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Blogs > hornyguyMN > Inside my head

"You deserve better."  

hornyguyMN 43M
2356 posts
5/29/2014 3:53 pm
"You deserve better."

I thought all day about how to post this. Do I make up a story about a friend going through a break up? A cousin maybe? But in the end I decided that those lies would be way too transparent. I'm not good at lying, even in writing.

So here is the deal remember the women I was seeing for over a year who I was thinking was done with me? Last weekend I sent her an email telling her about some of my grievances (honestly I went easy on her but it was still a pretty harsh email). Considering that she hadn't made time for me in months I figured an email was my best avenue to contact her about this. Hey I'm the type who likes closure and doesn't want to leave any doubts in my mind. I got a reply back today (nearly a week later). I wont go into details of the emails because I don't want to bore you with that. But there was a line in it that made a connection in my head I wanted to ask about.

Have you ever told someone they deserved better when breaking up with them? Why is it that whenever a break up is happening and someone says "you deserve better" that the one who "deserves better" always seems to be the one who is left alone? While the one who is letting the one who deserves better go always seems to have someone to fall back on? This always seems to be the case in my life and the lives of those around me. Pretty much every woman who has ever broken up with me (excluding women who just disappear of course) has told me this. Apparently others I know I told this often as well. Is it just one of those throw away lines that are used to try and let someone down easy? Does anyone actually mean it?

hippiechick1967 60F  
13154 posts
5/29/2014 4:33 pm

 I think when someone says that, what they truly mean is that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates you more than they do, that they've just been biding their time with you until someone they are more attracted to comes along. It's sort of along the lines of, "It's not you - it's me." There are worse ways to be dumped, eh?
Elevate me...


buxombbw4u 56F
16144 posts
5/29/2014 6:12 pm

 I think it is mostly what you say when you like the person you are breaking up with, but you don't LIKE like them. Or at least you feel less strongly for them than you know you should. Or they want more than you want. at least I HOPE that's what it means and it isn't just some stupid line.

And, yes, I've heard it. And it sucked.
2022... it HAS be better, right?!


hornyguyMN replies on 5/30/2014 1:51 pm:
Then why not just say your great but I'm just not feeling it. I've never told someone they deserved better. If I felt that way, I tried to BE better. If I wasn't into them I tell them straight out that I think they are awesome, I just don't get the girlfriend vibe for them. Hell not long ago I even told someone I wished I could feel something more then friendship for them. But that it just wasn't there. Then I follow through and be a friend. I don't see what is so hard about honesty. Sorry Buxie I don't mean to rag on you. The whole situation just has me rather pissed off.

AudioFilly 58F  
1897 posts
5/29/2014 11:40 pm

 Well, I'm not sure if it is just being used as a throw away line or not & I don't really know if the women meant it when saying it...but I do know that whether they meant it or not, it's true. You do deserve better than at least the last three women you've been with.


hornyguyMN replies on 5/30/2014 1:46 pm:
I don't doubt that it is true. Hell I told her that straight out in the email I sent her that called her out on her crap. It just seems to come off as a throw away line to me. Then again at this point I don't trust 95% of what this woman says anymore.

When Kitty said something similar to me (during the break up, not bringing into account the crap that happened after when we both handled things poorly), I believed she believed she couldn't give me what she thought I needed. When this woman says it, it comes off as cold and stale as nearly everything else she has told me for the last several months.

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