Excited for Halloween Fun.........
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Posted:Oct 17, 2012 12:20 pm
Last Updated:Oct 21, 2012 9:34 pm
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Every year on Halloween we attend a Swingers Party. We LOVE the Halloween Parties. Swingers love to dress up actually swingers love the chance to dress up and be naughty. Preparing for Halloween parties is serious swinger business. Planning and discussion of costumes typically begins at the end of summer. And the chatter typically includes questions like: Who’s going as what? Are you dressing as a couple or each doing your own thing? Can I borrow the wig you wore last year? Can you help me think of something more interesting than “sexy cheerleader?” Every year we have attended we have dressed in a couple’s costume. This photo is from MY costume last year.
This year I am more excited for Halloween than normal. I have had our costumes for quite a while, I have thrown myself into decorating & have even entered a decorating contest. But my main excitement is the costumes……because this is the first year we are not dressing in a matching couples costume……we are dressing in a matching THREESOME costume. I am so excited…..I am attending a Halloween party with my two lovers, the two most important men in my life & everyone will know who they are, because their costumes compliment mine. We will be……well……..you just have to attend to see, I am sure you will be able to figure out who we are. |
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Poly Time
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Posted:Oct 16, 2012 1:34 pm
Last Updated:Oct 18, 2012 6:44 am
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This morning I was chatting with a good friend (who knows all about our lifestyle & our polyamorous relationship.) She was inviting us over for dinner. Which brought up an interesting set of questions; “Who are you inviting over?” “Just the adults? All 3 adults or only Hubby & I?” “Everyone?” It was an interesting conversation. When you invite ALL of us, you are inviting 10 people. That can be a HUGE burden. (Hubby & I have 4 , & the Boyfriend has 3 .)
We do not live together with my boyfriend, but most all of our weekends are spent with him. Time Management when in a Poly relationship can be very exhausting to say the least. I have a job, hubby has a job & the boyfriend has a job. Plus we have a family & he has a family. He shares custody with his ex wife & so there is that to factor in too. For now we have found a pretty good time management system. The boyfriend spends his week at home with his & we (Hubby and I ) spend our week at home together with our . On weekends he comes to our house. Sometimes he is with his , sometimes he isn’t. They are always welcome at our house & our get along well together.
We seem to be in a sort of “inclusive” form of Polyamory, one that sees all the relationships as interconnected, and that seeks to build relationships which are mutually compatible and supporting. It means that we can spend time together, and the hubby & the boyfriend don't view each other as competition. It also means everyone involved feels comfortable with everyone else involved, and tend to be aware of the effects of each of their relationships on all the others. I am lucky in that my hubby & my boyfriend are very in sync with each other. They are friends, not just my separate lovers. They like to spend time together. My favorite moments are spent when all 3 of us are together…doing whatever we find fun. I love the fact that I can spend time with both of them, without them feeling the need to compete.
I truly get the best of both worlds, I get my weeks spent with my traditional family & the weekends spent with my “extended” family. |
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Polyamory or Swinging or BOTH
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Posted:Oct 11, 2012 10:04 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 7:09 pm
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So we’ve been enjoying the swinging lifestyle for a few years, and are having a blast. But then one of our play partners started to become more than just a sex partner. I (she) started developing feelings for him…..Dare we call it polyamory?
"Polyamory is the practice of having more than one loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved. The relationships are long-term, intimate, and usually (but not necessarily) sexual. Persons who consider themselves emotionally suited to such relationships may define themselves as polyamorous, often abbreviated to poly."
-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Polyamory
" Swinging, sometimes referred to in North America as the swinging lifestyle, is non-monogamous sexual activity, treated much like any other social activity, that can be experienced as a couple. Swinging has been called wife swapping in the past, but this term is archaic and does not accurately describe the full range of sexual activities in which swingers may take part."-- en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Swinging
You get together, you play, and then you go home. That’s kind of what it’s about right? But Polyamory takes it to a new level and, what I would consider, a much more enlightened level where you are actually in love relationships with multiple partners. It’s a true and total sharing of one another and not many couples (or individuals) are able to do that. We are trying, we are working our way through all the kinks. It all comes down to communication. We are learning that we all must communicate. I with my husband & with my lover. My husband with my lover. It’s a very intricate, very carefully balanced set of relationships.
