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Miztress_Nessa 47F  
318 posts
11/22/2009 7:05 pm

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So, as few of you know, I am now in a relationship with someone who just takes my breath away. It's not someone I would usually go for, but something drew me a while back, and now that we finally are together I'm hanging on for dear life.

She is a butch lesbian, who's beautiful inside and out, sweet, caring and loving... however, life has not been kind to her in the love department, and of course, she has been seriously hurt in the past.

She says she loves me, and wants to be with me... and I know she's telling the truth. But, there's times, when she gets scared and pushes me away... and while I totally understand where she's coming from... because I used to do it. It still hurts.

I guess my question is, how do I deal with that? or better yet, how do I make her see that she does not have anything to fear with me? This is a whole new position for me to be in, so I'm kind of... scared? umm... not sure if that's the correct word for it. I'm not scared of the relationship... I'm just like, lost... lol.

Any thoughts?
Miztress_Nessa 47F  
226 posts
11/22/2009 9:36 pm
    Quoting Wiscman1969:
    Find out what it is from her past that has hurt her to the point of pushing you away. She may be waiting for you to do something to her that someone from the past did to her. She wants the relationship with you but she's also afraid of her past. A previous partner may have abused her and she's scared that you may do the same. Talk to her about it and suggest counseling for the two of you. It's going to take a lot of patience on both sides to overcome this but if both of you hang in there, talk and do the counseling it could really lead to something.
umm... You know, that is a good idea... Although she's not very good at talking about her feelings... I will think about that, maybe it's something she will be interested in. I mean, technically we don't need counseling, we're fine, I just don't know how to ease her of her fears and insecurities, and I mean, that's totally normal because I have them too, I just don't push her away because of it.


Miztress_Nessa 47F  
226 posts
1/1/2010 4:10 pm
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Thanks lickinglife... Things have improved since I posted this... although there are a few things that we still need to work on, at least she's not pushing away so much anymore... The other things will take time, I think...


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