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Is Sex on the Side in Long Distance Relationships Cheating?
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Is Sex on the Side in Long Distance Relationships Cheating? Is it cheating? I think it depends on the situation. If it's sex on the side purely for carnal pleasure, then it's just a more physical form of masturbation, really. If it's more than for just carnal pleasure, then I would definitely call it cheating. With me being in another long distance relationship, I can't be physically with my girlfriend as much as I would like to be. Once I get my own place, that should change a decent amount, but for the time being, we're pretty much SOL. We both are sexual people, and there would be no shortage of sex if this were a local relationship. Unfortunately, that is not the case for us. This situation leaves much to be desired. I still have the intellectual relationship with my girlfriend that I cherish. We have everything that a normal relationship has without the physical aspect to it. However, there is a way to fix the physical contact shortage. The way to fix it would be to have the physical contact outside of the relationship. There'd be nothing more to it besides carnal pleasure. There wouldn't have to be anything more to the sexual relationship besides the sexual contact. If I can't have the sexual contact in my relationship, then I'm not cheating my relationship because it's not going to someone else for pleasure while having the ability to fulfill my desires within the relationship. I'm not cheating the relationship out of anything that it's not already cheating itself out of because of the distance. So if someone's in a long distance relationship, and they have carnal desires that they wish to fulfill outside of the relationship and strictly fulfill the carnal desires, can one consider it cheating? Isn't it, essentially, masturbation with two or more people? If your relationship cheats itself out of certain aspects, then is it still possible for you to cheat the relationship out of it? I don't see how. Of course, this also boils down to how you view sex. Is sex something that should be used within a relationship, or is it something that can be used both with or without feelings for the other person(s)? If it's the former, you're not going to agree with me. If it's the latter, my point of view makes a lot of sense. Maybe I'm just trying to grasp at straws to find out ways to justify my desires, but I don't think so. I have had months to think about this, and I'm quite convinced that I'm onto something. Whether or not I have sex on the side of a long distance relationship, it doesn't change the fact that I'm incapable of having sex with my girlfriend because of the distance. That's just my logic. |
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I define cheating fairly simply. If the other person involved with you doesn't know and wouldn't approve...it's cheating. That's whether it's mental such as cyber or phone sex, outright physical relations, or emotional such as revealing intimate details about yourself and/or sharing feelings. The thing is if you're claiming to be with someone BE WITH THEM. Otherwise be an adult, discuss the complications, and come to a MUTUALLY AGREED UPON solution. She might approve of you seeing someone else AND she gets to see someone else too until you are together again, or it's decided the obstacles are too much to be overcome and you both move on. But honesty is the only approach in my book.
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