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Blogs > rm_yurPhantaC1 > Life with PhantaC

Totally Frustrated  

rm_yurPhantaC1 59F
642 posts
7/24/2015 11:04 pm
Totally Frustrated
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s2ndegree 65M
9800 posts
7/25/2015 12:19 am

 You're right that is exactly the way I feel.Now whether or not it was intended I can't be too sure.It does reinforce the decision I made to stop contacting women in here.Nobodys safe with anyone. at any time.

Tell the other guy to move closer and stop making you an option and the bed warmer to find someone who will like him for whatever it is he has to offer.
Using more than all the road!


nd2hvfun 65F  
10021 posts
7/25/2015 12:27 am

 Is this a real blog? do you have to ask, why would you stay with someone with NO SEX and NO passion and doesnt even care to try and be that way with you and he argues..is he paying your bills and are you driving a mercedes? i dont get why you would even need to ask, kick his ass to the curb....as for the passionate one who doesnt make you a priority maybe its the passion you crave but kick him to the curb too i would rather be alone than with losers but than again thats me and i always say "next" if its not good for me
je ne regrette rien


rm_yurPhantaC1 replies on 7/25/2015 12:56 pm:
Yes, this is a real blog. No, he's not paying my bills but he does mow my lawn. LOL. As far as the ex, maybe it is the passion I crave. The sex is incredible and I'm not sure at this point I would want him under foot all the time. I've gotten used to being alone and become more independent so maybe every now and then is enough. God Knows I don't feel the need to live with anyone and marriage is definitely not something I want to do again. LOL As far as bills and cars, I own a Cadillac I inherited from a good man that passed on in 09 and a New Yorker I bought myself so don't expect anyone to buy me cars and I own my home debt free so no worries as far as that.

91019fan 37M  
320 posts
7/25/2015 12:29 am

 I can't say I'm going through the same thing you are, but something similar, I think.. I fell in love with someone I met offling a while ago, and for a while off and on I was trying to win her over, but due to my lack of experience in that area I screwed up a lot along the way... The last time we talked about my having feelings for her she (nicely) told me it'd be werid for her because I'm like a brother to her. We haven't talked about it since, but its weird for me becasue she still acts like things are the same as they were before we had that last talk on that subject (she still hugs me like she used to, that sort of thing), and it messes me up, because it brings back a lot of memories about how I've felt for her, and it messes me up. I hate being this way, because I still want to be friends with her, but I'm getting tired of going through this, and I'm not sure what to do now.
Will Friedle, as Eric Matthews on Boy Meets World: "Life's rough, wear a helmet".


Needaltlsomthn2 58F
709 posts
7/25/2015 7:18 am

 It think it is more than just ED. Look up Adrenal Fatigue. Bottom line he is lazy and probably doesn't want to change. Don't waste any more time.As for the other guy, I think you are fooling yourself. You probably have made a great fantasy lover along w/the great sex. I wasted 4 years and created a "fantasy" that was different from reality. When it was over the fantasy still saddens me and I miss that the most. Move on, keep looking I'm sure something better is just down the road. : )
If you don't stand for something , you will fall for anything !


rm_yurPhantaC1 replies on 7/25/2015 12:57 pm:
I will have to check that out, thanks

miysha123 60F
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439 posts
7/25/2015 12:38 pm

 Dump the boyfriend of 4 months, enjoy the every 4 month guy and date, Date, DATE (I got that style from a blogger. I like it.) Find someone to spend your time with that does it for you.


rm_yurPhantaC1 replies on 7/25/2015 12:57 pm:
I like that idea the best. lol

positively4you 74F  
4605 posts
7/25/2015 6:24 pm

 I fail to see your dilemma. Go find what you want. You are too young and vibrant to be celibate.


rm_yurPhantaC1 replies on 7/26/2015 8:45 am:
I guess part of the dilemma is its a real small town(farming community), And most the men around here hang out in bars, are always drunken losers and I have to date outside the area to meet someone I don't know. The nearest city, where my ex lives, is over 2 hours away. I've dated guys that say the distance is ok for a month or so, then change it becomes an issue. The man I have been seeing, while unable to get it up has been a constant companion when I want one, someone to hang out with, go riding with on poker runs, go out to eat with or have a drink with, mows my lawn, helped move my daughter into another apt, and we are suppose to go to the Sturgis motorcycle rally and visit my mom in Custer the end of this week so he's not totally useless. LOL I just need to convince him that he needs to let me see my ex from time to time also or its not going to work. An open relationship thing.

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