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New years change and reflection
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New years change and reflection Well it seems as though reading all of my favorite bloggers' new years posts has begun to get to me. Last night I sat down and rewrote my blog description and a few of the other permanent posts to reflect a little more where I am now and the mind state I have been in lately. So for the 4 of you who might actually notice, lol, check it out and let me know what you think. I was also pondering changing my profile.... maybe when I get back from vacation. How often does everyone else edit their stuff, or do you? Isn't it a bit funny that we all feel compelled to sit this time of year and judge the past or plan for the future. Neither is particularly useful and really only detracts from the current moment we are in. Which creates further irony because the whole point of revising and planning for later is to try and "make" our lives more fulfilling when, in actuality, we are avoiding living while we ponder such things....... Yeah, I know I'm being difficult. I do that sometimes. I like to play devil's advocate all the time. Most people think it's cause I like to argue and be heard. I'd like to think it has more to do with trying to see and feel another point of view. I can't blame people for thinking that though. As open as I am, I am also kinda closed off. And, when I was younger I was arrogant cause I liked to tell people what I thought and what I knew....... I still don't understand why people would rather be wrong and comfortable than know the truth and feel a little less safe. I LOVE when people prove me wrong. I always kinda feel, despite what some tell me, that I don't put any ego into those kind of discussions. So, open question time..... Is it better to not upset people and tell them what they want to hear or to tell them what you know that may clash with their beliefs? I've come to find a middle ground there. I've become be a lot more intuitive and feeling about things as I've grown up and I try to be honest with those who are close to me and understand me better. I am not god or anything, but I also try and tell people what the need to hear instead of just everything I think. What do they need to hear? Some people need affirmation and comfort. Some people need to have their eyes opened. Some people just need to be freed of their own illusions. All are things I appreciate from others. My best friends tell me despite what I think or say and I love them for it as long as they are honest and aren't judgmental or mean about it. My track record says that I won't post again for a couple days so.... HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!! Everyone be safe with your new years fun. Enjoy the moment as it happens and come back with good stories   Hope you can't help but find happiness, and pain can't find you even with help! Check out my blog and give me a look loves hokietiger |
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I like this post alot...I use to be much like you...in that I would share my opinions and thoughts with everyone...I have learned to curb that now...to the relief of everyone around me...lol...I am also a problem solver...so when someone would tell me something...I would automatically begin to try and solve their problem...but like you said some people just want you to sympathize...I believe everyone to some extent travels in their own illusions...we are what we believe we are after all...I think it is important to have people in your life who you trust enough to tell you what you need to hear...to help you to see the truth...that you might not see as clearly as they do...good post... Moonfire
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12/31/2007 3:56 pm |
TIGER, I believe that it is always better to tell the truth, then what someone wants to hear. BUT, its a case of pick and chose when to do so. An example might be..."don't you love my new shirt? I do, omg I wanted it forever" where is the need to say, "its the ugliest thing I have ever seen?" There is none, other than you would potentially hurt someone. Yet, as well, the manner someone tells another they disagree is important too. Perhaps you could say, "I am so happy you got what you wanted, its not my taste but it looks great on you"...know what I mean? Arrogance when proclaiming one is correct is never met with acceptance, while stating your "correct" with love in your heart or kindness and respect for anothers view, is well received. Atleast by people who wish to learn. I have always been a person who wished to learn, but if attacked or talked down to, I do not receive it well. IN fact, I often will close my ears. Inside my head, I am thinking, what an ass, instead of hearing what is being said. Arrogance to me is a terrible personal trait. You can make your voice heard clearer and by more with the right attitude towards others, showing respect tends to work, atleast in my experience. Happy New Years! Peace Sexysista39 So I used to start an answer to a question with..."are you sure you want to know what I think?" then it gave them a heads up, that I probably wasn't going to give them what they were looking for. As the years have progressed, and EVERYONE around me, told me that they don't know how to take my "tone" or "directness" I learned to adjust my tone, mostly...  THOSE who are not hyper sensitive, and take a moment to hear and read my body language know that I am not "giving them shit" or "being mean" I am genuinely asking "what do you mean" or "I don't agree, respectfully"...others, will never get it. AND I have learned to give up on those who wish to live in their little world. It frustrates me and others are more willing to learn and discuss, then we both learn a little something.LIKE you, I never proclaimed to know it all, far from it, but I certainly do know somethings. AND the #1 thing I learned is never to take anything at face value, there is always another side to everything, studies, surveys, polls, opinions and ideas. SHIT, I just realized I have quoted me, not you...poopy drawers...oh well, I meant to quote you, perhaps another standard member "can't do"  Peace Sexysista39Peace,  
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12/31/2007 12:40 pm |
TIGER, I believe that it is always better to tell the truth, then what someone wants to hear. BUT, its a case of pick and chose when to do so. An example might be..."don't you love my new shirt? I do, omg I wanted it forever" where is the need to say, "its the ugliest thing I have ever seen?" There is none, other than you would potentially hurt someone. Yet, as well, the manner someone tells another they disagree is important too. Perhaps you could say, "I am so happy you got what you wanted, its not my taste but it looks great on you"...know what I mean? Arrogance when proclaiming one is correct is never met with acceptance, while stating your "correct" with love in your heart or kindness and respect for anothers view, is well received. Atleast by people who wish to learn. I have always been a person who wished to learn, but if attacked or talked down to, I do not receive it well. IN fact, I often will close my ears. Inside my head, I am thinking, what an ass, instead of hearing what is being said. Arrogance to me is a terrible personal trait. You can make your voice heard clearer and by more with the right attitude towards others, showing respect tends to work, atleast in my experience. Happy New Years! Peace Sexysista39 Peace,
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