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RESPECT : WE all NEED to do Better
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Great to see you back blogging again! Well said!!!! hugssssssssssss V Become a blog watcher sweet_vm
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I've been a member here since 2003. I've been blogging since... I think 2005, maybe? I've watched "blog wars" come and go, along with some wonderful bloggers who just gave up after being the victims of bullying. I generally stay in my little corner of the site and ignore most of what is going on. I do notice, however, that an awful lot of drama has had the same source. That said, I have never seen anything quite so egregious as what happened recently. The whole situation was disgusting, and I still can't quite believe that it went on so long, and with no consequences for the instigator(s). Thank you for taking note, and hopefully putting an end to this behavior, at least in this particular instance. BTW, by now you may realize that there have been several attempts to change "The List". Good luck and remember that you are never going to please everyone with that. 2022... it HAS be better, right?!
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I find the subject matter good, as that you're trying to promote universal respect, but your meme, "Be a real man and respect women", goes against the TOU, [Your Conduct. You further agree not to use the Services to: (a) .., harassing ,..or otherwise objectionable] The meme does not unify, but promotes clear division, contrary to your message. If a man posted a meme stating, "Be a real woman and respect men", you think women would be good with that? I don't.
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 The blogs shouldn't be about numbers on a list. They should be read without the need to leave derogatory words. Respect, in other words. 
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Thank you for being on the side of good, Ana! My featured post this week: Pulling Fantasy Sex Out of My Ass.
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I find the subject matter good, as that you're trying to promote universal respect, but your meme, "Be a real man and respect women", goes against the TOU, [Your Conduct. You further agree not to use the Services to: (a) .., harassing ,..or otherwise objectionable] The meme does not unify, but promotes clear division, contrary to your message. If a man posted a meme stating, "Be a real woman and respect men", you think women would be good with that? I don't. Thank you for adding your thoughts to this conversation on Respect. The reason I chose that meme was because of the large number of men who abused and stalked a member here at the request of a female blogger. Yes, women should respect men too...but the abuse this member suffered through was truly obscene and disgusting. Hence the reason I chose that meme. More women have reported male members causing them no end of grief. Think of how wonderful it would be if all members treated each other with respect. The meme was obviously directed at the men of the site who are treating women with no respect. Have a Great Tues, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart 
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Ana, Here's a thought. I've said this many times before but I'm going to try again. If you like this idea, maybe you can suggest it to Site. We know that the Site will never get rid of the List. They like it there for newbies to see. Also, they want the best blogs to show there ( who THEY consider the best, either by unique responders or responses ) How about we randomly rotate the list with only THOSE blogs? For example... the people that they have on the list right now would stay the same. But every time you re-opened the blog home page, those same names would be in a different random order. This would make no one #1. But the Site would still have THEIR idea of who is best showing on the list. There'd be no reason for harassing, behind the scenes trickery, none of that. Why bother? No one is #1. I really think if they did that it would get rid of most of the negativity that we see here way too often. They already have the capability (coding) to do this. They do that with the three " Some Actively Watched Blogs " pictures on the top off the blog home page. It's a good and fair idea. They're never going to get rid of that list for business purposes and they want the best (their picks) to show there. This lets them have what they want but stops all the negativity in the blogs. Happy Tues. Thank you for this brilliant idea/post. I like your idea for the way the blog list should be handled and I will suggest it to management. I would love to see an end to the negativity but with humans and our emotions like jealousy, we may slow it down, we may ban/delete members but humans being humans, there will always be some negativity in the shadows. It is up to all of Us in how we deal with that. Thank you so much for your great idea, Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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I agree, 100 percent!  Thank you for taking the time to stop by, read and share your feelings. Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Awesome post and very much needed- thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You're welcome Thank you for stopping by and sharing your feelings. I've enjoyed reading your posts on the other blogs that brought light to this situation and helped rectify the problem/issue.Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Spectacular post! I appreciate the time you took to put it together. Classy act on your part and I hope others read this and will be more considerate and respectful to ALL on this site. You put this tangled mess that it out there and explained it perfectly. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you for your very kind words. I really appreciate it very much. I am hoping that the more the blogging world here is clearly heard and listened to that we can defeat the jealousy, abuse, bullying tactics that some bloggers have resorted to. Happy Tues Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Bonjour Anastasia Dans le monde actuel le respect devrait être la plus grande valeur Merci de ci bien le dire ♥ Poton ♥ Bisou ♥ Annie ♥ Hello Anastasia In today's world the respect should be the largest value Thank you tell it well ♥ Kiss ♥ Annie ♥
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Thank you for writing this. Most excellently written.
