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My Mail Is Suspended? What?  

MissAnnThrope 63F
7708 posts
11/11/2006 11:46 am

Last Read:
7/17/2007 9:34 pm

My Mail Is Suspended? What?

Yesterday, I discovered no one had been getting any mail from me for the past day or two. So, off to call Customer Service.

I'm told that obviously I've been sending contact information. He sees I've used the Y word in an email, but not in terms of the instant messenger, but in terms of a person who is an idiot. He'll release my account. And extend my membership for my troubles.

OK, so I went back and resent all the mail, copying and pasting all the way, as we don't have the ability to just hit forward here. It would be nice if we did, as we could have an easier time laughing at idiot mail with each other, instead of copying and pasting. Then I took a peek at everyone's profiles. It's saying I still haven't sent them any damned mail!

I went into chat. I sent a few test emails to chatters. They didn't get them. A roomie sends me mail. All he gets is my auto-response, not my reply. Back to the phone...

After waiting on hold for a good long time, as they had an abnormally high call volume, (always a sign something has gone wrong with the latest "upgrades",) I got the same guy.

He looks deeper this time.

"Oh, I see you have an email to [blog kelli4u2dew] that was flagged and not delivered. Kelli? The last time I wrote to her was in response to an article she sent me and that was so long ago, it's not even in my email history anymore. Not to mention, people obviously got mail from me after that. So he tries again.

Oh, he found the problem!

I happened to mention in an email that a number of men treat this site as if it's supposed to be an service. So, they pulled my mail privileges, without telling me. Or telling me I was currently being punished, until my account was reviewed. Nice.

So, he released my mail.

But this isn't the first time I've had problems with the email here. Seriously, if any of you have been expecting email from me that hasn't arrived, let me know. It took one of you at least two tries to send me something I finally got last night.

Iggy problems, mail problems, blog problems... I don't think my, "I love this site..." mantra is working anymore. I can get the two live chickens downtown, but does anyone have a goat for me to sacrifice?


CanadianTSteve10 57M

11/11/2006 12:09 pm

I am sorry about your troubles.

This place doesnt play fair. Some people get treated differently. Right or wrong has nothing to do with anything.

I have been reading blogs and magazine articles all over the site in the last few days that are more critical than what you have written in that e mail.

Steve


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:36 pm:
Yeah, I've been noticing. A man says come fuck me, we're not allowed to complain. I say this isn't an escort service and get my mail account pulled for using those words. Someone really needs to be hired to review all red flagged email.

moonlightphoenix 52F

11/11/2006 12:20 pm

FUCKERS.

I was only alerted a couple days ago that TPTB saw fit to filter my email (I specifically did NOT have one on), and within a two hour gap, I suddenly went from having no email, to having 12 in my filter box dating back over a month.

I was also alerted the same day by 5 people.....5 people!!!!, that they had suddenly received email from me dating back, also up to a month ago.

Apparently, a month ago, I pissed someone off.


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:38 pm:
So it takes a month to review flagged mail? Interesting. I think instead of playing the affiliates tons o' cash for getting women to join, they should cut it a little and hire someone to review flagged mail.

agedinwood757 71F
297 posts
11/11/2006 12:37 pm

that's terrible, and it doesn't make sense. They let you put your IM in your profile and that usually is someone's email most times

Margo


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:39 pm:
Yeah. You tend to have to have mail accounts for two of the more popular IM programs. But of course, only gold members can see that information.

FunFlirty4u 53F

11/11/2006 1:58 pm

Thats so unfair.


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:43 pm:
I don't think they care.

cockeyedoptmist 64M

11/11/2006 2:09 pm

Crikey !!! Now I feel real squeamish at the thought that them bloody nerds have been reading and filtering all your erotic emails to me. What a bunch of sickos!


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:45 pm:
Don't worry. They didn't read a word before filtering. Or neither of us would still be on the site. We'd be banned at the IP level.

popmuse01 42F

11/11/2006 2:31 pm

Sheesh. Email glitches, blog 'system errors'..what's next?

I'm leaving the site end of March. To those who want to keep in touch, see blog for details.


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:46 pm:
We charter a bus and storm the Friend Finder compound with torches, pitchforks and programming manuals?

NickRules999 46M
9458 posts
11/11/2006 3:09 pm

Lessee, this site makes a ton of money. You'd think they'd fix the problems on here, but, nope, not on the agenda. Then, they got paranoid with all the bullshit, and decided to flag everything. Some things I can see, but they take it too far.

This site has changed, and not for the better.

$20 says this post will be denied.

Come into my realm! You aren't afraid...are you?


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:46 pm:
I win! Be sure to send me the money.

bustybettyboop 57F
59311 posts
11/11/2006 8:16 pm

i swear they hate me! always screwing with my blog! blocking things,deleting things,canceling things! i call and there either acting ignorant or rude!

..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one?


