and we're actually still going strong nearly six years later. In fact, going quite a bit stronger since she learned about some of my deepest darkest secrets (I bathe in butter), and the path just keeps expanding (I hope to introduce her to bacon fat soon). There's a perverse part of me that would like to listen to some of the conversations you and the new roomie have (who among us hasn't longed for a Touchdown Jesus moment over morning coffee?), but then I come back to my senses and realize that I value what remains of my sanity. For those of us lucky enough to have found someone whom we can not only tolerate in the long term, but who puts that little extra zing in our fling, we to live out something many others don't. So, congrats on turning this long-distance relationship into a short-distance one. Now get back to work amusing us! karlbloggerfeld - Dry-humping your legs since 2007.
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'You can paint a 2 by 4 any color you want...even then, it still can't fly you to Boston.' I will add this saying to the ones I hold the dearest, as I do to those from Fulghum and Confucius....  Actually, I am a bit worried; it made sense....  Congratulations, of course. 
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