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Hello My Friends, Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts & opinions. I am stunned at how generous you've all been with your time & hearts. For years I've been saying we have the BEST members here and Our Bloggers are amazing & brilliant. Thank you for proving me right. I am going to work my way from page 1 to this page and reply to all the comments. ( Thanks again ) I will say there were 3 comments that won't be posted but I did email each of those 3 members and explained why. I hope they'll understand. This Blog Post is about Respect & we do not want any negativity towards members . I understand every member is entitled to their opinion but I did say in my post that I was approving posts so members do not write negative things & attack other members. If the 3 members feel very strong about their posts then may I encourage them to add them to their own blog . Happy #WickedWed #PinkForRespect & XXOO, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Ana, I have a question. Seeing that you mentioned the TOU's, I wonder if you could elaborate on them a bit. IF you want. You said... " Your Conduct. You further agree not to use the Services to: (a) upload, post, EMAIL, transmit or otherwise make available any Content that is unlawful, harmful, threatening, abusive, harassing, tortious, defamatory, obscene, libelous, invasive of another's privacy, hateful, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable. " But what if that happens? What do you do about it? IF... person #1 sends a E-mail with content that is against the TOU's, to person #2... ABOUT person #3...... can person #1 send that information (on site) to person #3 ? If so, can it be sent in toto or must some parts be withheld? And which parts, if that's the case? If as you say, against the TOU's type E-mails aren't allowed, just what can be done about it, if no one can see it ? This seems to be a question that many have, but I've never seen a official answer. Happy Wed & Thank you for your post. To the best of my knowledge if you violate the TOU than you are banned for whatever time limit the site feels is appropriate. Continued offenses can and will get you banned for life. I would need to clarify with our legal dept but I believe if you receive an email then it is yours to do with as you see fit. I would encourage you to not share any members phone or address with any other member unless you've been asked to do so by said member. If you believe the email is evidence of guilt on the part of the member or threats, you turn it into the abuse dept. I understand one of the Bloggers here has tried to say it is against the TOU to share her emails ...NO, it is against the TOU to publicize any members real name , photos, address...I do know several members received emails ordering them not to speak to a certain blogger here or defend her, visit her blogs, etc...Those emails are evidence of breaking the TOU and should be handed into the site..keeping the original in your email inbox. I hope this helps but I can talk to Legal and ask them to clarify it for Me. Happy WED, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Hello Katie, Thank you for your post. I am not sure, I will need to ask him, but I do believe Andrew was not aware of the petition until I mentioned it to him and to a friend who removed it. He has been very upset about this situation and in fact in discussions with him regarding the blogger, suggested the word "respect" to me and employees about working on that so members never have to go through such abuse & bullying ever again. The site does have a very forgiving policy towards members and a mea culpa but in this case as I type this, that blogger is not on site as a member. Andrew wants to make sure nothing like this ever happens again. Happy Wed, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Thank you Ana!  This is a much needed post. I agree with you and I'm really pleased that you've written it. We can be a depraved collection of perverts and still treat one another with decency and respect.  I want to pimp your post too. Happy Wed Thank you for stopping in & posting. Without you and all our other fabulous bloggers who brought attention to this post I am not sure where we'd be right now. I do know because of everyone & their caring, Nice came back and the horrible petition was removed. Please feel free to share this post. I would love to see our entire blogging community come together & share their thoughts on Respect & how we can do better.Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Dear Missy, Thank you Darling. Glad to be writing again but only sorry it took the pain of a beloved member to get me here. Thank you for your lovely words. Have an awesome Wed, Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Well said...now if only the one who actually NEEDS to read it...WILL read it. It's sad that some people have to be told to play nice. On a site with so many members...you could still have your "fans" and everyone else could have theirs too...there are more than enough friends for everyone. I never understood why she felt as if you were her friend...you couldn't be anyone else's It's not even high school antics...it's grade school. Great post. Smooches Thank you so much for your post. I hope the members who signed that petition will see it, see how many people cared to stop such bullying and that whatever lies they were told to coerce them into mean behavior will step forward and apologize to Nice and set a new course on being a better member and happier blogger. Thank you for agreeing with me about how Jr High this all seemed to become. We have amazing members here from all over the world..why fight over a top spot or who has more friends ? Why not embrace everyone and be grateful we have a site that we can meet such great people and have fun ? Happy Wed Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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thanks for making rules clearer.... i do have emails that show she did write people an put preasure on them to not view others.. in her cursade against 2 blogs if your interested
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Reference - "I am going to work on having the way blogs are listed on site overhauled. No more games or juggling the numbers or cheating." Good point. But got me thinking. Could this be a reflection of the world we live in. And a result when we create so many different labels, groups, sub groups, sub groups of groups. And so on. An example is education at higher institutions. Here we have standards that everyone has to 'supposedly' follow. But then nope...there is labels & groups and other such things that causes issues. Hence with all the competition. We wonder why people cheat or go around the system. When they see the system doing the same. And the rules can encourage at times. But I say...if you really look around in society. Sometimes in the process of trying to help. We create more sub division. -- Having said that. I did find it interesting that you are taking about being respectful to different people and groups. And so forth. As you have a picture stating “Be A Real Man and Respect Women”. When a more appropriate picture to go with the subject would have been. “Be Respectful to Each Other” or something similar? Just my Opinion. We all have our clicks. So from another prospective. What you are implying is women are more important and deserve respect just because they are women. Men are not. Others are not. And respect is earned... Not given just because of gender or Sex, or so on. That in and of itself go against your premise here. In another post.. or subject... Symbolism has meaning. As much as words do. ---- I like this one.... ‘Be Excellent to Each Other!’ and ‘Party On’....lol But great post. Hope you are having a good weekend. Thank you for finding my blog & commenting on it. The reason I opened my blog with the REAL men respect woman meme is that REAL men do respect women and not abuse them. The blogger who was attacked here on site by a number of male " fans " of another blogger was NOT being respected b y those men..so I chose the meme to reflect that. I have said WE all can do better & We all deserve to be respected. That is why the other images I chose are a reflection of respect for all. I am not into sub divisions or putting people in one group or another. I asked for respect for all. Ignore the bloggers or members you do not like and simply leave them alone. That is all. Pretty simple to understand & follow. WE all have to follow the rules of polite society & this web site and the TOU. How hard is it to just be kind ? Respect everyone's right to exist ? Happy Wed & Thank you, I had an awesome weekend, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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Excellent post. Ana, you are an excellent writer. Thank you Sir. That was a very lovely & generous compliment. I appreciate you taking the time to come read this blog and share your thoughts. Happy Thurs Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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thanks for making rules clearer.... i do have emails that show she did write people an put preasure on them to not view others.. in her cursade against 2 blogs if your interested Happy Thurs. I tried to do my best to make things clearer and was told today that I was right in what I said about those emails. Yes Sir, I would indeed like to see any email evidence that exists so I can turn it all in. I know how difficult this situation must be and I admire your courage in stepping forward. Thank You so much for your Bravery, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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so how do i get those emails into the rite persons hands that will actually read them an do something about it ... i see she was gone one day for another breaking of rules... how many one days does a person get??? You do know an understand what other members are saying about this dont you? how it looks? i do have one question, are you just a blogger or do you work for Affairlook in daily life an employed by the site?
