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whoisagentj replies on 5/8/2019 6:28 am: I dunno if I expect her to owe me anything, but having an answer would be nice I guess. It's just wanting to know why I guess. I know what you're saying. Knowing "Why", a woman does not show any interest, is really not your concern...in fact even if she told you why she "Didn't"... probably would not make any sense to you, or any straight male, anyway. Certain situations with women, we just don't need the answers they would give. Move on to the next... and then the next... if you do this assembly line style, eventually , and so much faster, you WILL find a woman you click with. Also , I'll remind you, todays woman, has her own wallet. Never feel obligated to buy her food nor drink. She's out to "Meet" you , not replenish her electrolytes on your money. Also don't forget to just go out on the town, however that might be, and see who you can connect with.
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I cant stand rude people and she certainly fits my image of rude. If she no longer reads your blog, give it a rest. Too bad she cant see the responses you got. It wont wake her up but she'll know other now will be leery of "talking" to her. Yep she wasted your time and pissed you off. One of these days you can mention her blog title and we'll see what kind of person she really is. Find some other ladies and have some coffee- we do have nice women on here (Virtual Symposium Group) use Virtual Symposium Group
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5/7/2019 3:53 pm |
agent...heal thyself..
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agent...heal thyself.. woop woop
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Well, so far it's been a unanimous concent to move on, with I totally agree with. It sucks that she couldn't tell me the reason why, but it is what it is, so I'm planning on getting on with my life. I appreciate the advice folks. It's helped me clear my head and do just that. Lets say a woman does agree to meet you, and by god she shows up.... great, she has shown up to a meeting. This is good for you because now you've gotten ahead of the online competition. Still , this doesn't mean you stop sending invitation to women to meet you. You are not obligated to only be "Meeting" or "Dating" just one woman.
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She doesn't owe you any explanation. The more you hold onto that idea , [about any woman] "A woman owes me an explanation" ..... the more power you give her over you. Do not waste your time with just one woman. Never expect any woman to explain herself. I doubt if she could , anyway. Doesn't matter if she can , though. Once upon a time you decided to join a social site, happens to be a hookup site...... take advantage of that to your full potential..... seek out as many women as you want. But never just one... and never wait around for a woman to get back to you.
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Allow me to throw dirt on it. You are so nice, so I will say it. She’s a BITCH. You’re welcome. 😉 Spend your time on a good woman.
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Sadly, whatever happened to cause the no-show, the lack of communication now is the main issue. Apparently she doens't want to communicate and there's not much you can do about that. But.... silence speaks volumes about (lack of) character so maybe it's best the ghosting happened now before you even met, rather than later.
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Well, so far it's been a unanimous concent to move on, with I totally agree with. It sucks that she couldn't tell me the reason why, but it is what it is, so I'm planning on getting on with my life. I appreciate the advice folks. It's helped me clear my head and do just that.
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5/7/2019 11:00 am |
move on she isn't interested or she would have showed up sunday
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5/7/2019 10:29 am |
Typical thing that happens on other sites also- yes one does get upset by the rudeness of other people- the thing is you expected someone who you talked to be honest- a few people I know took me to country western dance lessons- If you can do that and smile you won't have to worry about how bad a fisherman you are
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5/7/2019 9:51 am |
Chalk it up to a fail on their part and move on. Yes, sometimes things happen on the other end that the stars just don't align. Yet when the other party doesn't communicate, or return messages, don't take it personally. I've been meeting people on-line, then in the real world almost since the internet got started. Meet and Greets to me are the best way to put a face to a name. I also always meet somewhere public first, even if it is a FWB. The ex and I used to meet a lot of "couples" where for one reason of another the wife/gf "just couldn't make it.." She and I always met them in public, with the fixed rule, "No gal, No Way Pal." She and I also met many solo males, IF they were honest, and didn't ever say or imply they wanted my wife to loose me so he could have her alone. Finally, a warning: I had a recent "couple" chat me up, they wanted to meet me, they liked my profile, provided some pictures, ect. I set up a meeting at a public bar. The guy was barely recognizable from the pictures. No woman with him. We talked, and he bluntly asked me to go out to his truck and blow him. We had this discussion as I am a Bi top, and only if the wife/gf got off on watching her man get used. I paid the bar tab, buying him his drink, and said goodbye and no longer interested. The next day, my passion e-mail had a note from him. Someone had taken pictures of the meeting, my car, ect. He then attempted to extort sex and $$$$ or he was going to OUT me. I reported him to passion and the Police. Thankfully the local Police take Cyber crime VERY serious. It's a crazy world out there, and bottom line, many on here are "posers." That said, YOU are Not the problem, they are.
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Well... if you're reading her blog.... and she's reading your blog... then that boat has sailed. If you wanted to keep it low... you shouldn't have posted all the info about the fuck up. Who knows? Maybe she had a valid excuse. Now? Forget it buddy. Move on. Who cares what her excuse was. Unless she was hit by a bus. Was she hit by a bus? That's one of the only excuses that work for me. ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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keep on truckin'
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The best revenge is simply rising above it and getting on with life instead of letting someone who proved themselves insignificant get under your skin.
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Don't waste your time. Move on. Adults often act like scared teenagers. You don't need to validate that behavior.
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Walk away man.... move one! I know we HATE to do that, but its the only way!
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5/7/2019 9:28 am |
give her the option of answering why she did what she did..if she doesnt then message her or however you communicated with her and politely tell her that you are moving on..i would much rather ask first then if i get no responce i thank them ...between clenched teeth and middle finger raised in the air...lol then move on..if they do this then they dont get a second chance unless they have a legit answer ...but in having little trust here i dont know if i would believe them anyway...sorry it happens i know first hand ..but life isnt fair...
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My advice...walk away. Be the better person. She has not responded to your (2?) requests...pursuing begins to look like stalking!
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pretty sure she just is going to continue to ignore you. Sad but true. No idea why people do this, but it sucks. I am talking to someone who also seems too good to be true, and haven't even gotten brave enough to ask about an in person meet because then the "dream" is over and I know it isn't real anymore. Rejection sucks big time!
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I'm just confused. I need answers. I just may not ever get them.
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