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GUYS Do you really want to know?
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GUYS Do you really want to know?
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1/30/2009 2:44 pm |
Yes. I would like to know why I was rejected. Because if it's something I show in my presence, I show it to everyone I meet. I would definetly try to change whatever it is.
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And to rogelio7g There are many REAL women on this site. You should look for the profiles that seem "realistic". Looking for Silver and Gold Members helps. MOST profiles of women that seem "to good to be true" probably are just that. My advice Don't waste your time contacting women who are only standard members, who have professional looking pictures and their profile reads something like, "I just want to suck your dick". OH if their profile stats do not match their picture that is another sign that their ad is fake. Their stats say that they are 22 - blonde - Althletic - Blue Eyes - And you look at their picture and see that they are probably in their 30's, brown hair and brown eyes and skinny as a rail. Look for the profiles of women who have friends in their network, those who have testimonials, those who post messages on blogs, who chat regularly, those who have albums to share etc... You get the idea. From what I understand.... All those fake ads showing women are actually run by MEN! They put on an ad to get you to go to a pay site and then they receive the commission on your fees. SO... for all you men who think you are conversing with a female, think again - it just may be a 60 years guy with a beer belly. I am a "standard member" who is NOT in any way "sub-standard" OR "fake". I think my pics look GREAT, maybe not professional, but I do have an "eye" and the "talent" for taking artful and imaginative pic's. Please keep in mind that some standard members really are REAL. I do agree with the profile description you describe - it DOES sound fake. Guys, please don't turn away from a woman simply because she is a standard member. Read the profile...email her if you are so inclined. If she doesn't respond it may simply be because you are not her type (ie: no cupid settings match) or that she receives many emails; too many to respond to each and every one. I have an "auto" response that is sent to everyone who emails me and I do try to make time to respond to most - even if it's just a "quick response". I try to select the best comment for the particular situation, but a lot of the time I do send the reason I am not interested....
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I believe four plus one equals an ORGY!!  Oh, I know I shouldn't even be responding to this asinine post but I simply could not help myself (sorry everyone). You epitomize the exact type of "member" Got42DDD is describing in her question! It's no wonder you get no responses from any "real" or otherwise members on this site. Surely you qualify for the old adage "takes all kinds"....
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OH - I started doing something different. When I have viewed different profiles in the past, it seemed to generate a lot of emails from those who I viewed. Guys, when a person views your profile BUT doesn't contact you... There is a usually a reason why they didn't. Especially if the women is a paying member, she can email/wink anytime she wants. If she was interested, she would contact you. Now when I see a guy's profile, and from reading his information, he is clearly not for me (for instance he is married) I block him right away. It has been working wonderfully. No more, "You looked at my profile and I want you too" emails... I wonder, how long can your blocked list be???
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6/1/2008 9:21 pm |
Well, I personally take my time in composing every e-mail I write on this site. I don't copy and paste. So, if if I get a response saying "No thanks", I feel better that at least the person I tried to interact with took the time to read my e-mail. Really, I don't need to know the reason why. If it's something like my age, distance, or some other variable that I have no control over, fine. It makes no difference now that I know. If it's something like "you're not my type" or "you're dick's not big enough" well then it makes a difference, and I would rather not have known. So, for me, I've just accepted that 95% of the female profiles on here are bullshit, and of the 5% that are real, I only interest maybe 1% of those. If I don't get a response, I'm sometimes bothered by it, only because, like I said, I take my damn time composing a personalized e-mail to every woman I contact, and sometimes I feel like "Damn, I at least deserve a response for going through all the trouble." However, I would never continue e-mailing the person after receiving no response. That's just classless. As far as what you said about guys continuing to contact you after you've said no, I've only experienced that once myself. I get contacted by guys ALL THE FRIGGIN' TIME even though my profile says I'm straight. And, almost always, what happens is 1 of 2 variables: 1) I write back and tell them "No thanks, I don't dig guys" in which case I don't hear from them again, or 2) I don't respond, in which case they send me another 2 or 3 e-mails before they quit e-mailing me. So, I can't know what it's like to be a woman in your position, but I find that a quick "No thanks" e-mail curbs the unwanted e-mails. Hope that helps.
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I guess I just don't feel bad using the quick replies because I seem to get a lot of cut-n-paste email messages. It might say something like: I love your beautiful eyes. While I think my eyes are beautiful, none of my pictures shows them, so how would they know? I even got an email that mentioned another woman's name. Figure if they can't write a personal email to me, why should I write one in return.
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Hi and thanks for asking, Speaking for myself Its my personal belief that if a someone writes the typical "Hi Lets Fuck" message he or she deserves what he or she does or doesn't get back, But as a general rule if a person takes the time to read someones profile and write a genuine message I think a simple return response would be considered a common and simple courtesy. And Yes Sending an Auto Response, is no different than a guy sending a canned message neither sex wants one of those messages. I'm esp. fond (insert a tone of sarcasm) of the auto responses like the ones that say if I'm interested I will write back, Duh. Anyway I Wish You The Best Joe
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3/11/2008 4:27 pm |
i would like to know because maybe its something i can fix or change plus i wont be let damn i wonder why
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You are right - if it is put in a way to be helpful then that's always a good thing. For example, one guy was very pushy (meaning multiple emails and winks every day). This went on for quite a while. I told him that he was way too pushy and that he made me ultra nervous because he had stalker qualities. I hope he took my advice and calmed down a little bit when contacting over women.