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have you read my blogs ?
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Hi Ana. Very nice post. I LOVE IT. This like this is what Makes this place so interesting. that we have good people all over. NOT all of us are jealous, Bad, Selfish, Self centered or Attention hungry people. Hopefully one day we all will understand the meaning of the blogs. that this is for fun and to meet new friends or lovers. the opportunity is there for us. and that is what it should be about. to bring people together. Everyone is entitled to talk to whoever they want. No one in here should be own. to not disrespect them for choosing who they want to talk to or be friends with. I also hope for the day when Gender Marker is Respected by Others, and that when someone claims or says who they are. No one in here should question their gender marker. or make fun out it. because that is very disrespectful to people that have work and fought hard in life to be who they are. Then to come to a website of this nature, out of places. and be judged, persecuted and bully. I agreed. That Petition was create it with HATE and For Personal Gain. And it was a hard slap on the face for the LGBTQ community. It also hurt a lot of other people that one way or another have relatives going or battling gender disorder. The whole things was just WRONG. And even more appalling to see how some Bloggers where going for it and signing that thing. Just to be on the side of the disturb person that create it. Very painful to see that. But more painful to see how people that were against it were denied of their saying. deleting their comments and blocking them to manipulate the results. everything was just wrong. the whole thing was a SICK joke and nightmare for a lot of us that had to see that each day for almost a whole Month before I was taking down by the site. It was a clear You are not welcome message to the LGBTQ community and especially directed to the Transgender Community. I really hope nothing of that nature will ever happen or be tolerated in here. nothing what so ever. I hope the site will have the right people on place at ALL times to put an stop to those abusers. It is also important to note that the "Petition" was just an small part of it. I personally suffer Of Persecution, Bashing. Bullying, Gossip, Name calling. and Abuse For Over 3 Long Months. She would make her personal posts about me and my gender. Who I was or not was. Why men should not interact with me or like me. Etc etc. Also going to any post random posts of men, that had nothing to do with me. and abruptly start talking about me to them. on post that they had that had nothing to do with gender or me. she was trying to fit her agenda everywhere and however she could. it didn't matter if she was ruin other people posts. She was entitled to do all that. she didn't care. it was all about what she wanted. No one else. And I have to see those nasty comments day after day. for over 3 months. It was equally painful to see how some others will just look to the other way and leave everything at drama. Yes. to them was all drama. But here is the catch Ana. It was drama when I was trying to bring the problem to light. but it was never drama on her post or what she was saying and doing. Because they were sure commenting there agreeing with her or simply commenting on her nasty posts. Then have the nerve to call it drama when someone else would post against it. They were either: Hypocrites. Scare of her. Maybe they like her nasty ways. Maybe they are made same as her. Or Maybe they were scared to not see her very rare few butt pictures of her. If they say something. you know, cause those pics are like gems. you can't find them too often. I Personally think the BEST apology the site could give to all the affected members. will be to removed/suspended the abuser(s). That right there will be the BEST apology. Because it will help others to forget not having to see the abuser(s) each day. And it will send a very STRONG and CLEAR message out there to others. That is what I personally would want or like to see. And I am sure that a lot of the affected members are hoping for that as well. That will be the best vindication and Apology from the site. Ana. I truly love this. I am so so glad that the site is working to patch things up with all members. It is also very comforting to see that the site was NOT approving that Petition or behavior. Things went thru the cracks. that is all. but it was NOT approved by the site itself. Ana. I am also asking for your PERMISSION to Pimp this post with some friends, other bloggers and people that were totally against all that abuse that was going on. I want them to see it. That way they know that all the fighting effort was worth it. Thank you for the post. It was so nice to finally read something like this. there is always light at the end of the tunnel. and there is always good people out