The biggest reason why many people feel uncomfortable in a Swinging or Polyamorous relationship is "jealousy". It’s one of the biggest emotional issues that all couples face. So we have tried to find ways to make each other feel really special and absolutely certain about where you stand in your own relationship. I have learned to be much more vocal, telling my husband as much as possible how happy he makes me, how important he is to me, etc…instead of taking for granted that he knows. He needs to hear it from me NOW especially. It’s a balancing act all the time…..but it is worth it.
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Vegas ......Part 2 :)
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Posted:Oct 6, 2012 10:16 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:34 pm
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After a fun day exploring Vegas we head back to the hotel to get cleaned up & off to another club. We all shower, get our clubbing clothes on & call our friend the cabbie. He arrives & off we go on a wild ride through the streets of Vegas. We are a little more comfortable tonight, as some of us have already been to this club and know what to expect. We pull into the parking lot, the cabbie tells us to call him when we are ready to go & away he goes.
We walk to the door, pay the entry fee & walk in. It is very dimly lit inside, but there is just enough light to see a few people lounging around on the sofas. We grab some water from the bar & head back into the back area, showing our friends around as we go. We came to this club for a specific reason, when we were here last there was a swing in the open play area that I really wanted to play on, but never got a chance. I was very excited to see that the swing was still there, & nobody was playing on it.
After showing our friends all around & a quick bathroom break, we all headed back to the swing. Hubby & I started out kissing and touching…..he slowly stripped me & helped me into the swing. As I did it became very apparent that everyone was watching. It was a little unnerving yet a little exciting at the same time. I closed my eyes & just let myself feel…..the hands, the mouths, the touching was very erotic. There is just something extremely exciting to feel hands running ALL over you & not knowing for sure who is involved. It didn’t take long before I was begging my husband to slide inside me. While he was rocking that swing & my world the hands didn’t stop. My orgasms were rolling over me……over & over & over.
We decided it was time to move the party into a little more private location, well behind a closed door so that we could control who was touching at least. Once there, the fun didn’t stop & neither did the orgasms…. I got to experience a woman's touch, which I have been sorely lacking for quite awhile now. But most of all we got to show off even more. I love it when people are watching me & I know they are getting turned on & there was for sure a lot of watching & a lot of turned on people. We played until my mouth & my pussy were too worn out to play anymore, then we calmly got dressed, walked out to chat with the owners & wait for our cabbie.
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3 minutes.....3 minutes
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Posted:Oct 3, 2012 9:30 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:35 pm
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Wow, what an amazing extended weekend…..we did so much had so much fun. One Blog is for sure not going to cover it all.
Let’s start with our first club experience this trip in Vegas. Can we say we were pleasantly amazed?? We called a cab to get a ride to the club & we lucked upon the most hilarious cab driver in Vegas. He knew the score, knew where we were going, & answered ALL of our questions honestly. He even offered to stop & get us alcohol because the club does not provide it. He was by far the best cabbie we have ever ridden with.
We get to the house where the party was being held & we skeptically walked in the door. Skeptically because the cabbie had told us that there would be 150+ people there & we didn’t believe him. There were people EVERYWHERE lol We were amazed. There were people lined up at the “bar” getting soft drinks, there were people sitting around at tables (50+) chatting, there were people dancing, there were people playing pool, there were people IN the pool. And that doesn’t even cover the “playing” going on.
We grabbed a drink, sat down at a table & immediately started chatting with people around us. We were made to feel VERY welcome. It was a hugely diverse group of people, every size, shape, race, & age you can imagine. We have been in the lifestyle for 7+ years & we have never been to a party with that many people where THAT much is going on. Everywhere you looked something different was happening. To the right of our table was a bar where people were getting their flirt on. Behind us was the pool table & there were some naughty games being played there. To the left of us was the hot tub & swimming pool & let’s just say there were a lot of WET games being played. The table right in front of us a gal was showing a guy just how good she is orally. That all was within 25 feet of our table, a little over whelming to say the least lol
We ventured around the building quite a lot, checked out the “play” rooms…..some yummy yummy happenings going on in there. All in all we probably spent 3+ hours at the club having lots of fun times with our newfound friends. When we decided we were going to leave we called our friend the cabbie to come get us. One of the couples with us decided to run up & “check out” the couples only area while we waited for the cab, they assumed it would take him 20+ minutes to arrive. Little did they know, he said he would be there in under 5. As we are standing at the doorway waiting for him we realize we are missing the other couple, they never returned from upstairs. So we have to go looking for them. OOPS…..as we get upstairs, all we see is a tangle of naked limbs everywhere. Finally after much searching we find our couple, in a compromising situation lol We had to go tap her on the shoulder & say “3 minutes…..the cab will be here in 3 minutes.” They barely made it in time & it has now become a HUGE joke between us.