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6/2/2007 10:28 am |
I would like the courtesy of an answer. Not interested is fine with me, just say so. Love, Light, Laughter, Leave a Legacy, Greg
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Got42DDD, Yes,to all the above, I usually just get a "NO THANKS" message, no explanation, but with a face like mine, I suppose I know the answer why. It is a pity, because I could give a lady so much, that does not depend on looking good.
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3/1/2007 4:28 pm |
my feelings and thoughts are if a person takes the time to write a introduction/interested email, that is constructed with time, effort and outlines the person and why they are interested, then the reply should be explaining the reasons there are no interest. On the other hand if all thats sent is lets fuck, nice tits, great pics, then the reply should either be not interested or no reply at all. thats my take and opinion on this.
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2/20/2007 9:10 pm |
If a lady says that she is simply not interested, that is good enough for me. I know there are plenty of other ladies on this site and off of this site that I can try to get to know. What's more, I never get insulted or offended by a rejection. I know there is a lady or ladies out there for me, I just have to keep looking. Jeff (from Edison, NJ)
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Well,I would say the guy from Queens was not very mature at all. The one thing a mature man knows is, once a woman has made up her mind it's time to move on.
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Joe - We all know why you don't get too many "No Thanks" I am thinking that you get more of a "Hell Yes".
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1/28/2007 5:43 am |
Thats a good question GOT42DDD --- but I do not get too many "No Thanks". Perhaps if the guys got smart and just sent a nice mail to a female/couple/male, what ever you are looking for, perhaps they would at least say hello back to you or give a reason why they are not interested in you. Joseph in NJ
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I have not had anyone get abusive towards me - but then again I have never said, "I don't find you attractive". When I have not given a reason for me not being interested in a person, I continue to receive emails from them. Usually asking me, why not them? So I usually include a reason why, just didn't know if I should. For instance: One guy from Queens has contacted me numerous times. I told him that I was looking for someone from Staten Island. He continued to write me, telling me that he drives - that he travel to me etc... I answered him back and told him that his location was not the only reason. He was 24 years old, which I think is too young for me. He continued to write and explain that he is very mature and that he dates older women all the time. He also sent winks every other day and network invites. I finally emailed him and told him that I was not interested, to stop emailing and winking. He still winked everyday. As soon as I would delete it, another one would show up the next day. I finally had to block him. I hope that feature works, we will see LOL So here is a guy that I gave 2 reasons to - and he still won't take no for an answer. Moral of the story... Damned if you do - Damned if you don't!
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Personally, I want to know the reason. Any response is appreciated, but "thanks, but not interested," leaves me wanting to know why. But, from a practical point of view, I can see a lot of guys getting abusive if you say I don't find you attractive.
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And to rogelio7g There are many REAL women on this site. You should look for the profiles that seem "realistic". Looking for Silver and Gold Members helps. MOST profiles of women that seem "to good to be true" probably are just that. My advice Don't waste your time contacting women who are only standard members, who have professional looking pictures and their profile reads something like, "I just want to suck your dick". OH if their profile stats do not match their picture that is another sign that their ad is fake. Their stats say that they are 22 - blonde - Althletic - Blue Eyes - And you look at their picture and see that they are probably in their 30's, brown hair and brown eyes and skinny as a rail. Look for the profiles of women who have friends in their network, those who have testimonials, those who post messages on blogs, who chat regularly, those who have albums to share etc... You get the idea. From what I understand.... All those fake ads showing women are actually run by MEN! They put on an ad to get you to go to a pay site and then they receive the commission on your fees. SO... for all you men who think you are conversing with a female, think again - it just may be a 60 years guy with a beer belly.
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I APPRECIATE the responses I have received so far. I have been toying with this problem for some time now. I usually send a "Thank you for the email but..." I try to include the reason for the decline. Now that is my response for emails, however winks are another story. I receive too many and can not possibly answer all of those. If a person is totally the opposite than my cupid settings then I would probably just delete their wink. For instance: a 70 year couple in California - I would just delete them, if they didn't take the time to read my profile to know what I am looking for, then I am not taking the time to answer their wink.
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1/24/2007 5:36 am |
I don't get offended if no reason is given, but knowing would be great...It would let me know what women do or don't like about me.
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First, ANY response is wonderful. You have no idea of how many just flat out do ne respond. So a big yes to No Thanks. And if you were to include a reason, I know I would like to hear it. In other words, somethihing is better than nothing. Also, on the topic ... people here should all be adults, so rejection is a fact of life. I know it doesn't bruise my ego to be rejected. At least I tried and if the other doesn't want to go farther, so be it.
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