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A Sympathetic Ear In An Unlikely Source
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A Sympathetic Ear In An Unlikely Source A Sympathetic Ear In An Unlikely Source My dear GF Lulu recently asked in a post about past lovers popping back into our lives at strange times, generally their own convenience. Yes, I may not be posting or commenting much but I do still read lots of blogs. Not long after that post I found an old message on FB from a woman in B-ham, AL. I didn’t know her. The message was dated back in October of last year. I hadn’t seen it because it automatically went to a<b> spam </font></b>type thing that I just happened to be cleaning out. It was a plea from this woman to contact her in regards to my Ex-hubby, MM. She was concerned she was losing her mind or over reacting; a common worry when having regular dealings with MM. In the message she gave her phone # so I answered her in a message there on FB and also sent her a text message. I apologized for not finding the message sooner and told her I’d be happy to talk to her but that I had very little to do with him anymore. I was very tactful about it and tried not to be overly harsh. She texted me back immediately saying she still would really appreciate my input, that she was no longer seeing him but still reeling from the roller coaster ride he put her through. She needed to charge her phone but would call me in an hour. The Viking didn’t think I should get involved but I felt like it was wrong of my not to offer what support I could. It sounded like she had been through the ringer with him and I know all too well how hard that is to recover from. Talking to someone else who has been through a similar ordeal is always helpful. She called as she said she would and proceeded to describe all of the fucked up things I went through with him. Apparently, he hadn’t been able to change at all. I felt really bad for her but at least she was smart enough not to get so involved with him that it was impossible to get free. We talked for probably an hour and exchanged several other messages. She seems like a really great woman and I hate that she had to go through that. It was truly surreal talking to her about the things he was still doing. It was refreshing that neither of us felt the need to bad mouth him. We were both just hurt by the things he did and the way he reacted to getting caught in his own lies and deceit. I was really sad to hear that he wasn’t making any of the changes he claimed to be making. He has 3 beautiful girls that are going to be negatively impacted by his bad choices and terrible role model of how to treat women. So now I’m made a new friend through the heartbreak actions of my ex. She’s a lover too. Turns out she & I have lots in common, which really wasn’t surprising that he would pick someone like her. What really did shock me is what she told me about how he talked and bragged about me constantly to her and other women of his that she talked to. She says he talks about me like I was the love of his life and shared so much in common with him but life tore us apart. I told her that was really sad to me because he treated me like shit and I certainly didn’t feel that way about him. Strange the totally different perspective we can have on the same relationship. I feel sorry for him because I know he’ll never find this kind of fulfillment, joy and happiness when he can’t even be honest with himself. Talking to her and reliving some of that time made me realize how far I’ve come. I know I wouldn’t be here if I hadn’t been through that and learned what I needed to. It really made me grateful for the healthy, beautiful love that I share with my Viking. I really feel blessed to have found and built a solid loving relationship build on honesty, respect, acceptance and trust. Life is good for us. In fact it’s great and getting better. Kisses, LA    |
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Happy for you. Kisses
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Happy for you love!  Thoughts from the Garden...
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You never know when you will come across a kindred spirit or someone that you have lots in common with. Sounds to me like MM went out and found someone like you.
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