More Vegas to COME……..later………stay tuned |
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3 minutes......3minutes........
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Posted:Oct 3, 2012 10:54 am
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:38 pm
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Wow, what an amazing extended weekend…..we did so much had so much fun. One Blog is for sure not going to cover it all.
Let’s start with our first club experience this trip in Vegas. Can we say we were pleasantly amazed?? We called a cab to get a ride to the club & we lucked upon the most hilarious cab driver in Vegas. He knew the score, knew where we were going, & answered ALL of our questions honestly. He even offered to stop & get us alcohol because the club does not provide it. He was by far the best cabbie we have ever ridden with.
We get to the house where the party was being held & we skeptically walked in the door. Skeptically because the cabbie had told us that there would be 150+ people there & we didn’t believe him. There were people EVERYWHERE lol We were amazed. There were people lined up at the “bar” getting soft drinks, there were people sitting around at tables (50+) chatting, there were people dancing, there were people playing pool, there were people IN the pool. And that doesn’t even cover the “playing” going on.
We grabbed a drink, sat down at a table & immediately started chatting with people around us. We were made to feel VERY welcome. It was a hugely diverse group of people, every size, shape, race, & age you can imagine. We have been in the lifestyle for 7+ years & we have never been to a party with that many people where THAT much is going on. Everywhere you looked something different was happening. To the right of our table was a bar where people were getting their flirt on. Behind us was the pool table & there were some naughty games being played there. To the left of us was the hot tub & swimming pool & let’s just say there were a lot of WET games being played. The table right in front of us a gal was showing a guy just how good she is orally. That all was within 25 feet of our table, a little over whelming to say the least lol
We ventured around the building quite a lot, checked out the “play” rooms…..some yummy yummy happenings going on in there. All in all we probably spent 3+ hours at the club having lots of fun times with our newfound friends. When we decided we were going to leave we called our friend the cabbie to come get us. One of the couples with us decided to run up & “check out” the couples only area while we waited for the cab, they assumed it would take him 20+ minutes to arrive. Little did they know, he said he would be there in under 5. As we are standing at the doorway waiting for him we realize we are missing the other couple, they never returned from upstairs. So we have to go looking for them. OOPS…..as we get upstairs, alls we see is a tangle of naked limbs everywhere. Finally after much searching we find our couple, in a compromising situation lol We had to go tap her on the shoulder & say “3 minutes…..the cab will be here in 3 minutes.” They barely made it in time & it has now become a HUGE joke between us.
More Vegas to COME……..later………stay tuned  |
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My first......
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Posted:Sep 27, 2012 9:18 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:39 pm
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It was just a plain hotel room with a king size bed, standard hotel dresser & bathroom. But what was going on on that king size bed was FAR from plain, far from standard.
It was MY first time girl/girl play with NO one else involved. No men, nobody…Just the two of us. She was amazing….her tongue was pierced & oh my did it feel good on my clit. Her clit was pierced & oh my did it feel good on my tongue. The way I felt when she licked me, sucked me, touched me made me realize I was NOT bi CURIOUS, I was completely & totally all out Bi. I loved having her mouth on me. She made me shiver, moan, & totally come apart. I never knew that being with another woman could feel so good. Her touch was gentle yet firm. Her taste was beyond compare…..I have yet to taste another woman that was so sweet yet tangy, believe me I have been looking.
Wow, now I got myself all worked up & better go deal with this so
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Viva Las Vegas....
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Posted:Sep 26, 2012 9:14 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:40 pm
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If someone would have told me when we started out in the Lifestyle years ago that today I would be looking forward to a trip to Vegas for the reasons I am, I would have told them they were crazy. But now it just seems like a normal part of life.
A few months ago we started looking for a “boy toy” for me. Not someone to replace my husband, but someone to enhance & give me even MORE. I wanted someone that would be at my beck & call. Someone that would come whenever I wanted them to, basically a “go to” Affairlook buddy. We had quite a few guys that messaged us, but only one really fit the levels of what we wanted. We have had more fun with him then we ever thought possible. He has seamlessly fit into our lives, enhancing them in an amazing way.
