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Calculated Risks
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Calculated Risks A number of years ago, I went to the doctor and in a panicked voice, informed him I thought I had a genital wart. I got into the stirrups, he looks and starts laughing. It was a sebaceous cyst. He popped it, showed me the pus, threw some alcohol on it and told me it was nothing. It was a cyst, just like what I have under my arm. That if it came back, (which it did, three days later,) that I could just pop it myself. I told him he was insane if he thought I was doing it myself. Which made him laugh harder. Then I got a lesson, complete with pictures of what genital warts look like. I felt like a complete moron. Why am I telling you this? About a week ago, someone no one is too fond of for his behavior came into one of the rooms I frequent to scream that someone in there had given him genital warts. What an evil woman she is to not tell him that she had them. Yes, he told everyone who supposedly gave him the warts and he was acting like it was the end of the world. Now, I'm not saying he deserved to get warts, even though they're a low risk form of HPV and don't do much other than look ugly from what I've read. They can be burnt or frozen off, or a cream used. Yes, in 25% of cases, they will come back. More often than not, they go away on their own, instead of becoming larger. However, they pose no real health risk, according to the National Institute of Health. It's another strain of HPV that causes cancer. Different strains of HPV are responsible for all warts. From the ones people get on their hands, to planter's warts to genital warts. But they're all different strains of the same virus. However, my unanswered questions were, didn't he see she had them? It's not like they're invisible. If they were inside her vagina, isn't this a lesson then, that you shouldn't bareback? Did you go to the doctor, or did you find something on your penis and you're blaming someone for that? We should all know that by not having one committed sex partner we take a calculated risk. That there are things such as herpes or warts that condoms won't protect against, as the outbreaks tend not to be in the vagina or on the penis, but on the vulva or around the base of the penis. We know we're taking this risk and trusting our partners to tell us the truth. Now, I don't know about any of you, but I ask questions. I will inspect a man's penis and ask, "What's this?" if something seems out of the ordinary. Such as, I had one partner with discoloration and odd bumps around it caused by a biting him there when he was a . Do you all even know the difference between what an ingrown hair looks like and oh, say a wart or a herpes lesion? However, how many people here really do think they're invincible and their chances of getting an STD are lower than if they met someone in person? Do they not think sleeping around isn't going to increase their chances of picking up something? There was one conversation in another room when someone had her first cold sore in 5 years. No one thought anything of it. I did ask if I could give her a list of men to give bareback blow-jobs to while she was shedding virus, but I was laughed off. *grumble* But it would seem I was the only one who was concerned about the health factors involved. Am I the last person on earth who has never had a cold sore? But does anyone really think about the risks? I have noticed around this site that there really are people who are incredibly ignorant of sexual health risks. Who think they're just making their partner wear a condom to protect against HIV. Then there are the ones who get off on the danger of possibly catching something. Then there are the ones who think they're invincible. They tend to be the ones who scream the loudest. Look, we are all responsible for ourselves here. Give your sex partners the once over. Ask questions like, "what's this?" While I still have that cyst, it's amazing how few have looked right at it and asked that question. I know it's not on the vulva. I know it's on that piece of skin between genitals and thigh. But you're still coming in contact with it. What if it was something contagious and I was some nut-job who was out to infect anyone? Inspect and ask, people. If you don't, then you have no right to scream if you get something. |
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This was a Great Blog...absolute truth! The bottom line is that people can be carriers of things that they never have had a breakout over *yet* and more times than not, they don't even have a clue where they were first exposed to *it*...whatever *it* is...and there are alot of *its* out there! With your permission, I'd like to to pimp this particular blog for you, Anne..you have told it like it is and it would do well for as many people to read this as possible.  Just a little food for thought............. If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you... {=}
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I have never had a cold sore and I don't plan on getting one. One guy was offended when I said fuck no to a kiss when he had a nice juicy one on his lip. The kiss wasn't all I said no to with him either. It amazes me the men that think that they are "safe" just because they've had a vasectomy or are married.  Have tongue, will use it. Repeatedly.
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I will send them to here from there... Love your blog, btw...you always tell it like it is Just a little food for thought............. If you really want to be happy, nobody can stop you... {=}
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9/25/2006 4:01 pm |
I must say I have been one of those fools running around doing the care free sex thing at one point in time, but I've been tested several times while I was in treatment and just before I left and I must say I am very lucky that I didn't catch anything. I think to myself what the hell was I thinking when I came across so many infected people in treatment so now when I read some of these smut posts, thats what I call them, I wonder if people are rerally aware of the things that you can catch its made me germaphobic inna sense and I like my fantasies with my hand or the wife much better than just meeting someone here and diving in. very good post roaming the cyber streets of blogland  
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Quoting DaphneR: "It amazes me the men that think that they are "safe" just because they've had a vasectomy or are married." I agree, I was with one man who didn't realise he had to put the condom on BEFORE penetration to render it safe, and he probably thought it was protection against contraception, or he didn't care, or men where I stupidly didn't insist on him using one, only to have to consider not only whether I then had to take the Morning-After Pill, but whether I might have contracted HIV or an STD, so now I insist, get tested regularly for everything and yes, I have had those dreaded "cauliflower" warts near my anus and have had to have them frozen off after successive treatments, but as you say, apparently about 70% of the sexually-active population carry the HPV virus in this innocuous form anyway, it is just that it doesn't show up as warts in most. But as for things you can catch even with using a condom, that is a worry, surely.. The other thing that bugs me, so to speak, is that men seem to assume that it is safe for you to BJ them without a condom, but unless they are your regular or only partner, they will rarely go down on a woman! I know not all mean like to eat pussy they don't know well, but what, are our pussies less safe or less clean than their cocks?