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:49 pm:
Or they don't understand a word you say. Last week I had to spell my name ten times and the woman still didn't get it right. I know I've been sick and congested, but I didn't think it made me that hard to understand.

AmericanBaroness 59F

11/12/2006 12:31 am

I think it was more site wide than all that, actually -- all the sudden I got an email showing new, dated Oct 2nd! I go in and it will sometimes show a new email or two but when I get in the top spots are those emails I've already read. Oh, and I haven't paid for the priviledge or whatever of the new ball (as Lofty says I already have two, but that's another subject) -- sometimes affiliate sites give points redeemable for upgrades or tshirts...and I needed 4 times the points for the shirt!


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:53 pm:
Heh. Would you be caught dead wearing the shirt in public? I know I wouldn't. I'm not paying them and then advertising them at the same time. It's why I won't wear certain designers. I'm paying you how much to wear your clothes and I'm expected to wear your name across my chest or on the sleeve?

rm_Rainman1997 48M
2 posts
11/12/2006 8:16 am

well ive been stopped from viewing other members and also i cant even send any winks...go figure!!!!!?????


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:56 pm:
Yep. Standard members are getting the shaft again.

rm_Rainman1997 48M
2 posts
11/12/2006 8:20 am

and im a guy last time i looked so look wot they put up for a profile picture .im up for fun but i keep getting beautifull ladies who want only one on one with another lady ,so they must see the profile and i dont get a hit im also getting hits of guys who wanna hook up .fix it fix it oh i know maybe i should put down things like death bomb and spiders that arer suicide bombers whaaaat!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 12:58 pm:
We're not allowed to change our gender ourselves anymore. It goes back to when women got views and men didn't. Men would change their gender to woman to view and write email. So now, you have to call or write to Customer Service and get it fixed. Only they can do it for you.

bluenfree 67M
2475 posts
11/12/2006 8:29 am

Obviously, they use some kind of filtering software that looks for particular words or patterns. That doesn't explain why (correct me if I'm wrong, ladies) men send email addresses and phone numbers in initial contact emails with regularity. I see phone numbers posted as headlines in profiles.

The one that really gets me is that they've removed the ability to report emails for abuse from standard members. There are a lot of other features that have been removed from silver members (in addition to those new features added only for gold members). I haven't been gold lately, but do you still get a link to a commenter's blog under their pic? That disappeared for standard and silver members awhile ago.

Of course, the overall quality of programming and system support here is abominable. I sent our gracious host a resume last summer, offering to institute industry standard quality control, but never got an answer.

I refuse to engage in a battle of wits with an unarmed man. - Winston Churchill


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:01 pm:
Yeah. We get all sorts of contact information in first mails. They don't get pulled, but I get pulled for saying escort service.

I can't believe they did that to standard members. Well, if anyone wants the direct email to abuse, I have it.

lizalickem4u 66F

11/12/2006 9:39 am

Have you been plagued with the infamous Affairlook BUGS????? It is amazing how a site that has the membership that this site does can have so many f-ing BUGS!!! I love the classic response that "our tech dept." is working on the problem and should have it resolved soon...one week, two weeks...it is truly amazing...What a damned clusterfuck this site can be!!!!!! You would think this site would use updated software to keep the site BUG Free, worry-free...isn't it amazing!!!!


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:04 pm:
My favorite bug was the disappearing profile. Which was happening to me twice a month, until I got my ball. It hasn't happened to me once since. Go figure.

florallei 106F

11/13/2006 12:02 am

that sounds so frustrating...good that You were persistent...

hugs,
flo


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:07 pm:
Hey, if I hadn't gotten an email asking why I hadn't responded, I would have been none the wiser. But even after talking to him the first time, I was still suspicious.

redmustang91 64M
9760 posts
11/13/2006 11:43 am

Sad, but given the way this site works, you probably did not miss anything that was that significant....


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:08 pm:
Heh. You're probably right.

_Truman_ 112M

11/13/2006 1:47 pm

I suspect the NSA warrantless wiretap program run amuck, Ann! Nancy Pelosi and Harry Reid will fix it when they take over control on January 3rd!


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:13 pm:
They had better. I'm sick of Karl Rove intercepting my mail.

BadAssBlonde1 64F
4988 posts
11/13/2006 5:09 pm

I am glad that you posted this, Ann. Several days ago, I receieved mail back from October. Not sure what that was all about.

After all the sex is gone, there is the mind - Lady Hunter / BAB

Copyright © House of Lady Hunter 1998-2009


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:14 pm:
I'm thinking they review flagged mail once a month.

wannabesexpot 50F
4475 posts
11/14/2006 9:27 am

haha.... i believe TakeyourmoneyRUN has allot of goats.... tho they maybe a little errr... shagged... haha!

Wannabe/Sexpot - which one do you want me to be?


MissAnnThrope replies on 11/28/2006 1:15 pm:
The goat has to be pure.

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