But we live in a small community and like most everyone in the lifestyle, we have to keep things a little quiet. So, no real showing of affection when we are out & about in our town. But Vegas is a whole different story…..I am looking forward to this trip. Not just because we get to hang out with some really good friends in the lifestyle, not just because we are going to check out some clubs…..not the glitz, not the lights, not the all night party that never stops. No, what I am looking forward to is the chance to be myself…the chance to walk down the street holding hands with both my husband & my boyfriend. The chance to touch them both & NOT CARE who sees me, because it won’t affect my business, my , or my real vanilla life.
VIVA LA VEGAS……. |
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10 Reasons NOT to swing....
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Posted:Sep 26, 2012 6:27 pm
Last Updated:Apr 9, 2015 9:29 pm
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I already posted the 10 Reasons to Swing....So it's only fair I give you the flipside too.
The lifestyle is not a lifestyle for everyone. Swinging can ruin marriages and break friendships. There are right and wrong reasons for swinging. If your marriage is strong & crack free, swinging will strengthen it, But on the flip side, if you have small fissures in your marriage, Swinging will make them HUGE. If you are getting into the lifestyle for any of the following reasons, DON’T, Its NOT for you….
1. If you are currently infected with HIV, Aids, herpes, syphilis, gonorrhea, crabs or any other form of a sexually transmitted disease you should not attempt to become a swinger. Swinger groups are very tight knit and eventually someone will ask you if you are STD free. Drug & Disease free is the norm in the lifestyle.
2. You are looking to cheat on a partner, spouse or significant other. If you are married and anyone in the swinging community finds out that you are using swinging to cheat you could be black balled from all parties and events. Refer to my previous blog about the differences in swinging vs cheating.
3. You are trying to get back at a partner, spouse or significant other for cheating on you. What happens if you decide to forgive this person and then have to explain your own behavior. What if you were wrong about the whole thing to begin with? Swingers don't like to be used any more than anyone else and playing with another couple for the sake of revenge is j using them.
4. You want to convince your wife to do another woman. This has become such a common occurrence that many swinger's groups and parties prohibit men without partners. No matter what you say or do if your wife does not want to have a sexual encounter with another woman or couple, swinging with other people is not going to convince her. Almost every single experienced swinger can tell you stories about people they've met trying to do just this. It never works and it never will. Rent some porn, buy some toys, fantasize. Most bi women in the lifestyle are Bi because they LIKE being with another woman…not to turn someone on, but because it turns them on.
5. Everyone gets tired of their partner from time to time. This is not a valid reason for swinging. Swinging is meant to enhance marriages not tear them further apart. If you are both tired of your sex life and are open to having sex with others then by all means give it a try but do your homework first. No swinger wants to get down and dirty with a couple who are going to freak out halfway through and realize they made a mistake. And believe me, it happens….
6. You are trying to "keep" your partner. Swinging will not make your partner stay faithful to you. If you are agreeing to swinging because you think you'll be able to keep your eye on your man/woman and make them happy at the same time, think again. This usually ends in disaster with one or both people in the relationship jealous and resentful. Besides if he or she is determined to cheat on you they are going to find another way to do it without you there.
7. You think your partner is fat, old, ugly, etc. It doesn't matter. That's just hurtful and won't get you anywhere in swinger circles. Get counseling and get over it or get out of it.
8. You are curious about seeing other people have sex. Rent a porn movie. While most swingers enjoy voyeurism many don't want to hook up with another couple just so they can satisfy some lame curiosity.
9. You just want to please your partner. Never go along with swinging just because someone else wants you to. Swinging is a personal decision that has to be made by every individual, individually. Just as a couple needs to decide to swing together, every person has to decide for themselves if swinging is right for them.
10. You think it's an easy way to get laid. Just because swingers like to have sex with other people doesn't mean they are having sex with everyone they come across. In fact swingers tend to have dating rituals they go through to determine if another person or couple is right for them. They usually have certain criteria you must meet and a pre-planned way of avoiding you if you don't hit the bull's eye. |
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Swinging or Cheating.....That is the question.
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Posted:Sep 25, 2012 9:33 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:43 pm
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"Swinging? Isn‘t that the same thing as cheating?"
The question of swinging versus cheating seems to come up in nearly every conversation I have about living the swinging lifestyle. So I find myself writing about this more and more. There’s a huge difference between the two. Yeah, I know…some conservatives may say that they are one in the same but that’s not true. Believe it or not, a successful swinging lifestyle is predicated on trust and honesty.
Swinging is not cheating. Dr. Phil defined cheating by two things….
1) If you do something with someone else that you would not do if your partner was standing right next to you, it is cheating.