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9/25/2006 6:22 pm |
My favorite lines No Jimmie no Gimmie No Hat no Party No Glove no Love No Latex no Sex HUGS~~~MANDY Always The Bitch
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9/25/2006 7:19 pm |
It's part of being responsible to think about the what ifs and take meaningful precautions. But for that, you need to be aware of what are real issues (STD and how you can spot and prevent them) and what are not (a cyst, a wart). We are all better off for people like you and Kelli (who I thank for pointing me to your blog) - to alert us and also (as Kelli did in that remarkable blog of hers) how to go about it in a fun and sexy manner. Because indeed we are taking calculated risks, because without taking risks - we'd just say no. And what fun is that?
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9/25/2006 7:38 pm |
I've never had a cold sore in my life. I attribute it to the fact that I won't kiss someone with a cold sore, and I certainly won't give a blowjob unless his equipment has been fully examined! I'm 100% behind you on this one Ann. I've had my STD scare and never again will I just be cautious and not ask questions!! I'd rather say no than not know! Great post! I'm leaving the site end of March. To those who want to keep in touch, see blog for details.
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9/25/2006 7:59 pm |
I get tested regularly only because I had a job once that put me in contact with drug addicts and I handled bodily fluids. So far so good for me. Juicy 
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9/25/2006 9:48 pm |
LOL.....now I am just pretty sure....I have heard it all....LOL...the redneck
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9/26/2006 1:31 am |
"if its not on, its not on" I have never had a cold sore. Blimey !!! Is this kismet ? 
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9/26/2006 5:30 am |
Shame this post is not in the class rooms or halfway houses. Hugs
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9/26/2006 12:34 pm |
Outstanding post and makes you think..... While I haven't ventured out yet into AFFland and had many hookups and many "inspections", this post serves as a reminder to be watchful and to observe that old axiom from "World According to Garp"...no glove no love... and as I told Goddess, I've found someone to add to my watch list Now isn't that special (insert church lady grin here  )irishtongue71
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9/26/2006 12:41 pm |
Hi..intersting name..and a very informative blog..btw, My friend Goddess sent me over..I absolutely agree with you...questions and inspections..I was monogamous for 37 years and have just rejoined the dating scene..and I am very cautious, maybe too cautious..have lost out on a couple dates, because of it,but feel safer..one young lady wanted me to come to her house to blow me..but asking questions and receiving no answers..cfaused a red flag to go up(no pun intended)..so I passed...she has since dropped out of sight..anyway Thanks for the blog...keep up the good work..I'll be back Clint
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fabulous post! you are sooooooooo right! hugz,busty ..just join me on my blog bustybettyboop and still looking for some hot,sexy,creative contestants for my next contest...come join us! need a blog mentor or want to be one? 
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very good post my dear , I am so glad the goddess sent me..I have enjoyed reading the post and the coments....  []   Seduce my mind and my body
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9/26/2006 11:15 pm |
I would like to make a slight clarification. There are two types of HSV (herpes simplex virus). HSV-1 causes cold sores/fever blisters and almost always occures above the waist. The medical term for this HSV virus is 'recurrent herpes labialis'. You cannot get genital warts from this type of infection. HSV-2 or genital herpes, generally occures below the waist. It is NOT usually the cause of cold sores/fever blisters although it can cause them. This is the big bad daddy cause of genital warts. Occasionally you can get them in the throat from oral sex with an infected person. -boydcounty- 
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9/27/2006 5:35 am |
Ive had a fortunate life. The worst Ive ever had was a strained ligament in my doodle and chaffed lips ..As far as I know.
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MISSANN ~ I love your blog, and it's been WAY TOO LONG. [blog GODDESS1946], My Goddess, sent me to you. This was a great post! Thank you very much. / {=} This is my blog - [blog _Safira]. There are many like it, but this one is mine. RECOMMENDED READING: A F F The Only Site For Me
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9/27/2006 11:13 am |
Yes sex can be a risky bussiness. lol I always wear a condom of course that does not protect me from everything but its the most I can do for both of us.I am fortunate to be in good health and have never had a problem. Condoms are good but yes there is still risk.
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one time I have a large 130lb. growth on the end of my penis. It really had me scared for awhile. Turned out it was just my former girlfriend. phew! what a relief!
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MISANN....As usual you are right on target. I remember someone nonchalantly chatting about a cold sore in the chatroom and it grossed me out.If it is who I think it is that to whom you are referring, she should definitely know better especially for her age. It amazes me how ignorant many adults are so imagine the children of those adults. The lack of knowledge hence the inadvertent carelessness of many peoples sexual practices should be a real wake up call to those who are not monogamous.
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