there that protects and defend others from the evil or the wrong. I know that first hand. because I got all that in here. I am in DEBT with so so many wonderful bloggers that reach out and gave me a comforting arm around me. so many of them posting against that. talking how bad it was. when no one else was talking about it. Elastic heart, Kzoos, Resident Bitch. Buni, KitKat. Myelin, Pandora, Rich Walker, KtMnDu, Katie Prevar, Countessmelville, Missy. And many others that I don't remember at this minute. those were the ones to QUICKLY POST and were openly against it. I myself posted about as soon as I saw it. yes. right as I saw it. but I did it on my own way because I knew that was very personal to me in many ways. After all was done and over. I saw the kindness of so many wonderful people, that is when I knew there was more fair honest people in here. than the hurtful, bad bullies people. Also note. That a lot of people sign that thing because they don't know what was the motive behind me. they were practically manipulated to do it. and they fail to check the true motives behind it. I don't blame them. they didn't know that they were dealing with an evil sick person. I have no hard feelings against them. some of them have even come over to my blog saying Sorry. and apologizing for it. admitting that they sign it because they didn't know what was going on. that they got talk in to doing it. that the person told them a very different story by private emails. I have proof of that on my blogs. where some has openly say that. Of course, She never told them the true motives behind it. that everything was for personal gain. that it was all her own, selfish, jealous, sick agenda. I will never stop saying Thank you to Everyone who one way or another took the time to speak against the cruelty that was going on. I am in debt with so so many bloggers. that is why I am back. to show them and prove them that their effort was not in vane. that good things are coming out of it. and that I personally will never let them down. I have some good positive surprises coming down their way. to just give me time. and they will see the beautiful things happening even outside from this site. just because of them. They are the ones who deserved all the credit. cause nothing of this would had been possible if they didn't fight it. They stood the ground and didn't moved. tenacious, incorruptible advocates in all this. I will Thank them and remember them til the day I die. Including those bloggers like Terranova and others that even broke ties with her over that. and became strong shoulders of help and comfort to rely on. In a way all that was need it. cause it sure left people's true colors on the open for all to see. Also note that a lot of good bloggers like Terranova (That were her very close friends/supporters before all that happen) and others left. because they couldn't admit being on a site that all that was going. seeing the abuser going on day after day not getting stop. many people were left feeling impotent and they choose to leave the site, because they did not wanted to be a part of the injustice that was going on. thru some other bloggers. I been able to have contact with them outside from here. and are talking to some of them in to coming back to the site. They left after I took time off from here to work on things with out being hurt/abuse every day. I was never running. but they didn't know that. I need it to get out of the fire line in order to concentrate on find the proper channels for help. IN and Outside from here. I am so sorry for the long post. my apologies. but there is so much that I would want people to understand and see. that I have to take the opportunity to do it each day. so that we never forget what happen in here or just sweep it under the rug like nothing. think twice in the future before calling it or leave a drama. sometimes. when someone cries for help. is because something bad is going on. is because something is hurting them. stop to look at it. pay attention. And if you wish to not get involved. then don't do it. but that meas on BOTH sides. Be fair. Hello & Happy Wed. Thank you for taking the time to share your story of the obscene abuse you had to suffer through because you are YOU and you are Popular and so a Target to the other blogger and her abusive male co horts. Your speaking and sharing the truth of what it was like to be you and your gratitude to one and all who stood with you and helped is wonderful. Never apologize for using all your heart & words. You've explained it better then I could. WE Can do better and WE can Never sit back and tolerate such abuse against you or any member ever again. I think even when we re go that blog list there is still going to be jealousy and rage. It is up to all of US to stand up and say NO MORE. Happy Thurs Hugs, Ana6 I done made the devil a deal He made me pretty He made me smart
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