2) If you are going outside the relationship to get something that you should be getting inside the relationship, it is cheating.
In the case of swingers these two things do not apply. Since the majority of swinging activities occur while the spouse is present, approving and enthusiastic, Dr. Phil’s 1st definition does not apply to swinging. With swingers, the couples do not engage in sexual activities or flirt to replace their significant other. Swinging is an activity that a couple experiences and enjoys together, the Lifestyle becomes part of their relationship, not something outside of it. So Dr. Phil’s 2nd definition does not apply either.
Anything you do with someone else behind your partner’s back and against their wishes is betrayal of trust. Swingers eliminate lying, distrust and secrecy from their relationship. Everything that a person does in the Lifestyle is done openly, honestly and with the full consent and enthusiasm of their partner. Otherwise, even the most experienced swinger would consider it cheating. Swingers detest cheaters and do not condone cheating of any kind. We have been known to turn away from a "single male" because he gives off the "signs" of being a "cheating male."
He knows what I do, I know what he does, and at the end of the day we tell each other. Cheating is when you’re married and you’re not in the lifestyle, or even if you are, you go and do something your partner doesn’t know about that would hurt them. Cheating is not just sex. If you’re forming an intimate relationship with another person and your partner doesn’t know, that’s cheating.
Swingers have a much higher success rate as it relates to marriage, than those who are not part of the lifestyle. If you and your partner are open with each other and have communicated your wants and desires as it relates to your sexual relationship and have both agreed that the practice has peaked your interest, then it seems your marriage has already survived the first true test, which is communication. For non swinging relationships, 50% of the women cheat and 60% men cheat at some time in their marriage. Recent studies show that 80% out of all marriages someone are having an affair.
You call me many things, and I’ve heard them all as a swinger, but one thing you can’t call me is a cheater. My partner(s) are well aware of my lifestyle, preferences and deal breakers. I’m not cheating on anyone…just a happy swinger always looking to meet new local swingers and open-minded couples living the swinging lifestyle. |
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Do you fit in?
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Posted:Sep 21, 2012 4:03 pm
Last Updated:Oct 17, 2012 4:43 pm
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Although many seem to think of swinging as just two couples having sex with each other this is just one flavor of swinging. Swinging is fueled by more than a sexual desire to have intercourse with others. It involves fantasy, experimentation, living out desires and fulfilling the fantasies of others.
All swingers are not the same. Some men like to see their wives with other men. Some women like to see their husbands pleasure other women. Some men like to have two women while other women like to have two men. It all depends on the people, their fantasies and what they are willing to do. The one thing common to all swinging is that it brings different groups of people together to have sex.
In the lifestyle you will encounter many different types of people. Couples are the most common but not the only thing you will run across. Unicorn is slang for a single woman that participates in the lifestyle. Without unicorns how would men be able to achieve the Number One male fantasy, a FMF? It is hard to be a single man in the lifestyle, because men get a bad for being too pushy, but there are successful single men. There are voyeurs, who really don’t participate in swinging activities, they just get turned on by watching. There are exhibitionists, who get turned on by being watched.
While an open-minded and playful attitude towards sex is something that all people in the Lifestyle have in common, it doesn’t mean that sex is some sort of mandatory requirement when swingers meet each other. Swingers aren’t rabbits! Just like in the regular dating world, there has to be chemistry & mutual attraction between people before anyone 'gets jiggy'.
Some of our very closest friends are people in the Lifestyle who we have no sexual relationship with. But they’re wonderful and open-minded people who we can truly be ourselves around. In that way belonging to the Lifestyle is a lot like belonging to a religion. |
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Top 10 reasons to swing....
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Posted:Sep 20, 2012 9:08 pm
Last Updated:Oct 29, 2012 7:35 pm
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This is NOT all my own, I tweaked it a little, but found some of this info online & just thought it was too good not to share.
Top Ten Reasons to Swing
10. Swingers are fun to be around.
Swingers are exciting and fun to be with. They are happy, honest, vibrant, intelligent, attractive and very friendly. Swingers are great fun at parties, picnics, movies, dinner, ball games and any place people go for fun and recreation. Just think how much more fun it would be to attend all these functions with swingers. The next time you see a group of people laughing and having fun, you may even wonder….Hmmmm, are they swingers?
9. A Healthy Lifestyle.
Most swing clubs discourage heavy alcohol consumption and prohibit drug use. Swinging can provide good cardio exercise. Even experts say sex can use 250 calories. The best way to stay healthy, keep on that diet and avoid colds is to know there is a party coming up soon.
8. Dress-up isn’t just for .
The lifestyle is an environment that gives opportunity to dress more daringly. You can now show off those things you used to buy at sex shops or by catalog. Nobody will laugh, if anything you might get cheers. You will not get arrested, assaulted or laughed at. Most women and men enjoy dressing up and strutting their stuff. Many clubs have theme nights so you can dress in costume.
7. Fantasies can actually come true.
Have you ever dreamed of two women? Or wanted to be with someone of your own sex? Maybe sharing yourself with a stranger? Someone to watch you? Or possibly watching others is a turn on? If you can think of it, you’ll most likely find it in the lifestyle. Swinging is about consensual and discreet participants hosting your fantasy. Knowing you can stop the play at any time gives you courage to try new things. You may even learn new fantasies.
6. Improve your sexual technique.
Some things need to be seen and experienced, not just read about. The experts (whoever they are) say that there are as many ways to swing as there are swingers. So get out there and learn some new techniques!
5. Being attractive isn’t just an ego boost but healthy as well.
This is a good reason to go into swinger lifestyle since you’ll need to maintain a healthy diet and exercising to be “desirable.” Many times people stop maintaining our attractiveness when we “settle down.” Not everyone can look like Barbie, and I am thankful for that. I like diversity in size, shapes, ages and sexual practices. Be attractive in your attitude and you will have many successful sexual encounters.
4. Variety is the spice of life.
Life is a smorgasbord of delights. Swingers are not lacking in variety. Your partner may be delicious but why limit yourself? What are you looking for in a partner? Chiseled washerboard abs? Boobs enough for two? A penis to make a green with envy? Or maybe it’s something simple like redheads? No problem, the look you want is out there you just have to look for it.
3. New, lasting friendships.
If you’re lucky , you have a couple of really good friends. If you start meeting swingers you probably get several more. In the swinger lifestyle , you can meet other couples that share your interests at a more intimate level than your run-of-the-mill friends. Building long trusting relationships is vital to any swinger’s life. Not all encounters lead to long friendships. Some couples and singles you meet are “get in, get off and go home.” Others become extraordinary friends. You know their families, do things outside the swinging community, and are connected to their “secular” life. We have friends we travel with, share family outings with and are involved in their lives. Then we also have the benefit of sex, it is all good.
2. Not only more but, better friends.
It is sad that jealousy and other issues break so many friendships and couples. Swinging can bring many good things to friendships. In the lifestyle you need not hide anything. The second best reason to swing is the positive effects it can have on friendships. There is no reason to hide your desire for your friend’s partner when that desire is openly welcomed. There is no reason to be fearful of your partner having an affair behind your back when you enjoy watching and joining in.
1. And most importantly playing along with your partner.
“The couple that plays together ….” Arriving to a party, having lots of sex and non-monogamous fun and then leaving as a couple. It is what makes the swinger lifestyle different from others. You don’t always see partners together but when everyone heads home we are still a couple. It’s not about sharing your partner with someone else it’s about enjoying yourselves while at the same time opening to receive someone else into your fun. Sharing experiences builds a solid relationship. |
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Lifestyle Friends
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Posted:Sep 19, 2012 8:16 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2012 9:46 am
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Even the most voracious human appetites cannot thrive on sex alone. Swingers need human contact as well
I have long observed that the term "friend" is thrown about casually in our society, largely serving as a reward for those whose company we enjoy. For those in the lifestyle in particular, it is often applied to someone we've recently met or played with a few times.
Sometimes, though, you make friends. Real friends.
We attend as many of the MFP (My Friends Place) parties as we possibly can. We have so much fun flirting, playing games, dancing, & overall hanging with our friends in the club. But lately what I have been focusing on is that we are all there for each other even when we aren’t enjoying sexy fun. Of course, there is always a buzzing undercurrent of delicious energy, but the deep caring we share for one another is the angle we don’t talk about enough.
We celebrate birthdays together, we help each other out when someone is sick, we weep with each other in times of grief, & we party with each other in times of happiness. We celebrate family events together…we invite each other to our ’s birthdays, sports events, everything. We are more than friends…..we are a family.
That’s not the side of the lifestyle that mainstream people would recognize or even try to understand. . It just seems that those with whom we can be the most authentic and have the deepest connections are those who also have open relationships.
We are connected that much deeper with that much more trust and therefore the community we have created is through thick and thin. Even the not so sexy side of swinging can be amazing too!
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